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Back from Hospital And Fert Report
So things are not looking good on the embryo front. Of the 4 eggs 3 were mature, 1 fertilized normally, 1 fertilized abnormally and was disgarded, and 1 the embryologist can't tell if it fertilized or not and will watch it till tomorrow. I know everyone says it only takes 1 but I am totally hopeless right now. It is obvious now that my eggs are complete crap. Usually my RE only does 5 day transfers, but I don't know if he will want to transfer my 1 earlier than that.
I think the hardest part for me is that DH doesn't seem at all affected by this. I know he copes with things by joking around, but he doesn't seem sad at all. He just seems annoyed that I can't stop crying. He keeps asking if there is anything he can do and I say no but really the only thing I want him to do is cry with me. I want to know that he is sad too. I am trying really hard not to pick a fight with him just so I can see a reaction of some sort.
As for the hospital stuff, I am feeling much better today. I am home and resting with lots of Tylenol 3. I should get another call tomorrow about whether or not the one egg fertilizes.
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Re: Back from Hospital And Fert Report
I'm so sorry, that is a very discouraging fert report
Men just don't get it sometimes and I know it's hard not to pick a fight, so good luck on that front.
Again, so sorry!!
((HUGS))
it is hard to have hope but i've seen lots of ladies with only 1 to transfer go on to have very cute babies on SaIF.
praying hard you have a little fighter (or 2) growing and dividing
more ((HUGS)) and some Patty the Peguin Power Vibes!
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)
It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~
Me= 37 and DH = 41
Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)
IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN
IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.
IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132. Lil is here!
TTC#2: Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.
IVF #4: BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #5: MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN
IVF #6: (New RE): Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN
FET#1: BFN
100% ALL OF THIS EXACTLY!!
HUGE Hugs to you Hun
I'm so sorry hun.
TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs
HUGE HUGE HUGS !!!!!
I am so sorry that your fert report wasn't more encouraging, but it does only take one. Even fantastic cycles end up BFN, and crappy cycles with a BFP. I am hoping this is one difficult, stressful cycle that has a happy, joyful ending for you.
My husband is the same way when we cycle, he really refuses to give up hope, and it's very difficult for me, but I also have to let him cope in his own way. Your husband is still very concerned and it is good that he acknowledges that you are upset by all this. I think knowing so much about cycling makes it so much harder for us.
I am glad you're home and doing better, and I have everything crossed that your extra egg fertilizes and you have healthy embies to take home with you.
huge Hugs!!!!!!!! It's all so hard, and I know the men can't deal at all...they cope differently than we do.
I hope u have a fighter, and u can join the "it only takes one" club.
I'm sorry you didn't get better news. I really hope your little rockstar continues to grow and thrive!
I had (and still have) similar issues with MH. His thinking is that as long as we're doing what the RE says, then there's nothing to worry about. I've tried multiple times to show him how wrong he is, but he's clueless. lol. I guess guys just process stuff differently. I hope it gets better soon.
beta#1 3/21 (14dp3dt)=413, beta#2 3/23 (16dp3dt)=785, u/s 4/11
EDD 11/25/12
**SAIFW**
I'm so sorry! I really hope your one is a fighter and hangs in there!
Hugs ((hugs))!
::hugs:: I am so sorry. I hope you are feeling better and sending tons of vibes for another growing embie.
For what its worth my brother is the same way. When they were dx with azoo, he would joke about it, still does and it killed my SIL. But that is how he deals with pain. Humor.
Thinking of you.
TTC #2 since June '08
~*DD 10.21.07*~
dx unexplained
IUI #1-4 BFN
IVF#1 June 2011 BFN
IVF#2 Dec 2011
Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634
EDD 8/25
*PAIFW/SAIFW*
Moving forward with Adoption 2017!
IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer
Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
**P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**
TTC since 2007
6 IUIs, 3 IVFs, and 2 m/c :< PCOS, Blood Clotting Disorder & MFI
IVF #2 Aug 2011 is a BFN:<
IVF #3 March 2012 is a BFN
Not sure what to do now. Sad and lost.
C/P- at 6 weeks
5 IUI's= BFN
Dx: Endo stage 1 : evevated FSH (11.3)
IVF#1: 3dt 2 8 cell, grade 1 embyos :bfn
*(P)SAIFW*
~A lotus springs from mud~ Chinese proverb
Silly boys- don't they know that all we want is for them to show their feelings now and again? I bet he's upset too, but the eternal optimist and is focusing on trying to make you feel better too. MH is like that as well.
