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Self pity party...

ChristyMLChristyML
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I've been wanting 2u2 for a while. When DS was born, I was thinking 2.5 years would be the most I want them apart, but that seems like too much of a gap now. DH and I haven't been trying for even 6 months yet, but I'm starting to feel worried that I won't get the 2u2. I actually am now wanting 2u1.5, but if I don't get pregnant within the next 2 months, I won't get that either.

I know that this is quite the opposite of what is complained/worried about, so I'm sorry if this is an annoying post.

Has anyone (or was anyone) in my shoes? 

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  • laura1laura1 member
    We had 2u2 first, then started trying for #3 when #2 was a year old.  Ideally, we would have had 2u2 again, just not as close.  But we had one m/c after 6months of trying, then after 10months I got my BFP with DD#2.  So the second 2 are 2.5 years apart.  Now I can't imagine having 3 closer together.  It is so hard waiting, but whatever you get, will be right for you.  My sister had secondary IF, do her girls are 4years apart, and she wanted 2 years apart. Wasn't her plan, but the girls are great friends and it all worked out!  Good luck!
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    I can't fully empathize because the reverse happened to us-my bfp came six month prior to the time we were planning on actively trying. What i can tell you is usually the majority of people love the spacing between their kids. You'll find advantages and disadvantages to every sibling spacing.

    another thing is once you get past the first year or two, you really can't tell the difference between kids spaced 12.5 months apart and 2.5 years apart. It's all pretty much the same. I mean, sure there's a pretty big difference between my sil's 4.5 year spacing to mine, but my friend who currently has a 5 year old and 2.5 year olds life looks very similar to mine.  

    Sure, it stinks when you're in that window where you are trying but it hasn't happened yet. I wouldn't get too nervous about a 16 month spacing or a 22 month spacing-it really isn't going to matter once your second child isn't an infant anymore.  

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