Isn't it my news to tell?

nse712

This coming post might be a little immature for some of you, but I just need to vent.  

I was going to tell my mom and some other family tonight that I am pregnant.  My family (mom, grandma, brother and his GF, and sometimes a few others) get together once a week for dinner.  I told them I was going to make dessert for tonight, then I was going to make cupcakes and put chocolates molded into baby-related items on top of each one.  My mom just told me that she invited someone else to come tonight, and this is not a person I like very much (we'll call her K).  She is the kid of a guy my mom dated for several years way back when we were kids, and she's very much an attention-hog and pretty spoiled.  I didn't like her much back then because neither her nor her dad had much respect for my mom or her kids, but I like her less as an adult because she's very disrespectful and, like I said, an attention-hog.  I always felt my mom should be among the first in my family and my husband's family to know that I was pregnant, but I really don't want to announce it tonight with K there.  My DH leaves for a business trip next week and we've planned Labor Day weekend to be with his family and my dad's family so this is the last shot I have at telling my mom before we tell his everyone else.  I think she will be hurt to know that she wasn't among the first told.  It's not her fault because she doesn't know that we were going to make an announcement but I feel like this is my announcement to make when and to whom I want to.

What do you think?  Am I being stupid or am I justified in not wanting to make the announcement tonight? 

GreenBride624

I would say forget K and tell as planned!!! 

aj5oh00

I don't think you're being stupid at all...it's your news and you should only tell those that you are comfortable with telling.  Maybe you could go over early and talk with your mom before everyone gets there for dinner?  Sorry!

hisbabybear

how far along are you?

Can you just wait a couple weeks for everyone to be back in town and this girl not be there? 

Or if not, just forget her and tell everyone anyways. Maybe her being the attentions hog, it will just make her jealous or something.  

virginiagirl11

I've been in similar situations.  I know exactly how you feel.

Can you schedule another get-together with only your family this weekend or early next week and tell them then? 

nse712

I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow.  If I don't tell them tonight, I will tell my mom and family after Labor Day, but my DH and I already have plans to tell his family and my dad's family on Labor Day weekend, and I think my mom will be hurt for getting the announcement after all of them.

I'm afraid that if I share the news tonight, that K will turn it around and make it about her (she will have her 1-year-old with her).  Also, my mom has a tendency to put her before me when she's around.  I just feel like my announcement won't be about my baby if I make it tonight, but part of me wonders if that is just my emotions getting the best of me. 

nse712

I wish.  We're already committed to a camping trip this weekend with friends.  My DH leaves on a business trip on Morning and doesn't get back until midnight Thursday.  We leave on Friday to go be with his family for the start of Labor Day weekend.  I appreciate the idea though!

staycee

accidentally spill something on K and maybe she'll leave early.

staycee

or maybe preface your announcement with:  "I was really hoping it would just be family here tonight...."

if you really don't like her, maybe that will make her feel crappy.

TheCricket

It's too bad you couldn't just say no to your mom when she invited someone to dinner. But, forget K is there, and blab away! Who knows - she may be more gracious then you are prediciting. Either way - enjoy your night!

Bree4011

I would still do it. It sounds like the perfect time and you have it all planned out and such a cute idea.  Just pretend like she's not there.  My guess would be since she has a 1 year old that after you announce it she's going to start going on and on about HER experiences.  Well guess what, friends, family and strangers are going to do that through out your whole pregnancy.  So just think of it as practice.  Just smile and nod and say "oh that's interesting."

Whatever you do, try not to stress!  Good luck. 

shamyfowler

I think you should just tell everyone.  Like OP said, you'll have everyone gathered allready and you have a great plan all thought out.  It's such exciting news that the spotlight will be on you!  Your mom will be so excited for you.

Or if there's a way at all, maybe meet your mom beforehand?