I hope you get good news about your 'maybe' fertilized egg-
Glad you are feeling better pain wise.
i'm so sorry hon. hang in there and sending tons of good vibes to your embies.
my H is the same way and bottles up all his emotions and show them by teasing me, etc. After my last m/c I just wanted him to sit and cry with me and be sad, but he wouldn't and poss couldn't. All of this is so hard and I have to tell myself that we just handle it diff. Cry as much as you need to to us. huge ((hugs))
~Lauren~
**SAIF always welcome.**
After 2+ years, 3 losses, 3 surgeries, 2 IVFs and 1 FET our little girl is here.
my read shelf:
Read in 2011: 56/55
Read in 2012: 31/30
Read in 2013: 1/25
TTC since October 2007
Dx with Unexplained IF
IUI #1-3 w/clomid: Jan-March 2010...BFN
IUI #4 w/injectables: April 2010...BFP
1st u/s: 5/17-one little perfect hb@7w2d, 2nd u/s: 6/5-no hb@10w;
missed miscarriage: 6/10 d&c
IUI #5-7 w/injectables: Sept 2010-Jan 2011...BFFN
IVF #1: Feb/March 2011...pretty please let this work!!!!
Expecting twin boys!!!!!
Forever our's October 17th 2012
Callan George and Bennett Charles born and died 11/7/10
FET #1 April 2011= BFN
FET #2 July 2011= no transfer because my lining sucked
FET #3 February 2012= BFP! 1st beta 9dp5dt=314 2nd beta 11dp5dt=977 1st U/S 3/20 Twins- Heart rates of 111 and 138
Living After Losing
I am so sorry, sweetie. I hope your fertilized embie is a rockstar.
I know how you feel about how differently the Hs react than we do. It is so frustrating...
TTC since March 2009 // Me and DH - 28
Testing Summer/Fall 2010 - Unexplained IF
IUIs #1-4 ~ Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
IUI #5 ~ Femara/Ovidrel/TI/IUI ~ BFN
IUIs #6-9 ~ Research Study Meds/Pregnyl/TI/IUI ~ all BFNs
IVF Consultation, More Testing
Diagnostic Cycle ~ Mucinex/Progesterone/TI ~ BFN
IVF #1 ~ Menopur/Bravelle/Ganirelix/Novarel/Progesterone/Lupron
7R, 6F // 2 transferred // 3 frosties ~ BFN
FET #1 ~ Estrace/PIO/Lupron
3 thawed // 2 transferred // 1 lost // no more frosties ~ BFP!!
Beta #1 - 456 // Beta #2 - 1176 // Beta #3 - 2933 // Beta #4 - 6753
EDD: May 16, 2013
Bedrest for SCH // 6w2d through 10w1d
Elevated TSH and Lazy Thyroid DX @ 10w - Started Synthroid
Finally released from RE at 13w
~~ My IF Blog ~~
I'm sorry. I have been there with the disappointing fert report and it is awful. ((Hugs)) I also have a hard time when DH doesn't seem to be nearly as upset by bad IF news as I am. I think he just deals with things differently. He has such a hard time dealing with me being upset that I sometimes try to shelter him from it a little bit. I save my biggest crying fits for my mom and BFF.
It does only take one! I have seen it happen more than once on this board.
Dx PCOS 2003/high fasting insulin/clotting issues DH Dx with low sperm count, motility and morphology. Varicocele repair (11/1/2010)
2/2011 - Confirmed no improvement - On to Donor Sperm
4 failed IUIs in 2010
IUI#5 and 6- with DS, BFN
Final IUI - Lucky #7! IUI with DS - 20.Jun.2011 - 21.5 mil motile! Not so lucky - BFFN and the end of our IF journey....
Waiting for our family to be complete through Adoption - May 2012 - Hoping our baby finds us soon!
I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sending lots of vibes to your one embie and hoping for the second. If you are transferring 2 and you only have 2, I wouldn't think it would make sense to do a 5dt.
