Are you excluding people from your DC's party?

lilbit923

For me, I won't be inviting my older brother and his new wife. He and I don't talk and haven't for awhile. In an effort to reduce as much drama as possible at Emma's party, I think it's best to not invite them. DH doesn't want them coming either. Though DH thinks that they might tag along with my parent's invitation.

I do plan on inviting my older bro's ex-wife since she's the mom of my niece, Katie. Katie and Emma love to play together. Problem is, my parents hate her. DH says that's too bad, we'll invite her, it's our house.

Do you have a family member you won't be inviting? Is there someone in your family that you feel would be better suited to not receive an invitation?

mefsta777

if i wasnt so nice, i would 100% not send an invite to DHs oldest sister (still younger than him). he says that cant happen, that it would cause way too much drama, etc. etc. so, she will come. but not because i want her to

oh, and for a reason? shes an asss. she has seen DD once, cares only for herself, and basically sucks. oh, and doesnt acknowledge me. 

lilbit923

mefsta777:

if i wasnt so nice, i would 100% not send an invite to DHs oldest sister (still younger than him). he says that cant happen, that it would cause way too much drama, etc. etc. so, she will come. but not because i want her to

oh, and for a reason? shes an asss. she has seen DD once, cares only for herself, and basically sucks. oh, and doesnt acknowledge me. 

Thank you for posting the reason. My older bro is a bag of douche for how he has treated the family. He was living off my parents and essentially, leading a double life. He would be MIA alot, even when his kids came to visit all the while he's busy playing house with his wife we knew nothing about. His reason? "It needs to be about me now. I'm tired of doing for everyone else."

DH and I feel he is a poor role model for our kids and want to limit the exposure he could have with our kids. We use his life as a guide of what NOT to do when you grow up.

MrsC17

I'm considering not inviting one cousin of mine--she's in her mid-40's but act's like she's a teenager (in terms of her attitude).  She didn't RSVP to my baby shower, didn't show, then texted me a week LATER to say, don't be mad I had a meeting that day (mind you I never said I was mad, and didn't plan to take issue with it)--then I didn't hear from her at all until DD was 4 mos old or so.  She didn't RSVP/didn't show to her baptism because my mom's family is Jewish and she "refuses to ever enter a church"-mind you most guests don't attend the ceremony, they just come to the party afterward.  Needless to say I'm thinking it'll be a waste of paper and stamps to send her another invitation...

lilbit923

MrsC17:

I'm considering not inviting one cousin of mine--she's in her mid-40's but act's like she's a teenager (in terms of her attitude).  She didn't RSVP to my baby shower, didn't show, then texted me a week LATER to say, don't be mad I had a meeting that day (mind you I never said I was mad, and didn't plan to take issue with it)--then I didn't hear from her at all until DD was 4 mos old or so.  She didn't RSVP/didn't show to her baptism because my mom's family is Jewish and she "refuses to ever enter a church"-mind you most guests don't attend the ceremony, they just come to the party afterward.  Needless to say I'm thinking it'll be a waste of paper and stamps to send her another invitation...

I feel better knowing I'm not the only one. I've been thinking I'm a horrible sister for not sending an invitation to them but not only do I have guests to think of, I really don't need to get worked up and upset for the sake of the baby I'm still carrying.

MrsC17

Don't feel bad--it's a day for YOUR FAMILY (meaning you, DH, and your kids), you should enjoy it together and it shouldn't be a source of stress.  I mean, I know everyone has normal "Having a party" stress like getting things done, but you shouldn't have to worry if someone is going to come and cause unneccessary drama during something that should be so happy and exciting.  Sometimes you have to do what you have to do to ensure that happens. 

Vuja_de

We're inviting everyone only because H's family won't come to the party it is too far out of their way (3 hour drive). They didn't come to my baby shower, they didn't come to DS's baptism, they didn't come to visit when he was born.

shoeboxx

A whole lot of people.  We are having his party at Gymboree and are only allowed 15 children.  We are only inviting people with LO's 2 and under.  There are lots of folk I wouldn't want there like cousins and other relatives.

superaunt

family is family i've learned through the years. i may not like them all but they're family and unless someone is some whackjob that should be locked away, we're inviting everyone this time around (we didn't have any other party yet -like for a baptism or something)- which is why we have to rent a place.

mefsta777

lilbit923:

mefsta777:

if i wasnt so nice, i would 100% not send an invite to DHs oldest sister (still younger than him). he says that cant happen, that it would cause way too much drama, etc. etc. so, she will come. but not because i want her to

oh, and for a reason? shes an asss. she has seen DD once, cares only for herself, and basically sucks. oh, and doesnt acknowledge me. 

Thank you for posting the reason. My older bro is a bag of douche for how he has treated the family. He was living off my parents and essentially, leading a double life. He would be MIA alot, even when his kids came to visit all the while he's busy playing house with his wife we knew nothing about. His reason? "It needs to be about me now. I'm tired of doing for everyone else."

DH and I feel he is a poor role model for our kids and want to limit the exposure he could have with our kids. We use his life as a guide of what NOT to do when you grow up.

 

i wish i was as strong as you to not invite her! she is a stripper (i dont care how bad that makes me sound, i dont want strippers around my kid!), cares about no one but herself, lives with DHs mom, and wont even let her sleep on the bed! SIL sleeps on the bed, while poor MIL gets the couch. she will not talk to me no matter how hard i try. and she wont come to see us unless everyone else is there to see how wonderful she is. asss 

jojoh1008

I don't want to invite my aunt, but she has 2 younger kids and they don't deserve to be left out. Plus, I know my grandma will be bothered if I don't.