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How many kids do you want to have?

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I always wanted lots of kids. Like 8, but as I got older I realized you needed money to feed them and clothe them, so I dropped my number to 4.

I hope to have 4, but if we get rich I want more than that!

Married 5/15/10. Me (29). DH (33). BFP#1 7/25/10 - Missed m/c 8wks - D&E 8/25/10 BFP#2 12/25/10 - Missed m/c 7wks - D&E 1/20/11 (second loss due to abnormal chromosome 7) Genetics testings- Normal. RPL panel results- Normal. Elevated FSH (14). DH b/w normal. SA- Normal. HSG- Left tube possibly blocked. Minor septum removed. My Ovulation Chart ~~ Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success. For who so strongly hopes has within him the gift of miracles ~~ image
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  • baloneydiscbaloneydisc member
    DH & I wanted 2, but at this rate we'd be happy with 1. 
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  • PachitaPachita member
    My DH and I also want two....and if we're successful with two and I'm stilll under 37/38 yrs old....I'll MAYBE think about 1 more....but most likely going to stick with 2 if God can bless me with two.

    BFP#1: 7/14/10.  EDD: 3/19/11--MMC-- D&C 9/2/10.
    BFP#2: 12:22/10.EDD: 8/30/11 C/P 12/25/10
    BFP#3: 10/26/11 EDD: 7/2/12-- Daniel born 7/14/12. My rainbow baby!                                                                                                                                           BFP #4:  2.22/15 EDD: 11/4/15 C/P 2/28/15                                                                                                                                                                                      BFP #5:  4/5/15   EDD 12/11/15 (Ectopic Pregnancy)

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  • itsmeginitsmegin
    2 or 3, but I'll take what I can get.
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  • CrazyCurlsCrazyCurls
    If we're both working we'll probably have 2-3.  If we're lucky enough for me to stay home, probably 3-5
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  • h0b0girlh0b0girl member
    2 but at this point I would be ecstatic to have 1!
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  • npilcher506npilcher506
    I wanted 4. I planned to have 3 and adopt 1. Notice all the I's in there. I realize now that I am not in control of all this=)
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  • GaberinosGaberinos
    I want at least 4 or 5 kids. I was practically an only child and I always wanted brothers and sisters.
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  • julesjbjulesjb member

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    DH & I wanted 2, but at this rate we'd be happy with 1. 

     

    Very Much this!!

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  • Laurakat81Laurakat81 member
    5 on earth! I always feel like if I don't specify "on earth" I'm setting myself up for 5 losses! But I also will be happy with just one!

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    BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)

    3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!

    Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500

    First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat

    LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!

    TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015

    Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015

    Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270

    First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.

    JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.

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  • dondraandluisdondraandluis member
    Ha. Wanted 3 but at this point would be happy if get one Sad
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  • TapatioTapatio
    I always wanted a big family. I could easily see myself with 5 or 6 kids! lol My DH has kids from a previous relationship so I will have that big family but it will be blended. Not quite what I had in mind but it's all good in the end. I'm thinking now that I'd like to add 2 kids to our current brood. At the very least I pray to have just one!
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  • mandy6418mandy6418
    I wanted 4 but its down to 2 now. But at this point I'll take 1.
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  • erikaja6erikaja6 member

    My husband and I would love to have two kids.  

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  • Eris-AlexisEris-Alexis
    We would like 2 of our own (DH has a daughter from a previous relationship), but I would be happy with 1 at this point. 
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  • jertiejertie member

    We're hoping for 1.

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  • shoefreak85shoefreak85
    I also want 4 or 5, but I'll be happy with any!
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  • tdmd09tdmd09 member
    Dh wanted between 3-6. I'm okay with 1-3. At this point I just want one NOW, and we'll take it from there.
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  • starrynytstarrynyt member
    I would love to have 3 or 4 kids.


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  • MuffinhbMuffinhb member
    i am a only child so i want at least 2 dh says how ever many i want he is no help!

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  • Deepak&DerekDeepak&Derek member
    I would love to have 2-3 kids depending on how this TTC thing goes over the years.
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  • christineandaaronchristineandaaron member
    we want 2 or 3 kids but anymore i say that as long as i can have 1 i will be happy!
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  • jld1687jld1687 member
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    2 or 3, but I'll take what I can get.
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  • biddy53178biddy53178

    I used to want four- and this is why-

    You can't have only one- then they will have only child syndrome and run the potential of turning into a monster. (plus my mom always told me every woman should have at least two kids- the first one to freak out over every cough, sneeze, funny breath moment and the second one to sit back and enjoy).

    If you have only two then there is no option for you kids, so if they don't get along or like each other, that's it- no one else to be friends with.

    With three there is always one left out- I am a classic middle child- 

    so that leaves me with four- we can't afford 4, and at this point i would be ecstatic with just one take home baby- only child syndrome or not!

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  • crash916crash916 member
    My DH jokes that he wants a baseball team of kids, but at this point I think we will be happy with 1 take home baby. Then we'll see what happens after that.
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  • tigers413tigers413
    I want 3 but if I get 1 take home baby I will be extremely happy with 1.
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  • Fallon621Fallon621
    Well we have DS and of course are trying for another one so 2-3.
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  • CaroleeCarolee member
    2-3, but right now I'll take one!
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  • psumel13psumel13
    Ive always want 5 but financially I think it will be 3 or 4. But I am already blessed with my little guy and would be happy with just him!
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  • EricaK28EricaK28 member
    I am hoping to have 2 or 3 kids.
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  • FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member
    We wanted 2 buy the time I was 35, but it's looking like I'll be lucky to have 1 by the time I'm 34 & don't know about the back to back thing-so I may have to settle for 1.
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  • asltrouble94asltrouble94

    Three

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  • 88eve8888eve88
    I'd like 2 kids so that when I leave this world, I won't leave my child alone.
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  • cfreshygcfreshyg

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    2 or 3, but I'll take what I can get.

    Ditto.  We will be happy with one but I'm crossing fingers that one pregnancy could produce more than 1 baby.:) Wishful thinking.

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  • SheriBTSheriBT member
    Ideally I'd like 3.  We'll see how it goes though.
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  • KristipieKristipie member
    My DH has 2 from his first marriage and we'd like to have another 2 if we can.  So it would be 4 kids half the week and 2 kids the other half of the week. But I'd be happy with whatever I am blessed with 1 or 2 or even more!
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  • StretchadStretchad member

    Only one at this point. 

    I've always been on the fence between 1 or 2. But, with the molar pregnancy diagnosis in my first pregnancy, that means my chances of developing another molar pregnancy that leads to cancer increases. 

    So as soon as I get one, I think I'm done.  

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  • jerryliljessjerryliljess member
    We want to have three but I'll be happy if I can get one.
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    5/3/2010: MM/C at 7 wks 6 days
    5/25/2014: CP at 4 wks 3 days

    Because of the great "Snow"vember of 2015, my medicated cycle was cancelled.  However, we were blessed with our little rainbow baby due on 8/14/15!  Baby J had other plans and decided to make his grand ole entrance on 7/4/2015!

    Surprise!  Our little girl entered this world on 12/8/2016 after her eviction notice was long past due.  Our little turkey baby turned into a snow baby!  

                                                        
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  • firefightersgalfirefightersgal member
    We want two.  We currently have one.
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  • OatoaOatoa member

    imageCarolee:
    2-3, but right now I'll take one!

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