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emily0829:

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megperk72:

This is so great, thanks for being willing to be an open book for us *nosy* peeps! Very informative. DH and I are an interracial couple, and I was worried about how my family (white) would accept our biracial baby. My worries have now been put to rest, thank goodness. She is loved by all!

Do both of your familes accept each other and your LO? Does anyone get treated differently for being part of a "non-traditional" family? What about outside the family, have you ever had any snarky comments? If so, what was your response? I have yet to encounter any on my end, but I'm sure it will happen.

Both of our families are extremely accepting. We both have very large, everyone married 3x over families and each and every person is 100% behind us. We are very lucky! We've been fortunate. We have not ever received a comment in public. To be honest, I'm quite sure if I did hear a comment I would lose it! Thankfully that hasn't happened. I don't want DS to ever hear anything negative which is obviously impossible. Everyone has been quite supportive. It is kinda funny though. We've caught people off guard. We'll meet someone and they'll kindly ask whose son C is. When I say he's our son they get this puzzled look before it clicks. LOL They are always really nice about it! 

I think about this often with my mom being gay. Her and her partner have been together (they are actually legally married in the state of Vermont, even though Ohio doesn't recognize it, my mom's job does so my step-mom gets partner benefits.)

I have a very (almost unhealthy) attachment to my mom, and I love her partner more than I could ever express. I consider them to be my parents, and my dad is biological dad, but otherwise he's just kind of some "guy" I know.

That being said, I honestly pray that when LO is old enough that it won't be such a controversial thing. I pray that someone won't say something negative to him about him having two Grandma's. I know first hand how cruel kids can be about things that their parents have instilled in them that THEY don't agree with and I don't want LO to feel ashamed or even the tiniest bit hurt by what anyone else says about his Grandmothers.

[We call my mom Grandma, and her call her partner Grandma Mo.]

I love to hear stories like this. Where the child doesn't hate the parent for bringing them into the world . Thank you for sharing! I think (well I hope) by the time our LO's are old enough to understand, the world will be an even more accepting place! I have to believe that. 

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Italiannvegas:

Do you hope your DS will be gay? straight? or you don't care.

Oh god I hope he's straight! Obviously, if he's gay we'll treat him no differently, but let's face it... being straight is just much easier. I don't want to add that onto the fact that he has two moms. Poor kid LOL. I just want his life to be as easy as it possibly can be.  

cajungirl0717

Can you give insite on the adoption process. It's a little different situation, but my brother and his partner have talked about adopting in the next few years. So I guess they could do an complete adoption (not have a surrogate). I just wonder how easy it will be for them to do the adoption, or if being a same sex couple will put restraint on the issue.