CP: Would you recommend TTCAL or Mc/pL

a&b=him&me

To a IRL friend who has experienced a loss?[Poll]

damabo80

That's a tough one. My answer surprised me. I would like to think that I would recommend it, as it has been helpful to me.

However, I do enjoy somewhat "blending in with the masses" here. I rejoice in the fact that I can tell you all ANYTHING about my feelings (good, bad and ugly), because chances are, I will never meet you. That is liberating. People IRL, I feel as though I would need to sugar-coat stuff more, or not feel free to b!tch about someone because that person IRL knows them and may have a different opinion about them. There's just more interpersonal politics going on when a person IRL knows everything that is in your heart. Maybe one of the reasons I don't have a blog. Maybe I'll get over that someday. 

ETA: I did recently learn that another TTCAL bumpie and I share the same IRL friend. That did feel a bit uncomfortable and hit a little close to home, as I don't know if I would feel comfortable with that IRL friend knowing EVERYTHING about my reproductive history.

millejj1

I'm somewhere in between the yes and no. If it were a friend that I were close to that I felt I could open up to about my loss than absolutely. I already have told some ladies about out little piece of paradise!

If it weren't someone that I was that close to or I knew would spill the beans on my loss, I would have to think about it and honestly I'm not sure what I'd do. I know it's selfish to not just automatically say yes they need support too, but at the same time it'd be awful for some family to hear it through the grapevine. So maybe I'd end up outing myself and bringing them into the circle after that?

a&b=him&me

There is an aquaintance IRL she was 5 months pregnant and the baby was stillborn due to cord wrapped around LOs neck. I want to recommend thebump so bad because it brings a lot of comfort, but at the sametime I am wanting to be selfish.

I'm kind of in limbo.

millejj1

Does she know your story? If you're close to her and can support each other than it may not hurt. She may not even join.

I think it's ok to feel a little doubt, we've all been through something so hard and are seeking ways to protect ourselves from more hurt feelings. 

a&b=him&me

Can I just say that I am proud there aren't a bunch of lurkers on here pressing the "You're all a bunch of inet bullies".

ColleenS629

It depends on who it was. There are some people that I have been more able to open up to about it. Those are the people that I would feel comfortable being here with me. Like PPs said, I don't know if I would feel comfortable with most people knowing all about our TTC journey.

jodyrm

a&b=him&me:

Can I just say that I am proud there aren't a bunch of lurkers on here pressing the "You're all a bunch of inet bullies".

HAHA I thought the same thing! I'm like, darn there's gotta be ONE on here!