A bit of sad news on Christmas

GuppyAmy

My SIL told me and my MIL after things were winding down on Christmas that she, after 10 years of trying, had gotten pregnant but it was ectopic and it ended in a miscarriage. I felt SO SO horrible for her. I would never wish that on anyone, let alone her. It's not fair. So, they're going to look into adoption. I was so devastated for her, she said "we weren't going to tell anyone and didn't want to do it on Christmas but it just came out. I hope I didn't ruin your Christmas." I said, you have to do whatever feels right for you. I also said I'm here if she ever needs anything.

However, can I point out a coincidence I noticed on DH side of the family- MIL had a m/c before having her 4 boys. My DH's Aunt had a m/c before going on to have her 2 kids. My oldest SIL had a m/c before having her 2 kids. I had my m/c and now my other SIL had a m/c. It seems odd to me to have that many on one side of the family. Anyway, I'm rambling now, trying to make sense of a very sad situation.

 Hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas. 

butterfly843

Sending hugs to your SIL.

DoingItRight

Sending big hugs to your sister in law.

TeacherVicky

I'm so sorry. Sending lots of hugs.

jen629

So sad sending many hugs to her

ColleenS629

I'm so sorry for your SIL.

cutebride73

That is so sad.  Your poor SIL - how terrible for her. 

ColindaP

I'm so sorry for your SIL. That's awful. Ectopics seem especially cruel, because so often they are healthy pregnancies, just in the wrong place

KristysRedBarn

That is terribly sad.  I'm so sorry.  While I'm certainly sorry it has happened so often in your family I hope this helps give her a support system and people who have compassion and understanding.

michrocc

Hugs to your SIL.

bbhalphen

That's so sad!  Hugs to your SIL.

lindsay.lou

The poor thing. How did the family react? Was everyone supportive? She sounds so brave.

Although it stinks to have to share sad loss news on Christmas, I think announcing that they're looking into adoption is wonderful, happy news to share on a family holiday.

I hope whichever way it happens, they're able to become parents. 

 

GuppyAmy

lindsay.lou:

The poor thing. How did the family react? Was everyone supportive? She sounds so brave.

Although it stinks to have to share sad loss news on Christmas, I think announcing that they're looking into adoption is wonderful, happy news to share on a family holiday.

I hope whichever way it happens, they're able to become parents. 

 

Well, they told us separately, my SIL told me and my MIL while my husband's brother told DH. They are very brave. My husband's side of the family is amazingly supportive and loving. I cried for her/with her. My MIL didn't want to cry. We all hugged. And you're right, it is very good new to share. They are the most amazing couple and will make amazing parents however it works out for them.  

rjl07

I'm she's going through this, but she is lucky to have such great family support.  ((hugs))