upset........vent. sorry it's long.

lexa624

So part of this has to deal with my wedding almost 3 years ago. So for my wedding it was only going to be our immediate family, well my FIL talked to his brother that lives out of state and he said that they will be there. So they ended up showing up and my mom was pissed. My sister kept telling me she was going to throw me my bridal shower and everytime I asked her she said that she was busy going snow boarding. So the morning of my wedding my sister came and picked me up and took me to my hair appointment. When we were done we went back to my parents where my mom wouldn't even look at me and made comments that she was upset. So my wedding went on and I tried to introduce my mom to his side of the family and nope she wouldn't.

Anyways so my sister told me she wanted to throw my baby shower for me. Well she has no idea where she is going to have it, what day or anything. She told me she figured she would send out the invitation 2-3 weeks before the party. I asked my mom about it and she said to stop bugging my sister because I am stressing her out. My mom said we could have it at my grandmas who lives about 45 minutes away. I am inviting people from out of town to my shower. I don't expect them to come from out of town and then have to travel all the way out to my grandmas. So I figured I would throw my own shower and the halls around are too expensive and a lot of them are booked because of weddings. So I talked to my MIL and she is planning my baby shower for me. I started crying when I talked to her because they show me more love than my own parents. Maybe I am over reacting on this whole thing. 

actresscye

It sucks when family is like this.  My DH deals with the same thing.  He doesn't get what he needs from his family, they are unsupportive, and don't talk to me at all.  My parents have ultimately been there for him.  He's gone through a lot.  At the end of the day he has to be around and do what makes and keeps him happy.  So he is very close to my family.

Just like I've encouraged him to have a sit down with his family, it sounds like you do too.  There seems to be a lot of built up anger or frustration from your family that you need to work out ... when you are ready and when they are ready.  My DH's family still isn't ready and neither is DH.   Because of that, their involvement with LO is somewhat out of the question right now because they don't want to be.

So if MIL is keeping you sane, than that is where your focus should be.

OctoberCAPA

I'm sure there's a lot more going on than you were able to write, but I just wanted to say I'm sorry.  You should not have to (and shouldn't anyway) feel like you have to throw your own shower.  I'm glad your MIL is stepping up.  Don't let your mom and sister stress you out--it's not worth it!

EMLYNNLERETTE

Nope, not overreacting. My family is the same way.  My sister was my MOH and two weeks later she went on and on about how she didn't even want to come to my wedding because it was too expensive to travel to and I should have instead had my wedding in Michigan (not Texas.)  She tried volunteering to throw me a shower, but thankfully my stop mom already said she would... Whew.  Just be happy you have such a great MIL!