Follow-uip re: Miles

cooker71

I ended up writing a note to each of the teachers who I overheard yesterday.

I discreetly slipped them in their hands this morning so as not to draw attention, but made sure to tell them quietly "Consider this a get out of jail free card. Next time, I'll be speaking with the director."

They knew exactly what I was talking about.

Thank you all so much for your kind words. It's been a rough-go lately and the support on here is something I can always depend on.

KoriBrett

*hugs*

belle204

Oooooooh, snap. Get it, Hooker. Good for you.

mlm1128

I think that was the best way to handle it.  The fact that they now know you heard them, and you are a better person because you didn't choose to confront them publicly?  I would guess that would make them feel even shittier for what they did.

xbrooklyngrl

damn cookie, I'm scared of you! You go girl!

cooker71

Oh and the note basically said I overheard your comments about Miles yesterday and while I know they were likely not meant to be hurtful, they did hurt my feelings as his mother.

Miles is a beautiful human being, Down syndrome or not, and I hope having the privilege to take care of him every day will help you both grow as people and realize where true beauty lies.

If you have questions re: his Down syndrome, etc., PLEASE feel free to ask. Anytime.

camrude

Wow. Go you.

BTW - did a GTG ever happen a few weeks back? Are you up for getting one on the books?

DandelionMom

Nicely done! 

cbidt*sgirl

cooker71:

Oh and the note basically said I overheard your comments about Miles yesterday and while I know they were likely not meant to be hurtful, they did hurt my feelings as his mother.

Miles is a beautiful human being, Down syndrome or not, and I hope having the privilege to take care of him every day will help you both grow as people and realize where true beauty lies.

If you have questions re: his Down syndrome, etc., PLEASE feel free to ask. Anytime.

a beautiful way to handle this. Nora and miles are so blessed to have such a wonderful mother and great example.

femmegem

Wow, go you! Nicely handled!

vtgirl

Good for you mama! I woud have said something right then and there- but you handle the situation with grace and a cool, level head...none of which I have!

lilpiglet

cbidt*sgirl:

cooker71:

Oh and the note basically said I overheard your comments about Miles yesterday and while I know they were likely not meant to be hurtful, they did hurt my feelings as his mother.

Miles is a beautiful human being, Down syndrome or not, and I hope having the privilege to take care of him every day will help you both grow as people and realize where true beauty lies.

If you have questions re: his Down syndrome, etc., PLEASE feel free to ask. Anytime.

a beautiful way to handle this. Nora and miles are so blessed to have such a wonderful mother and great example.

DITTO!  You seem like a very loving mother and a stand up person.  If i lived closer I would be honored to be called a friend and to know your children and for them to know mine.  You are an example to us all in my opinion.  You have so much courage and heart :-)

neesernicole

well.done.

Kapalua

perfectly handled.  People are stupid but mostly well meaning- sometimes all they need is a little sensitivity training.

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cooker71:

Oh and the note basically said I overheard your comments about Miles yesterday and while I know they were likely not meant to be hurtful, they did hurt my feelings as his mother.

Miles is a beautiful human being, Down syndrome or not, and I hope having the privilege to take care of him every day will help you both grow as people and realize where true beauty lies.

If you have questions re: his Down syndrome, etc., PLEASE feel free to ask. Anytime.

I applaud you.  Wow you handled that with grace!!  It just breaks my heart that you had to overhear that.  I'm am so impressed and glad you told them how you did and what you did. 

j-w

Sounds like you handled it perfectly!

jettagurl

cbidt*sgirl:

 a beautiful way to handle this. Nora and miles are so blessed to have such a wonderful mother and great example.

 

Ditto this, a million times over.  

Angela814

I'm very impressed with how you handled the situation. I hope those women will learn something that they can pass on.

docmay25

Good for you!  It is so hard not to freak out on people when you hear comments that make you furious.  I have heard my share of comments when it comes to Jack and it is so hard to bite my tongue.

I think you handled that so well.  As a former toddler teacher who has cared for children with many different issues, it makes me so angry that they would make a comment like that.  Some people just don't get it. 

goodheartedmommy

Kapalua:

perfectly handled.  People are stupid but mostly well meaning- sometimes all they need is a little sensitivity training.

This. 

Hooray2005

Nice work, Mama!  You skillfully turned this into a teaching opportunity and hopefully this will help the teachers grow in their understanding of working with all children.

Miles and Nora are so lucky to have you as a Mommy - know that these little moments really do matter

r9stedt

Angela814:

I'm very impressed with how you handled the situation. I hope those women will learn something that they can pass on.

I 100% agree.   Cooker, let me know if you need someone to vent to who can relate to the whole separation/divorce thing... 

peekaboo716

You go! Good for you for educating them.

omurray

That was a very gracious way of handling the situation.  Really, I'm so impressed with your ability to handle all that's going on. 

cnybride2be

i so like what you wrote to them.

thank goodness you had the couth not to call them dumbasses with good taste (like some people i know).

laughteriskey

I must be PMS b/c the way you handled this, and what you wrote, is making me tear up.

You really are a class act...absolutely amazing!  Seriously!

lizard76

Nicely done Mom!