North Dakota Babies

Grrrrrrrrr!

Last night, I emailed my mom & asked for an oatmeal cookie recipe. She replied with the recipe, & said that my dad thinks I should make the cookies & invite then over to eat them & see Reese. So, I called her this morning & invited her & my dad to come & visit this afternoon. Well, I just got an email from my mom. She didn't mean to send it to me, she meant to send it to her sister. It was basically an email complaining about how they don't get to see Reese, & that it is "so sad" that they have to invite themselves over. She was miffed that they called on Saturday & wanted to stop by (with 20 min notice). I said no FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER because Reese was sick, we were all still in our pajamas, and I just wanted her to rest. Oh, and because I wanted us to have some time alone since we had been with family NON-STOP the prior weekend. I am so selfish. My parents see her all.the.time. And every time they come over, they stay for HOURS. My mom is going to be watching R when I go back to work in 3 weeks, & her sense of entitlement to her is the exact reason I see this turning into a disaster. I emailed my mom back. I'll post it in a reply since I'm on my phone & I can't make paragraphs. It should be interesting when she comes over later. Thanks for letting me vent. I am so pissed right now!

Re: Grrrrrrrrr!

  • Did you mean to send this to Pam? ?I'm sorry that you feel sad that you have to invite yourself to see Reese, but you have seen her every single week since she was born, and every time it has been for several hours at a time. You got to see her each day at the hospital, one day the first week we were home, and then spent the next 7 days with us. You have seen her at least once a week since then. Last weekend, you got to see her 4 days in a row (one day watching her for 7 hours!). I guess I'm not sure what more you expect, & honestly, I think it ridiculous that you are acting like we keep her from you. We have to have our own family & our own routine. ?We enjoy having time "just us". Soon, you will be spending more time with her than I do, I am just trying to enjoy the time I have now. ?I love you, & I don't want to fight with you, but I think you are being unfair.?
  • Ok, I just counted, because I'm just that crazy. They have seen her 19 days. She is 61 days old. Ridiculous.
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  • That is ridiculous!! I would be pissed too, if it makes your mom feel better you can tell her that she has seen Reese more times than I my mom has seen Austin and he is a year old.

    I think my parents have seen Austin a total of 2 weeks his entire life. Crying

    Nicole and Michael~Las Vegas~May 31, 2008
  • I'm so sorry, Dani!  Maybe it's actually a good thing that this misdirected email thing happened because now you can address the situation now.  I have also realized how petty g-moms seem to get with the arrival of the grandkids.  I sort of feel like it's the wedding all over again with the drama starting! 

    Bri's mom invited herself over this past Saturday night with little notice because she said that she needs to see the baby at least once a week so that she gets to know her.  Everytime my mom has babysat for us, Bri's mom needs to, too, to make it fair.  It's ridiculous.

    My mom has said fro mthe beginning that she was babysitting when I go back to work.  Then Bri's mom needed in on the action, too.  Luckily, she went back to work part-time for the first time in 2 years so now the schedule will be: Monday I'm working from home, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday my mom has her and Friday Bri's mom has her.  When I tell this to my mom on Sunday, she got all upset because I'm taking 2 days away from her.  What?!?  You have her the most!  She tried to say that it's not fair that Bri's mom gets her on Fridays because that's the best day of the week.  Like Caroline will know the difference between a Tuesday and a Friday.

    Don't get me wrong: I am extremely grateful for all the love and especially the help in the child care department, but the pettiness is out of control!

  • imagenatalee215:

    I'm so sorry, Dani!  Maybe it's actually a good thing that this misdirected email thing happened because now you can address the situation now. 

    Don't get me wrong: I am extremely grateful for all the love and especially the help in the child care department, but the pettiness is out of control!

    You are exactly right about both of these things. I'm sorry you're dealing with this as well. So frustrating!
  • I would just reply "did you mean to send this to Pam?" And leave it at that. Let her offer an explanation first.
  • imageladybugg82:

    That is ridiculous!! I would be pissed too, if it makes your mom feel better you can tell her that she has seen Reese more times than I my mom has seen Austin and he is a year old.

    I think my parents have seen Austin a total of 2 weeks his entire life. Crying

    Yep same here, my parents have seen Alexa 13 days and 5 of those days were just last week. Your parents are very lucky! Hopefully you can let her know that (in a good way :) ). I would be pissed to have seen that email, I am sure she feels like a real ass now, but she should she is being ridicules!
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  • imagenatalee215:

    She tried to say that it's not fair that Bri's mom gets her on Fridays because that's the best day of the week.  Like Caroline will know the difference between a Tuesday and a Friday.

    Oh wow, haha! Grandparents are crazy aren't they?!
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    ~Kimberly & Eric~ April 21, 2008 ~Tensing Pen ~ Negril, Jamaica ~ My Blog: One Sunset at a Time
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  • That is ridic.  I would be pissed.

    FWIW, I posted a video on K's share site of K playing with my mom and it caused all kinds of drama with my dad's side of the family.  I actually gad to say, "don't be mad at me because you live 4 (or 15, depending on who) hours away and she lives 10 minutes away."

  • That just stinks. Sending over some hugs. I worry about this sort of stuff but I've learned to just put my foot down with company. Hopefully she will realize she is being silly about it.
  • Ugh, I would be so mad!  I think your response sounds good.  I'm so sorry you have to be dealing with this!
  • Wow, that's insane! I hope our parents never get weird like that. I anticipate requests for me to bring her to KY a lot but if I ever hear jealousy of one set of gparents seeing her more than another I'll have to Say something.
    Siggy Deleted Due to Internet Stalking. Mama to Q, born July 2010
  • I know the situation has kind of resolved itself now, but, I wanted to offer you ((hugs)).
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    Katy and Brett ~ Runaway Bay, Jamaica ~ October 4, 2008

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  • That's crazy.  I'm sorry you're having to put up with that!  My mom is constantly around too and if I ever heard her complaining about not seeing G enough I would flip!

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