Hi.. I am new here and wanted to introduce myself. Nice to meet you all
I just had beautiful twin girls a week ago, and as I knew it would be hard work with two babies, I didn't expect such an emotional roller coaster, and for myself to feel so scared and filled with anxiety. My husband is home from work right now and has been for a week and a half. He is going back to work in a week and a half, but my fear of him going back to work is freaking me out really bad. Knowing he and I share the responsibility during the day is a lifesaver. I'll have family helping for another week when he goes back though which is nice.
He doesn't have the same anxiety I have whatsoever. I keep crying on and off, and keep getting so scared of all this responsibility. I don't know if it's just the "baby blues" I keep reading about, or if it's already postpartum depression. I keep reading that my anxiety will pass, but currently I've never been so scared in my frigging life!
It would be helpful to talk to other women going through what I am..... I feel alone in this right now.
Thanks so much and nice meeting you!
Re: Hi :) Introduction and not sure about being here...super scared.
Before DH went back to work I experienced the same thing. I was so afraid of having to do it all myself, and I only had one LO. DH ended up taking an extra couple of days off but I knew I had to do it myself eventually, he couldn't stay home anymore than that.
During those extra couple of days DH had me pretend like he wasn't there (at least in a helpful way, I still interacted with him, he just didn't help with LO until 5 PM) as trial runs to try to get used to doing it myself and to only ask for help if I really could not do it on my own. You could give that a try.
It's great you have help initially after he goes back. I think this is just normal anxiety most new moms go through and not PPD. It's a big job. It makes sense you're concerned/worried. You will get through it. GL!
I can only imagine having to take care of two on my own! I was scared with one. Believe it or not, I'm freaking out now, and my son is almost 18 months old. My DH will be gone for two week straight. I work full time and will have no help for two whole weeks. So, right now, I'm kind of in the same boat, only with one child. We can freak out together!
I think what you are experiencing is totally normal. Take a deep breath - repeat. You can do this. Keep telling yourself that! GL
Thanks so much for the words.. appreciate it. That is a great idea.. maybe the day before he goes back I will tell him to pretend like he's not here and I will try everything on my own. I'm sure I'll get through it-at this point though I can't stop crying because I am so scared, and I love these babies to death, they are the most precious things, I admit I miss my old independent life ...it's such a huge change. But in time I know things will get better and the anxiety.
Okay let's freak out together!! haha.. It's nice to talk to other women going through these crazy crazy emotions. That is what I keep trying to do right now.. telling myself to calm down to ease the anxiety. I really have to just slow down my "baby stage fright" I call it. I can imagine having your hubby gone two weeks is going to be very trying.. wow. That is a long time. I keep counting down the days til my hubby goes back and I am left with two babies.. SCARY.
Thanks for the words...yeah I keep crying a couple times a day. I just can't help it. I just start bawling on my husbands shoulder. And he is wonderful.. I don't know how he keeps it so calm and collected when I am such a hormonal scared mess. He is going back to work and I feel left with this huge responsibility during the day. Phew...I know I'll get through it but envisioning how hard it will be is the scariest thing EVER. Especially with two babies. and also if I had just one too.
Thanks for the words...yeah I keep crying a couple times a day. I just can't help it. I just start bawling on my husbands shoulder. And he is wonderful.. I don't know how he keeps it so calm and collected when I am such a hormonal scared mess. He is going back to work and I feel left with this huge responsibility during the day. Phew...I know I'll get through it but envisioning how hard it will be is the scariest thing EVER. Especially with two babies. and also if I had just one too.