NBR: Bridal shower for a second marriage..question.

SuenJon

Do you ladies know if you have a bridal shower for a bride the second time she gets married?  I am a bridesmaid in a wedding in May 2011 and myself and another friend weren't sure if you hosted a shower a second time.  The first time this friend got married was in I think 2000.

uofibabe

hmm....that's a hard one.  Do they already have "everything" they would need to have a home together?!  I think that's really what a bridal shower is about is getting items to build a home with your new hubby.   Since it's a friend you may want to ask her if she was expecting one!?

Personally I hated it that my dad got remarried and he had a bachelor party and his new wife had a bachelorette party...gag me...you are in your 50's - you dont need to do that sh*t!!  Sorry...just had to vent!

IndyGirl02

I would say no.  Kind of like you don't typically have a shower for your second baby.

hlh018

When my mom and stepdad got married they didn't have one.

caitlet425

I kind of think it depends...is she young? Why is she getting remarried (death vs divorce)? Is it her fiance's first marriage? Mayber her fiance's husband's family wants to have one since they may not get to otherwies? Just some thoughts. I have no clue about etiquette here....

lckytabby3

I would think no to a shower but you could still do a girls day.  Bunch of friends go to get nails done.  Or even a little party to have everyone over and say, bring a candle and a copy of thier fav recipe(3 hole punch and put in a cute binder for her).  So she still gets something but people dont feel they have to spend a lot.  Or if she drinks wine you could have a wine stock party and everyone could bring a bottle of wine.  I did a scrapbook party before and everyone brought a page for the brides frist year.  Takes some effort on your part to give everyone a theme to bring (her Birthday,  His birthday, Christmas, Easter, so on)  

Hope that helps.

SusieDMB

I didn't have a shower, and it's both of our first marriages.  We're older, we have 2 households full of stuff, and we had baby showers recently, so we felt that people had been generous enough.  I've been to some 2nd weddings where they said no presents.