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AHHHHHH!!!!

Seriously, this IVF BS just keeps getting worse and worse.

I guess I've used up all of my IVF benefits for this year already.  I know our benefits only cover 4 retreivals, and that's what I was focusing on and unfortunately I really had my heart set on one and done. Next IVF is going to cost over $10,000.

The benefits coordinator kept asking if "that's ok?"  No, biitch.  That's not ok.  It's not ok that some stupid little girl that doesn't want children gets KU no problem, but I've got my shiit together and it costs me thousand and thousands of dollars.

I think I'm gonna go throw up then cry in a corner for the rest of the day.

Screw you, IF.

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Trying to Conceive since 10/2008
Unexplain IF

2010: 4 IUI's + injectibles, 1 M/C

2011: IVF #1 = BFN, IVF #2 = BFP! 2 embies implanted.

Beta #1 at 9DP5DT = 253, Beta #2 at 12DP5DT = 875!!, First ultrasound, May 5 - Triplets?! A set of identical twins and a tagalong

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  • I'm sorry Glow :(  You are so right, IF is not ok. 

    Diagnosed PCOS 2/07, TTC #1 since 8/09
    11/10 - Clomid Round 1 = BFN
    12/10 - Clomid Round 2 = BFN
    1/11 - Voluntary Break = BFN (duh)
    2/11 - Clomid Round 3 = BFN
    3/11 - Femara + IUI = BFP * Beta#1=56 * Beta#2=266
    *Cautiously expecting baby girls on November 28, 2011*
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  • I'm so sorry, hon.  I am an OOP IVFer so I can understand your frustration.  I think this all the time.  If I had not waited until I had a job, a husband and the stability to raise I child, I could have probably had one without a problem.  Now that all my ducks are in a row, I am spending thousands and thousands of dollars just to have a chance.  The thing is if I knew this all would work out, it wouldn't be so hard.  If someone could tell me that my third IVF would get me my beautiful baby, then it would all be worth it.  ((HUGE HUGS))  I hope things work out for you, hon.  Good luck with this cycle!!

    Just a question.  So your insurance covers upto 4 retrievals but has a maximum annual limit?  So, to have your IVFs covered you would have to space them out over four years? 

     

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    Me= 37 and DH = 41 

    Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)

    IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN

    IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.

    IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132.  Lil is here!

    TTC#2:  Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.

    IVF #4:  BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

    FET#1:  BFN

  • ::holds glows hair:: I'm sorry honey. Big ((hugs))

    IF sucks big time!! I'll never understand how teenagers can have babies so easily but we can't.

     

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    TTC Since 2/2009
    2/2010 - 5/2010 Testing with OBGYN
    8/2010 First RE Appointment
    11/2010 Second Opinion RE Appointment
    12/2010 Clomid + IUI #1 = BFN
    1/2011 Clomid + IUI #2 = BFN
    2/2011 Clomid + IUI #3 = BFN
    5/2011 IVF #1, ET 6/2, Beta 6/15 = BFN
    8/2011 FET ET 9/12 = BFN :0(
    On a break to save money.
    1/2012 IVF #2 ER 1/12, ET 1/15, Beta 1/27 = BFFN
    4/2012 FET ET ??/?? =
    p/saif welcome
  • Oh no, sweetie.  I'm so sorry.  IF is the biggest b1tch of them all.

    Huge ((((hugs))))

    IVF #3 brought us our miracle twins born 11/22/11!,

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    Je t'aime, je t'aimais et je t'aimerai

    p/saif always welcome

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  • Boooooo!! If is the suckiest suck ever. I am so sorry Glow.



  • IF sucks and no, Lame-o Nurse- none of it is ok.

