Can I....

FirstBabyMomma

...host a diaper shower for my sister's third baby?

I lurk here a lot and know the general feelings on both diaper raffles/showers/requesting specific gifts, and on showers for non-first babies.

But my sister is so awesome, and her kids are so great, and she hosted such a great shower for me that I would like to do something in return. I don't think anyone we know would really sideeye a diaper shower for her, but be honest- if someone awesome you knew was having a third kid and you were invited to a diaper shower for them, would you think it was tacky?

 

 

tlxh7

I think it's fine if you invite only really close friends and family - not all of your random cousins that you only see for showers or weddings.  I would only go to one if it was someone I was close to and was going to get a gift for her anyway.

Kdonn15

I would go, but that's because I'm probably one of the few people I know who actually likes going to baby showers.  I don't know what your family/friends circle is like, but I think hosting a Meet the Baby party for your sister would be more acceptable.

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If I got invited to one for someone that was not a family member (i.e. my sister or SIL) or a very, very close friend, I'd think it was tacky. Otherwise, I love buying baby gifts for my sisters and super close friends. I think it's sweet of you to host something for her!

RoxyLynn

FirstBabyMomma:

But my sister is so awesome, and her kids are so great, and she hosted such a great shower for me that I would like to do something in return.

What a blessing to have such a great sister!

There are many ways to celebrate her - and her baby - without a shower.  How about hosting a  no-gifts tea or luncheon?  Or hosting a little party after the baby is born?  Even though it's not your sister's idea to have a shower, she's the one who will be thought of as tacky if there is one.

laurakaz13

I can't get past it.  I still think showers for subsequent babies are tacky.  I guess a diaper shower for just close, close family or friends would be okay.  But still....why can't you just have a nice brunch for her?

FirstBabyMomma

I totally posted and ran, but thank you for your opinions. I should have added that in our family we never do showers before the baby arrives (we used to, but someone had a baby die at birth) so this would be a meet-the-baby party in a way.

I do like the idea of a brunch though. I just thought of a diaper shower because she made me a giant diaper cake and it was so great to not have to buy diapers for like, a month! 

Thanks again! If anyone else wants to weigh in, I'm happy to hear it.

Corts

I think it's nice you want to do something to help her out. Probably best to keep it smaller though and make sure you have food. If anyone is that pissy about going to a 2nd or 3rd shower then they can just keep their miserable behinds home . I'm sure she would appreciate the gesture and the diapers.

rhubarb123

I would probably not go to someone's third shower.  If she were a good friend I would get her a gift once the baby is born since I do that even if I've gone to a shower.  If you want to do something nice for your sister why don't you make her a diaper cake.

rubber_chicken

if this is a meet the baby thing, then yes, i think it's acceptable to have a diaper shower.  the reality is, most people will want to bring something anyway, so letting people know that diapers are whats most needed is fine.