bump break

martinimomma

Oh Penny, I am so sorry you are hurting.  You are in my T&P, and I hope your break is rejuvenating to mind and spirit. ((Hugs))

iggy.d

You will be missed. Take care. ((hugs))

smallfry5909

(((HUGS)))

Penny, as someone who was in your shoes back in September, I just wanted to say that I admire you so much. I made a different decision, but I think you are so brave for sticking to what you believe is right for your sweet angel, and Ella is so lucky to have a mother like you. 

I hope you find strength in your love for your husband and your babies, and I hope to see you on PgAL very, very soon. 

jerryliljess

You will be greatly missed ((hugs)). 

mrs.gee

I am not a frequent poster but I have followed your story and wanted to wish you the best.  xo.

anonomity

I'm so sorry to hear this, Penny. Take care of yourself and do what you need to do for you. I'll be thinking of you. Hope to see you back here (or on PgAL!) soon. ((HUGS))

pennynjon

Pixiestx:

(coming out of lurking) I'm sorry you were hurt by those reponses. I don't think they were meant in any way to judge what you chose. They were directed at someone who needed to hear some comforting words. Everyone's situation is different and everyone can believe something different.  You have to understand though that as someone who terminated b/c of a fatal diagnosis, I wouldn't have done it if I didn't believe it was in the best interest of my child.  If I didn't see it that way, I couldn't have done it.  That doesn't mean that you didn't make that same decision, you did what your heart told you to do and that is the best decision.

I am aware that the comments were meant to comfort the op. That is why I didn't say anything on that thread. I know that they were in no way directed at me. However, it is pretty near impossible for me to not take comments about terminating being the selfless thing to do and comments that terminating would be best for your baby personally. I am sure if someone said those things about carrying to term it would hit a nerve with you. I do understand every situation is different and that people have different opinions- that is why I would never say those things.

julesjb

Penny I wanted to post again bc I went back to reread what I said and I wanted to say I was sorry. I only meant to comfort the OP and make her feel welcome and should have thought more carefully about my words. I don't know you personally but think you are so incredibly strong and a very warm supporter of everyone including me. I think what I should have said was that any mother that has to make a hard decision like you both did only does so with the best interest of their LO and families. I should have said what I truly believe that their is no wrong answer or choice... But both brave and selfless. My heart is broken that you are hurting and I'm so sorry if my reply hurt you...

jertie

Penny, I will miss seeing your posts and the face of your sweet Ella in your siggy.  ((HUGE HUGS))

mdm2137

((hugs))

Pixiestx

pennynjon:

Pixiestx:

(coming out of lurking) I'm sorry you were hurt by those reponses. I don't think they were meant in any way to judge what you chose. They were directed at someone who needed to hear some comforting words. Everyone's situation is different and everyone can believe something different.  You have to understand though that as someone who terminated b/c of a fatal diagnosis, I wouldn't have done it if I didn't believe it was in the best interest of my child.  If I didn't see it that way, I couldn't have done it.  That doesn't mean that you didn't make that same decision, you did what your heart told you to do and that is the best decision.

I am aware that the comments were meant to comfort the op. That is why I didn't say anything on that thread. I know that they were in no way directed at me. However, it is pretty near impossible for me to not take comments about terminating being the selfless thing to do and comments that terminating would be best for your baby personally. I am sure if someone said those things about carrying to term it would hit a nerve with you. I do understand every situation is different and that people have different opinions- that is why I would never say those things.

But understand that I have heard people say those things on the loss board back when I was on there and also on my local board, said by people who also supported me when I made my decision to terminate. 

tmhdmh

we'll be here if you need us. i wish you the best ((hugs))

MommyandKate

Well said- I hope you decide to return soon.