Hi everyone,
Is it acceptable to have a shower when this is your 2nd baby? I'm not sure if this is appropriate or not so I wanted to get some thoughts. Our first baby was a boy and this is a little girl so a shower would be nice but I don't know......
Help??
Re: Shower for 2nd baby?
I really get irritated when people on the bump say it's not appropriate or wrong, or anything bad for that matter more than it is accepted or okay. I have NEVER heard of anyone saying it is inappropriate, other than the bump. Granted you will always have that one person who doesn't have children who makes their opinion and needless to say they are not invited in that case. LOL. If your friends and family typically celebrate with baby showers/partys, why not. If your family or a friend wants to throw you one, why not.It is a gift and a great memory!
Now, I wouldn't be throwing myself one or ask for one.. that's for sure. LOL.
Well of course nobody is going to say that to your face if you are having a second shower. But if a non pregnant with second child friend asked me, I'd tell her the same thing I post here.
Maybe where you live it is considered acceptable or at least in your small circle of friends. But I can tell you that where I grew up in the Northeast not one person would ever consider it acceptable. I now live in North Carolina and have lived in Arizona and California for work, and it was never acceptable there either.
callmecrazy1...why would you get irritated because people on the bump say it is not appropriate or wong to have a second shower? Trust me, it is not only on the bump but in "real life"...people feel this way. If your circle of friends and family always throw second, third, fourth and beyond showers then that is what you are used to and most people attending would most likely be used to it as well. It is not common with my group of friends (in MI or MO) and my family would probably not even come. My sister was thrown a surprise shower for her 2nd by a friend (her first was 6 1/2) and only 3 family members came. Fortunately, my sister lived in a new city and went to a new church so there were still a lot of people there. Let me tell you...the "family" talked about it for a long time. I definitely give the side-eye if I'm invited to a shower for a 2nd time mom unless there are extenuating circumstances - many years (5+) between kids, fire destroyed everything, etc. Different genders is not of the circumstances though.
I do not have an issue with "sprinkles" inviting close friends/family but would prefer to go to a "meet the baby" party.
Here showers aren't usually given for 2nd kids unless there's a huge gap in ages. We also did a shower for someone's 4th- large gap in ages AND it was a surprise baby, so she'd given everything away!
Our church usually does a diaper collection or pools for a gift basket or something for 2nd kids.
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Amen!
In my family and circle of friends we ALWAYS have a shower for a second baby, and third and fourth. (and so on) It is expected and enjoyed. It would be unheard of not to.(expected by the rest of the family, not the mommy-to-be)
No matter what the couple already has they can always use something and with every additional child I think the gifts are even more appreciated. Every baby is a new baby and is special and so we celebrate each one.
I am surprised that lots of people don't like the second shower or feel that it's wrong. I guess we look at it more as gifts for the baby and to celebrate the baby.
I am from Ontario, Canada. (my family is from the East coast of Canada originally) Maybe the area you are in makes a difference.