Another article on "Chinese Parenting"

stever

Here

I still think there's a happy medium between iron-fisted  "Asian" parenting and over-indulgent "Western" parenting.

Peppernut

Ahhh.  I'm glad to hear the book wasn't as strident as the excerpt sounded.

I think I want to do what most moms want to do...  Take the good stuff from my own upbringing, try to change the stuff I didn't think was such a good idea.  My mom told me this last Christmas visit that she felt children should be allowed to "evolve on their own."  Ohhh, mom.  That explains so much.  I'm hoping I can provide Margaux with enough structure to keep her from feeling lost and adrift.   

stever

Peppernut:

Ahhh.  I'm glad to hear the book wasn't as strident as the excerpt sounded.

I think I want to do what most moms want to do...  Take the good stuff from my own upbringing, try to change the stuff I didn't think was such a good idea.  My mom told me this last Christmas visit that she felt children should be allowed to "evolve on their own."  Ohhh, mom.  That explains so much.  I'm hoping I can provide Margaux with enough structure to keep her from feeling lost and adrift.   

Yeah, my mom was the opposite. She was a pretty serious disciplinarian who demanded way more of me academically than I was willing to give. Bizarrely, she didn't seem too invested in what I did with after school activities. If my interest started to wane at all from ballet, soccer, gymnastics, whatever then she'd pull the plug.

Pretty confusing.

I'm with you about about wanting to offer enough structure to keep M from "feeling adrift."

Pesky

That's really good to know.  I remember reading the blurb about the book and waiting in the article for the come-uppance part and nada.  Now it all makes sense.  Makes me wish I could go to the book-signing here on Monday!