Success after IF

I am f u c k i n g broken.

The baby died.

It's little heart just couldn't keep up. We think it happened yesterday. D&C in the morning, (we'll do testing)  as we leave for a non-refundable vacation. Vacation my arse. JUST when you think things are going ok, I get slammed in the head. And heart. And I have NO idea how on earth I'm going to get thru this. No fu cking clue.

Please accept my gratitude in advance for what I'm sure will all be kind sweet words from some of the most caring and supportive people on the planet. You are an amazing group of women. Just as *I* shouldn't have to keep going thru this, neither should you, as a group.

Not sure if this is the proverbial GBCK or not, but I won't be around for a while. Literally and mentally. Momma aint' right in the head.

 I love you all.

-Tracie

 

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  • OMG! T, sorry just seems sooooo insignificant right now.   I have no words.   My heart just sank when I read the title of your post.   

    Devestated for you doesn't even begin to cover it.   

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  • NO NO NO NO NO!!!! Know that we are all crying with you, T.  This is so effing unfair- there are absolutely no words........I can't even believe this.
  • What??? Noooooo!  My stomach flipped over when I read this.  I don't even know what to say...except, how very, very sad.  :(
    Childhood cancer (DH) + chemo + radiation = 0 sperm.
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  • oh honey, I'm so sorry
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  • No.No.No. Oh, T. I am absolutely heartbroken for you. I have no words. So, so incredibly sorry.
  • Oh jesus. I so hoped when I saw this subject line that this wouldn't be the news. F*ck this. I'm so much more than sorry, T. We're all here whenever and however you need us.
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  • T, seriously I don't have words.  None would suffice anyway.  I love you, honey.  I hate this.  I hate that I can't cry with you right now.  I can't even say I understand cuz I don't.  But know I am absolutely crushed about this right with you.  ((HUGS))

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  • I am so very, very sorry.
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  • No, no, NO!! This is so not fair and totally sucks. I'm so sorry...
  • I screamed "NOOOO!" when I saw the title of your post. Sorry just doesn't cover it, but it's the only word I have. I'm so sorry.
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  • I'm so sorry.  You've had more than your fair share of heart ache.  Hang in there.
  • Oh my god, I really can't believe it.  I am so, so sorry.  I can't imagine what you're going through.

    Take care of yourself, and come back soon. 

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  • When I saw the title of this post I opened it hoping and praying that I would not read bad news, sadly, I was horribly mistaken.  Tracie - I honestly have no words.  My heart really hurts for you and your DH (I mean that with everything that I have).  This is beyond not fair.  I am sad and I am mad (not at you but mad that you are going through this nightmare).

    Please know that we are ALWAYS here for you!  You need a place to vent, to get it all out, the good, the bad, the really bad, and the stuff that the word bad does not even begin to touch.  You all do not deserve to go through this hell.  You just don't.  Please take care and I know you hate 'em but you are getting 'em ((((HUGE HUGE HUGE HUGS)))))

    It took over four years to be diagnosed with PCOS. We TTC #1 for 18 months, did 5 rounds of Clomid and finally moved onto IVF...which worked! Throughout our IF journey, we suffered 3 miscarriages. We conceived both DD and DS without treatment.
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  • I am crying.  Big, ugly blubbery cry.

    I have no words, and if I did, they wouldn't be anywhere sufficient.  To say I'm extremely sorry is just the tip of the iceberg for a mountain of feelings.

    My fingers are stumbling.  I'm just going to go cry and hug my kids.

    Heartbroken.  Tragic.  Not fair.

    I will miss you as long as you need to be away, and I will be thinking of you more than you could ever believe.

    Crying 

    Pregnant with #1 with PCOS and LPD, success with mostly naturopathic treatments
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  • OMG I know nothing I say will make any difference but I am so so very sorry.
  • OMG..I am so so sorry. I am heartbroken for you.
  • I truly am so sorry to hear this.  Like you said, no one should have to go through loss - let alone multiple losses.

    Your family will be in my thoughts.

  • F*ckin bullsh!t. I can't even put into words how sorry I am. This blows. Know that we're here for you in all ways.
    TTC for 19 months. Dx: PCOS. 3 IUI's with Clomid= BFN 1st IUI with injectables= BFP imageBaby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • Nothing fair about this. at all.

    I am so very sorry.

  • OMG Davez!! I just wanted to say how sorry I am!! I feel like I'm your stalker as I've always liked your personality and have definitely lurked and followed your journey even though I am still IF and not SAIF.  I even showed my Mom your Costa Rica blog back when you were on that IVF journey.  I was so bummed to see this post... sending big hugs your way!!
  • Oh honey

    Please take care of yourself.  We are here for you.

    Me: PCOs DH: Perfect!
    4 Fresh IVF cycles + 1 FET where embies didn't survive the thaw = 2 perfect little men!
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  • I am absolutely heartbroken for you.  No words can express how sorry I am.  Please take care and know we're here when you're ready.
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  • We love you too Tracie.  I'm so sorry.
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  • ***. I did not want to open this F'er. No fricken words at all. I'm sorry just f'ing sucks. I don't understand.

    Love you T.

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  • Oh, Tracie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO, NO, NO!!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot believe this. I am bawling. Sick to my stomach.

    Wrapping you up in the biggest hug you could ever imagine. ((((hugs)))))))

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  • My heart is aching for you. I am so so sorry.
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  • No words.  I have no f-ing words.  We all love you!!! 
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  • I am at a loss for words. I'm sorry doesn't sound like enough. This is just so unfair!!!

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  • OMG NO! My heart just suck when I saw this. It is so cruel and unfair. I know words mean nothing right know but I am so, so sorry. 
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  • Oh God. No words. But I'm still utterly sorry.
    After 20 months, 3 Clomid cycles and 4 IUI cycles, IVF #1 with ICSI = BFP!
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  • I am very sorry to hear this. Very sorry. I am praying for you.
    DX: PCOS * Success with IVF

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  • I don't even know what to say other than I'm crying for you, your family and your poor little lost baby.   I hope that the testing will bring some answers even though the answers don't heal your heart.

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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  • Oh T, I am so sorry for your loss.  My heart sunk when I saw this post, take care of yourself!
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  • Noooooo!! I know that no words can help, but I truly am sorry and heartbroken for you.

    Please know we are always here for you.  Take good care of yourself.

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  • Oh my god - I am so, so sorry. Truly.
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  • F U C K!  I am so sorry.  There are no words.  We love you.
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  • OMFG Tracie I'm so sorry.  I just gasped at my desk so loud that my staff came to check on me.  There are no words, but I am so sorry.
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  • so unfair. I'm so sorry. ((((((((hugs))))))))
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