Some sleep advice please

OliveBaby

So DS has been sleeping much better the last few nights (as in 3 hour stretches, which is much improved from his up-every-freakin-45-minutes routine). 

 The problem is that I get up and nurse him and then he won't fall back asleep, no matter what I do. He will start to get a little drowsy but if I even breath differently, his eyes pop wiiide open. Every single time this has happened, I've tried for an hour to get him down, then given up and woken up H. H is able to sooth him right to sleep in 15 minutes or less as long as I'm not in the room.

Anyone got any ideas? 

Moesten

Sounds like Daddy needs to put him back down after you feed him. Seems like an easy, obvious fix to me which means I am probably missing something.

OliveBaby

Moesten:

Sounds like Daddy needs to put him back down after you feed him. Seems like an easy, obvious fix to me which means I am probably missing something.

Heh. Yes, it would be the obvious fix.

I'd like to be able to get him back to sleep w/o waking DH. I've tried everything I can think of. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else went through this and if it's just a phase. 

Moesten

I went through something similar with DD. It was just a matter of time and I am sorry to tell you it took several months. Once she was about 3 or so months old it wasn't as much of a struggle to get her back down but the first few months were torturous. Like with you it took about 45 minutes or so before she would go back to sleep. I spent many nights sitting on her floor exhausted rocking with her. But it did end and she did go to sleep easily after feedings eventually. I can offer you some hope though. From day one baby #2 has gone back down with no trouble. Maybe you'll be as lucky the second time around.

 I think for both your sanity you need DH's help with this. There is no need for you to be up all night and exhausted if he somehow has the gift of putting baby back down. Even if he doesn't have the gift it is everyone's best interest to spread the pain around imo. You shouldn't have to do it by yourself and it gives your H a special parenting thing that is his strength and domain.

Lauren&Joe

I have read that fathers sometimes have an easier time getting the baby to sleep because they don't feed them. (assuming breastfeeding.) I don't know if that's true, but it does seem to work with our DD too. I call DH the baby whisperer. I swear he can put her down in 15 min max everytime and it can take me an hour or more sometimes. Don't have a lot of advice, but I feel your pain.