As for your DH, sometimes they just don't know what to do. Men want to act - they see us upset and want to do something to make it better. If he asks what he can do, just tell him to sit with you and hug you. Maybe ask him directly how he's feeling about things. My DH has a hard time showing emotion, but if I directly ask him how he feels and tell him calmly it's important to me to know how he feels, I've made progress at getting him to open up.
((HUGS))
Early loss 10/08
Lap 1/09
IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
2 frosties but don't know what's next
FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
I'm so sorry you didnt get better news! I'm with everyone else that it really does only take one! DrVWife is also pregnant from one. Sending tons of vibes to your little rockstar!!!
Huge huge hugs!!
I know it's frustrating, but stay positive for your fighter!
If this doesn't bring your BFP, I'm sure your RE will make a big change for the next cycle.
Good luck!!
Wedding Fall 2007 Off OCP's since 9/08-started with BBT charts Saw Ob/gyn May 2009 Blood work normal except single copy of MTHFR Clomid 50mg May 2009 Clomid 50mg + IUI June 2009 Femara 5mg + IUI July 2009 Normal HSG July 2009 Femara 5mg + ovidrel+IUI August 2009 Femara 5mg +ovidrel + IUI September 2009 November 2009-normal lap December 2009-met with RE December/January-Injectible med cycle with IUI-Abnormal sperm morpology found-only 0-1% normal All Head defects. Jan/Feb 2010 1st IVF with ICSI-5 week chemical pregnancy
Feb 2010-male infertility doc says DH's anatomy and blood work are normal so nothing he can do. 
FET July 2010-BFP! Twin m/c @ 5.5 wks 
Dec/Jan 2011 IVF #2 Only 4 eggs retrieved-Ganirelix dose messed up BFFN
Feb/March 2011 IVF #3 ER 3/9 9 eggs, 7 fertilized, ET 3/14, No frosties. BFN
IVF #4 ER 8/22 9R,7F ET 8/25-3 embies, 1 frostie! Beta 9/2= 54, 9/6=274, 9/8=625, 9/12=2953, 9/16 greater than 10,000. B/G TWINS born April 2012 @ 36wks & 1 day!
July 2014-going back for the frozen embryo! ET 7/28, heartbeat seen at 6wks1day with SCH. Miscarriage confirmed at 6wks4days
I am so sorry.. I am sending lots of T&Ps your way and hoping your 1 or 2 are rockstars! He probably thinks he needs to be strong for you...little do men (or women sometimes) know!
TTC#1 since 2004
LGBT
4 cycles @ home with known donor - BFN
RE un-medicated IUI cycles # 1-7= BFN
NEW RE Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/ IUI #8 BFN
Took long break
Nov 2009 - Clomid 50mg/ Ovidrel/IUI #9 = BFP
Beta 12/4 - 10...Beta #2 12/7- 28 Beta #3 12/9 - 80!
1st sonogram 12/28 - slow hb and growth
m/c 1/1/2010 Courtland 8w0d
Nov 2010 cycle cancelled - polyp removal/hysteroscopy
April 4 2011 - IUI #10 BFFN
July 5, 2011 - #11 BFFN AMH .62 Boo
This!
I'm sorry you feel so discouraged ... But you are still in the game! You have one embie growing and possibly two. If I was your RE I wouldn't wait until day 5. I would transfer them sooner because they want to be back inside their mommy, so why wait?!?
:::hugs:::
Tara & Dave - TTC since September 2006
PCOS - dx 1999 (amenorrhea) | freakishly long fallopian tubes
Hypoglycemic | thyroid issues | severely anemic
Multiple Clomid cycles of 50, 100, 150 - absolutely no response
Follistim 50/100 | Follistim 75/125 | Follistim 100/150 IUI - all BFNs
Converted IVF - BFP - m/c | FET - BFN | IVF #2 = BFN
IVF #3
(((hugs))) Oh honey...I'm so sorry for all you have been through with this cycle. Like Worms said, there are so many ladies I can think of who only had 1 embie and that was their baby. You're not out of the game. Stay strong and positive. Sending all my T + P and crossing everything that can be crossed for you.
My DH is a joker, too. It always seems like he doesn;t care but when I end up yelling at him he says he is just trying to be strong for me. He says we both can't go crazy
TTC since 12/06, PCOS w/ Endo & MFI - 3 Laps - 3 IVF's - 1 FET - 1 ectopic - 1 c/p - gearing up for IVF#4
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