Back story if you missed the post: DH has ss every other weekend and mon and wed evenings. By the time DH gets off work and gets there these week night visits are no more than 2.5 hours. DH is wanted to switch out one of the nights in exchange for some other time. Something that would allow them more quality time, and would work easier for everyone.
Of course BM said absolutely not to the overnight during the week. She still says it's too early. So DH brought up his second choice of an extra week in the summer. She says weeknights and summers are not a fair exchange. And I do see her point, but that 2.5 hours a week comes out to 5.5 days over the course of a year. The c/o time is 4 hours which is over 8.5 days over the year. So TIME wise it's pretty equal.
DH is going to bring it up again in a week or so. BM automatically says no to everything from the get go. But I know if she mentions it to her dad he will encourage he to work out some sort of agreement. Her DH may as well.
If not, then we will have to decide if it's worth going to court over. IMO, yes. Because there are other small things that we would like changed as well (split driving) But ultimately that will be up to DH.