My First Post....

Laliberte323

I've enjoyed reading these post and getting advice that was meant for others but worked for me! Today though, i'm beyond frustrated and wouldn't mind some direct help! I feel that my husband and I have taken too much on. I'm currently working on my masters degree (online courses), we are in the process of closing on our first home (set to move in two weeks) and I am 25 weeks pregnant! I'm trying so hard not to stress but my husband is a mess. He is so frustrated with the house he is starting to pick little fights with me, with me being emotional they always turn into something bigger even though I know he is not really mad about what he is fighting over at the time it is just stress. How can I be there for him as well as get him to understand that this added stress on me is not good for the baby? 

 

Any suggestions?  

Mikejustine

I have to say, buying our first house was probably the WORST experience we ever had to go through. It is extremely stressful so I can only imagine how the other factors are adding to that stress load. Try to let your husband know that you can understand all the frustrations he is feeling and that you guys are going to get through it all together. Tell him that it is important for him to understand that you are feeling the stress as well and that you are concerned it could have a negative impact on the baby. Ask that he just try to be a little more understanding to your situation and you will be to his. Hopefully just an open communication, directly addressing the problems will help. Soon, the house will close and you'll be preparing for the arrival of your new little bundle of joy.

Good Luck!

CAB'smommy

Tell him just that!  We went through something similar.  My DH was working on his doctorate and we were moving when I was around 34 weeks pregnant with DS.  It is very stressful.  Just do what you can to help.  Tell DH that this is really hard on you also, but he needs to vent another way because it's beyond stressing you and the baby too.  

cera.rn

First off, congrats and welcome to the board!

I think you should just flat out tell your husband what you just wrote.  He needs to know that he is not the only one under stress at the moment, and the stress can have a negative impact on your pregnancy.  Maybe he does not realize how he is acting is directly affecting you.  Just be honest, but not accusatory.  

Lilsmom08

I agree tell him exactly what you wrote. Most of the time guys don't get hints so just point blank tell him what is up.  After 23wks my husband finally got how different this pregnancy has been for me than with our first because he talked to another lady at work who said hers was the same way!  He came home and was like I had know idea.  Men just don't get it sometimes.

DragonflyBelle

As my husband has told me 10 million times, you have to spell it out for them. Men are not mind-readers (his words) and cannot know what you're thinking and feeling always. You need to sit him down and tell him exactly what you told us and reassure him that you love him dearly, but his redirection of his stress into fights with you has to end or you will punch him in the nose (little humor, I do not condone domestic violence). You KWIM...you have to tell him point-blank. As confusing as they can be, they're really just like our kids in many ways.

Laliberte323

thanks for the advice everyone. You are all right I just need to be direct in my communication. Now if my hormones would just let me get through it without crying!