Freaking out- just found out I am having twins

orange682

I currently have a 3 year old and just found out (like at 8:30 this morning) that I am pregnant with twins. One is signficantly smaller then the other, and I was warned about invisible twin syndrom.   I am petrified about how we will swing it financially not to mention the logistics of it.  How will we get 3 kids out of the house every morning? Not to mention all of the complications that could arise, the health risks, and the fact that I am significantly overweight could make the whole thing that much more high risk.

How did the older one handle it?  How were you able to swing it financially?

I am obviously freaking out and could use some advice.  DH was freaking out too, and since his father jsut passed away and he is under a ton of stress, I can't freak out now to him.  He's already lost it once this morning.  Anyone have any insight to share? 

amanda31H

We all freaked out, it's perfectly normal.

Vanishing twin syndromed can happen, but don't think too much about that- it's not worth the stress as there's nothing you can do to prevent it!  How far along are you though?  The further along you are, the chances it happens slims down considerably.

Swinging it financially- we hadn't planned on two at once either.  We just made it work.  Do a budget (we have one and stick to it), cut back in areas where you can, and you'll make it work.

I'm sorry about DH's father passing away.  His family finding out that you're having twins will bring so much joy!  I think it's really neat that you found out you were having twins so soon after that tragedy.  A colleague and friend of mine passed away from her battle with cancer the day my girls were born.  It was touching to have two new lives enter the world that day for everyone.

Get Dr. Luke's Book "When You're Expecting Twins Triplets....etc" it's a great resource and will explain how this PG will be different than your singleton pregnancy.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!!

SethandMelissa

Join the club We found out at 8 weeks and I go in and out of waves of freaking out. The idea really grows on you though! How far along are you?

orange682

I am 5w1d, which I know is really early, but we're monitored by an RE.  I have another u/s scheduled for Wednesday March 9th.  I was told we should see a heartbeat and will know more then. 

Rangergal9

I totally freaked out as well, not to mention DH wasn't even with me when I found out it was twins!  I am also significantly overweight and my older DD was only 13 months old when we found out!  I had a complication free pregnancy and delivered them via scheduled c/s at 38 weeks 1 day. So you can have a great complication free twin pregnancy.  It was hard taking care of older DD towards the end, but we managed.

Financially, I cried about this issue.  We had to buy a minivan cause we couldn't fit 3 car seats in my Jeep Compass, so we used a chunk of our savings for that down payment.  We freaked about the cost of sending 3 to daycare as it is costing us $775 a week.  I am a teacher and was going to take the rest of the year off (we were going to be financially the same whether I went back to work or not), but found out I needed to go back to ensure I'd have my same position next year.  I go back to work next week and we'll see how getting all 3 out the door goes.  I plan to pack everything the night before and I am thinking things will be okay.

My older DD loves her sisters.  Sometimes she doesn't want us to hold them or feed them, but we just give her as much attention as we can when they are napping or playing on the mat.   Things with her have gone a lot better than I could have imagined.

Honestly the hardest thing in the beginning was just the lack of sleep!  We kept DD in daycare full time and that was the best decision ever.  That way I was able to nap during the day and didn't have to entertain her all day long.  Plus it kept her in her normal routine.

I worried a lot, but in the end everything is working out.  The twins are amazing and so much fun.  While on leave I would go to the mall 1-2x a week and meetup with some other twin moms.  It is now very easy for me to get out of the house with them.  And yes, many times they are both screaming crying and hungry and I just do the best I can!  You'll manage and feel amazing that you are able to balance it all!   

Temp159135562506975

congrats and welcome!

we all freak out - even those of us who knew we had a good chance for twins (like me) it's still something to freak over

you can handle it- there are a ton of us on here with 1+twins and you just make it work- and have support from the women on here.

As for the difference in sizes- it's hard early on b/c every day matters so much.... just remind yourself that TODAY you are pg with those 2 babies and they need your love. 

LoveTravel

Congrats! 

You'll find a lot of helpful information on here.

TwinnyBopper1

Goldie Locks, forgive me for "eaves-dropping" but like the poster, I found out that I am having twins as well. However I am not freaking out per se, but anxious with excitment , then questions the next. Your advice is comforting as simple as it is. This is my first pregnancy and I feel incredibly blessed to have two little beans. I am also nine weeks along, so is it true that the risk of losing one decreases shortly after this time?

 

ougrad1

I still at my three and am amazed.  It's an adjustment for everyone but, you just kind of make it through.  Congrats and GL!

jboricua

congrats on the twins!! and sorry about the loss in your family.... when I found out we was having twins i cried ALOT for like 3 weeks worrying alot about everything how are we going to do this OMG im not going to get no sleep for the next 2 years, 2 crying babies at the same time, double the diapers, double the feedings, let along carrying 2 babies how is my body going to handle this I have a 6 yr and a 4 yr old so my baby days have been done for a while just to think to start  over again WITH TWO!!! its crazy my DH freaked out too but as time went by you realize that its a blessing and you gonnna have to make it work like my aunt said "its like you made the lay away and you have 9 months to pay and get it out" lol.... God doesnt give you no more than you can handle.. everythings going to be fine.. Good Luck with everything and this is the right board for you because theres lots of lovely ladies that been there done that and are willing to give you some helpful advice from a parent of multiples Good Luck