Stalling & frustration with daycare- come in if you have advice.

vanillacourage

We are in the preliminary stages of PTing DS.  He will go #1 on the potty about half the time - has not gone #2 yet.  He has also recognized that being on the potty is a sure-fire way of getting out of timeout, bed, etc - on one hand we've heard to keep books and other things in there so he sees the bathroom as a fun place; on the other hand, he'd sit in there for hours with no results if we let him.  We're not willing to spend an hour at a time on the bathroom floor, so eventually we say "all done!" and he has a tantrum.

Adding to issues is that his daycare has him try to go potty standing up, with a stool.  This works for them b/c the toilet is 18 inches off the ground.  He loves it, tries to do the same thing at home and of course it doesn't work b/c our toilet is regulation height and sticks out too far.  Then he tries a bunch of positions to try to make it work, ending up with his hands all over the bowl and back, which is unsanitary (especially if we're out in public).  I don't feel they should be doing a method of PTing at daycare that we can't replicate at home.

Any advice?  Been-there-done-that-and-this-is-what-worked?