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I'm new(ish) ~ can anyone empathize?
I've been lurking on the boards and posted here and there, I thought I'd introduce myself and see if anyone else is or ever was in my position. Sorry if this drags on, feel free to take a few breaks.
Im 21 and have been married going on 2 years. My husband is 28 and already has a 5 year old. I never thought I wanted kids... until about a month ago I thought I was PG - i was scared at first, then rapidly got used to the idea- It turned out to be a BF(false)P.
We're not ready, we're waiting a few years til he finishes school so I can stay home full time. my problem is that I want one now, not in 6 years. I cant stop picking out names and imagining cradling my baby.
what to do? anyone been here before?
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Re: I'm new(ish) ~ can anyone empathize?
I was there myself so I can completely understand where you're coming from. A little bit about me as well: I'm 24 DH is 25 we've been married 2 years (this October) and JUST decided to start trying. He was against it for a long time, atleast that's how it felt to me. We said we'd start as soon as we got married and that turned into our first wedding anniversary which turned into the turn of the new year which turned into maybe in 5 years (that was the decision made this past Feb) and then one day out of the blue he said he wanted a baby and he's been all about it ever since.
It's hard to say what to do. I tried to get some advice in some msgs on this site and did NOT get a positive response but ultimately I came to terms with it. I never stopped picking out baby names or imagining a baby seat in the back of the truck or how we'd tell our families or who I wanted to pick for Godparents and no one's saying you have to. You never know, maybe he'll come around sooner than you think. :-)
Just remember that, if you're not on the same page, it's not going to work. You're 21. You have plenty of time to get your lives in order, finances in order, be really ready to have a baby. And you'll have a lovely tween stepson to ooh and ahh over his little brother/sister.
GL