    So sorry. ((hugs))

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  • Awww, I'm sorry.  IF sucks big time!!!!  I know exactly how you feel with having to spend thousands of dollars to try to get KU and having to worry it may not work but anyone else even thinks about getting KU they do w/o any issues!  Totally not fair!!!
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    TTC #2 Since February 2008

    Me: 31, DH: 30

    DH diagnosed with MFI, Me - All tests came back ok
    September 2010 - IUI #1 with Clomid = BFN
    October 2010 - Break due to cyst = BFN
    November 2010 - IUI #2 w/Femara + Menapur + Trigger = BFN
    Saving for IVF! Hopefully IVF #1 in 2012.
  • Im sorry!!  I hate when they ask you to pay $10,000 like it is $5 and then they don't understand why we are freaked out.  My RE just could not understand why we couldn't do IVF.  I told her "because.I.don't.have.$10,000 falling out of my butt!"

    UGH!  IF can go to HE.doublehockeysticks!!!

  • I'm so sorry!
    TTC #1 12.2009 BFP #1 7.2.2011 Baby Girl 3.17.2012
    Cycle 11 - Clomid 100mg + Follistim + hCg trigger + IUI= BFP!
    Beta/P4 #1(13dpo): 94.5/47, Beta/P4 #2 (17dpo): 625/19.5, Beta/P4 #3 (19dpo): 1285/18.2
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  • I'm so sorry Glow!     It really is crazy when you think about how insurance doesn't cover a lot of these treatments.        It is a medical issue - so IMO it should be covered.       Good luck to you!
    TTC since 1/10
    dx with PCOS 1/11
    1/11 Started Clomid 100mg but stopped treatment due to testing for another problem
    2/11 Clomid 150mg/Ovidrel/Progesterone Suppliments = BFP!
    Had my beautiful baby girl November 10, 2011

    BFP w/Baby #2 October 2012 Due Date June 15th 2012
  • IF does blow. This is why we will never be able to do IVF...that is unless $10K + does fall out of our butt!
    TTC since June 2009
    DX: MFI June 2010 & DOR Sept 2011
    Various forms of medicated cycles since June 2010
    IVF #1 tentatively scheduled for 2013
    Doing acupuncture and focus on weight loss in the meantime



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  • Glow, sweetie, im so sorry. You are right, IF is not fair and its not right. I will continue to pray for you. *big big hugs*
    TTC #1 with PCOS since 1/10

    6/10-10/10 Clomid 100&150mg~ cancelled,no response,Provera

    11/10 Gonal F+Lupron trigger- OHSS,coast,trigger,no O,Provera

    Lap 12/28/10- Polyps and Endo removed

    April 11 IVF #1~ <3twins<3= m/c 5w3d D&C 5/20

    June 11 IVF #2~ m/c 6w1d D&C 9/1

    2 copies of MTHFR found: C677T & A1298C

    Jan 12- 2000mgs Metformin

    May 12 IVF #3- Lupron 5/29,Stims 6/8,ER 6/17-25R, 20M, 16F w/ICSI,3 snowbabies, ET 6/22 of one 5AA blast, Beta #1- 62, Beta #2- 98.6, Beta #3- 196. Please let this be our sticky take home baby

    **Praying 3rd time's the charm!!**



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  • I totally understand your frustration.. It does suck.. My insurance doesnt even cover anything for IF problems..   Dont these benefit coordinators understand $10,000 and beyond is really really expensive... some people..  I am so sorry {{ hugs}} 
  • Oh Glow I'm so sorry. IF does suck the big one! You should have told her that if she asked if 10 G's was ok one more time then you would ask her to pay for it and if that would be OK. I have had several "it's so not fair" moments these last few days and I'll just never understand. ((hugs hugs))
    TTC #1 since Oct 09 Dx w/Anovulation

    Cycle #7: 1/10/11 = Surprise BFP after 3rd failed treatment cycle!!!    2/24: m m/c @ 10w0d

    4/11: Natural Cycle = BFP!!
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  • Ugh, I'm so sorry Glow. ((big hugs))

    When does your new "year" for IVF benefits start over again? I'm guessing it's not a calendar year. Maybe if the new year starts soon you could wait to do another cycle, that way it wouldn't be OOP for you. 

  • I'm so sorry Glow:(  IF is stressful enough, but to add the strain of financial burden is so unfair.  ((Hugs))
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    TTC since Sept. 2009, but have not taken BCP's for the past 8 years.

    PCOS/Anovulation/MTHFR/Dermoid removed from left ovary 2009/Left Hydrosalpinx. DH S/A=normal per RE.

