mixed emotions

antosh2008

I am super excited. I just found out that I am going to be an aunt. This is my first! But, with hearing that news, my sadness returned that I'd thought I was past from our mc in July.

I want to be the biggest supporter to my sister-in-law, but I'm not sure how to move past this. What have you girls found to help you through reoccurrences of feelings?

ronnie day

I have no advice.  My SIL and I were 5 weeks apart and I lost mine at 6 weeks.  Now I have to see her every day (we work together) all pregnant and stuff.  I also have to "go to the bathroom" every time anyone in our family starts talking about the nursery etc, even though this is her third its the first boy in the family out of 6 granddaughters.  

 

antosh2008

I am so sorry to hear this. I would have to ditch the conversations also if I were in that scenario.

sisterrael

Boxing.  I find it to be rather theraputic to put on gloves and beat the crap out of something.  I cry sometimes when I'm boxing and when I'm done, there's nothing left but a clear head and a new perspective.

sisterrael

Boxing.  I find it to be rather theraputic to put on gloves and beat the crap out of something.  I cry sometimes when I'm boxing and when I'm done, there's nothing left but a clear head and a new perspective.

LaraGaudess

I'm sorry you're going through this. I found out my SIL was expecting 3 days after my loss, and that was really hard to take. I was happy for them because they were trying for over a year, but I just couldn't stop crying for me when I found out (They didn't say it outright, I actually guessed when they came over to see how we were doing).

I have coped with it by just being involved when I want to be, and bailing when it gets to be too much. Granted, I have only had one loss, so I might feel different if it has happened multiple times. In the end, you have to take care of yourself first, so if you are feeling overwhelmed at all, step back and take time for yourself. Don't feel bad about it either! 

twistedmetal

sisterrael:

Boxing.  I find it to be rather theraputic to put on gloves and beat the crap out of something.  I cry sometimes when I'm boxing and when I'm done, there's nothing left but a clear head and a new perspective.

my husband convinced me to try boxing...then i punched him in his scar and he got mad at me....alls fair in love and war, darling!  it does help! 

jertie

I have found that nothing really helps me.  I've tried overexposure (1st tri board), underexposure (running and hiding), trying to talk myself through it (you're happy for them, you want nithing but an H&H 9 mos, etc.) - but it still hurts like h3ll for me.  Don't get me wrong, I can still put on a happy face - but it stings a.lot.