    Sept. 2009-June 2010=Clomid + TI=BFN...1 BFP=C/P

    July 2010=1st RE appt.; Clomid 150mg & Metformin ER + IUI=BFN

    Aug. 2010=Femera 5mg & Metformin ER + TI=BFN.

    Sept./Oct. 2010=Follistim & Meformin ER + IUI=BFN

    Nov/Dec. 2010=IVF; 12/17=ER 18; 15 fertilized; 12/22=ET 2 blast; 8 frosties; + hpt on 12/29; M/C

    April 2011=FET; 4/12=ET; + on hpt 4/16; Beta 13dpo=61; 18dpo=424; 25dpo=6876; 5/11=1st u/s w/hb @ 135bpm
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    Ugh, I'm so sorry Glow. ((big hugs))

    When does your new "year" for IVF benefits start over again? I'm guessing it's not a calendar year. Maybe if the new year starts soon you could wait to do another cycle, that way it wouldn't be OOP for you. 

    Ah, yes.  Benefits will roll over 01/01/2012.  I blew my entire 2011 benefits in one stupid, failed cycle.  Spectacular.

    Thanks for your support, ladies.  The past week would have been absolutely unbearable if it wasn't for you all.  <3

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    Trying to Conceive since 10/2008
    Unexplain IF

    2010: 4 IUI's + injectibles, 1 M/C

    2011: IVF #1 = BFN, IVF #2 = BFP! 2 embies implanted.

    Beta #1 at 9DP5DT = 253, Beta #2 at 12DP5DT = 875!!, First ultrasound, May 5 - Triplets?! A set of identical twins and a tagalong

    Glowconsin Getaway.

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    Ugh, I'm so sorry Glow. ((big hugs))

    When does your new "year" for IVF benefits start over again? I'm guessing it's not a calendar year. Maybe if the new year starts soon you could wait to do another cycle, that way it wouldn't be OOP for you. 

    Ah, yes.  Benefits will roll over 01/01/2012.  I blew my entire 2011 benefits in one stupid, failed cycle.  Spectacular.

    Thanks for your support, ladies.  The past week would have been absolutely unbearable if it wasn't for you all.  <3

    Aw man, I'm so sorry Glow. I didn't realize that. I hope the dr's office has some options for financing. Hang in there. ((hugs))

  • I agree! I have no IVF coverage, so we have to pay 100% OOP if we do IVF. Which is exactly why we haven't done it. We have started saving, but it takes a while to save up that kind of dough. And now our $4000 tax bill isn't helping anything either! UGGHH! I HATE IF!
  • I hate that, Glow. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Isn't it funny that some "kid" can get KU and get on Medicaid, WIC, and Foodstamps to help support her accident and those of us who are financially stable and want a child don't get any help at all?!? How f***ed up is that?

    I hope you are taking care of yourself. I think a trip to the spa is in order. ((hugs)) 

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    **TTC since 04/09, C/P 02/02/10; 4 weeks, 3 days**
    **Dx: Anovulation, Hypothryroidism, Mild Endo, Pituitary Adenoma (prolactin issues), PAI-1, MFI **

    **7/10: Clomid + TI= BFN**
    **3/2/11: 1st RE appointment**
    **DH= Morph= 2%, Motility= 30%**
    **HSG= All clear!!**
    **3/11: Femara + Pregnyl + TI= BFN**
    **5/17/11: Laparoscopy / hysteroscopy = mild endo**
    **7/11: Novarel + IUI #1= BFN (7mil, 75% motility, 2% morph)**
    **8/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #2= BFN (11mil, 35% motility, 1% morph)**
    **11/11: Femara + Novarel + IUI #3= BFN (9mil, 2% morph)**
    **Jan 2012: Follistim (75ius) + IUI #4= CANCELLED due to cyst -put on bcp**
    **Feb 2012: Follistim (75ius) + Novarel + IUI #4.2= BFFN (2.5mil, 13% motility, 1% morph)**
    **Mar 2012: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5= CANCELLED due to 35mm & 14mm cysts**
    **On med break indefinitely...IF Sucks!**

    **Jan 2013: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.2= CANCELLED due to high prolactin level, MRI scheduled, pituitary adenoma found, put on Dostinex**
    **Mar 2013: Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.3= CANCELLED due to uterine polyp, surgery scheduled for polypectomy and D&C**
    **03/22/13: Hysteroscopy, polypectomy and D&C**
    **May 2013: Finally got to start a cycle!!! Follistim (100ius) + IUI #5.4 = BFFN (6mil, 74% motility, 2% morph)** 

    **Jun 2013: Decide to start IVF**
    IVF w/ICSI #1 (Long Lupron Protocol)
    06/26/13: Start BCPs
    07/02/13: HSG #2= all clear
    07/15/13: Start Lupron 10 ius
    07/25/13: Suppression check
    07/28/13: Start stims (225IUs Follistim + 75IUs Menopur) drop to 5 IUs Lupron
    08/01/13: Monitoring: 12 follicles all about 10mm, E2- 313
    08/04/13: Monitoring: 18 follicles (15mm, 13mm, a few 11mm, rest 10mm or below) E2- 1,505
    Start Augmentin- antibiotic prep
    08/06/13: Monitoring: 13 follicles (18mm, 17mm, rest b/w 15mm-16mm!) Ready to trigger!! E2- 2,248
    08/08/13: ER-- 14R, 13M, 10F 
    08/11/13: One fertilized late, we now have 11 embryos!
    08/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Sheldon and Penny) 3AA and 3BB, none to freeze
    8/23/13: BFFN... Sheldon and Penny didn't stick**

    **8/29/13: Follow up... bad fragmentation issues. Changing protocol to Antagonist for round #2 coming soon! Also started on 81mg Aspirin after getting blood panel done and found out I have PAI-1**

    **Oct 2013: After large cysts, finally starting IVF #2**
    IVF w/ICSI #2 (Antagonist Protocol)
    BCPs started back in Sept due to cysts
    10/27/13: Start stims (225 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)
    11/03/13 - 11/05/13: Add Ganirelix to the mix
    11/06/13: 3 follicles at 18mm-- Ready to trigger!
    11/08/13: ER-- 17R, 13M, 8F
    11/13/13: 5dt-- 2 blasts (Luke and Leia) 5AB and 4AB, 1 frostie
    11/20/13- 11/23/13: light positives on FRERs and Wondofos
    11/22/13: BFN per RE office (under HCG of 10)
    11/27/13: CP ::sigh::

    *12/03/13: Follow up...great response and quality this time, was given 50% chance of it working, just didn't stick. Great plan for 2014! 

    **Jan 2014: Last IVF of our SRP**
    IVF w/ICSI, freeze all, then FET
    12/27/13: Start BCPs
    01/19/14: Stims (375 IUs Gonal-F + 75 IUs Menopur)

    Congratulations Cutebride!! --TWINS!! Congratulations, Luvie, on your sweet boy! Congrats, Jess! So happy for you ladies! <3 <3  
    ~~Also best of luck to Kati, illinigal, and youngin!~~

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  • Talk about kicking you while you're down.  I get so bitter that a friend of mine, who doesn't even take care of the children that she has, just had another baby.  IF is so unfair!!!  I'm really sorry!!!
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    11/10 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
    12/10 - Unmedicated cycle due to RE not doing treatments in December = BFN
    1/11 - 100mg Clomid + trigger + IUI + Estradiol + Progesterone = BFN
    2/11 - Same sh!t, different month = IUI cancelled due to no response = BFN
    IVF #1 - Start stims (Follistim) 5/10, add in Ganirelix 5/14
    ER 5/21 - 13 retrieved, 7 mature, 5 fertilized; ET 5/26 - transferred one perfect 1AA blast. 3 snowbabies.
    Beta 6/3 - 15.8; Beta 6/7 - 21.8; Beta 6/10 - 7 :(
    FET - Transferred 1 AA blast 7/11. Beta 7/20 - 311! Beta 7/22 - 784!! First u/s 8/10
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  • I'm sorry... that really sucks - try to hang in there... will wine help?  :- 

    :::hugs:::

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