Good boy name compromise?

ScoobyM

DH and I have been in pretty different places on boy names this time around.  He really, really wants Henry and I just cannot get behind it.  I have tried it out various times but just can't get to where I really embrace it.  My favorites were Nicholas and Zachary and he doesn't like them and can't get past that either.

We did some lists and rankings and ended up agreeing last night that our #1 choice (leaving out our favorites above) is Noah, so you'd think that would be the end of it.  However, he then said "What if we did Henry Noah, but he could go by Noah."  I told him I'd think about it for a bit and see what I think.

So my question is - is that a reasonable compromise?  I kind of don't agree with naming the baby one thing then using something else;  if he's going to be Noah, then that should be his name - this isn't a family name at all or anything.  But DH says he would be thrilled if we could do this and agreed that he would also call the baby Noah. 

Thoughts?

AuNaturaleMT

...wouldn't that just be you compromising?!  I think 'Henry Nicholas' who goes by 'Nicholas' would be the actual compromise in his evil plan ...

hewinked

I don't get why your DH would be behind this, if you would just be calling him Noah.  What's the point of giving him the name Henry then, like DH wants?  I don't know.  But I do like the name Noah. 

ReniaB

ScoobyM:

 So my question is - is that a reasonable compromise?  I kind of don't agree with naming the baby one thing then using something else;  if he's going to be Noah, then that should be his name - this isn't a family name at all or anything.  But DH says he would be thrilled if we could do this and agreed that he would also call the baby Noah. 

Thoughts?

I agree 100%

As far as the compromise - your baby is most likely getting your husband's last name, you should have be able to use at least one of your favorite names, if not for the first then the mn.   

k*princess

I think that if he is going by Noah, his name should be Noah. There is no point otherwise, unless it is a family name, which you have already stated it is not.

Crispity

Grace0609:

Why must he have Henry be the first name??  Can you name him Noah Henry, which I think is a darling name, and have him be satisfied?

BTW, if you go with Noah, you will have the sib set I have always dreamed of : ).  If we ever get a sweet little girl, she will be Eleanor, and DS is Noah.  I love it.

I second Noah Henry! I think it's a bit weird for parents to plan on calling a child by their middle name, especially if it's not a family name. Love both names, by the way.

moonfaerie

Go with Noah Henry.

erinms

Another vote for Noah Henry.  If he is going to be called Noah then it is easier for him if you actually name him Noah.

MrsCFB

i think your child's first name should be whatever you plan on calling him/her (except for nicknames).

mrs.baum

Why not use Henry as the middle name? I agree with you. If his first name is Henry, there is a high probability that he will be called that. I think it's confusing to go by an entirely different name.

BelleBaby

I think Noah Henry sounds better.  I'm a big fan of naming your LO what you're going to call him/her.  If he's going to be Noah, name him Noah.

lovemytwoboys

No, that is not a good compromise. If Noah is the #1 name you both love leaving other favorite asides, then naming him Noah is the compromise. I would absolutely not name him Henry and call him by his middle name (especially since you don't even like Henry).

I love Noah, Nicholas and Zachary (but not Henry), so I'm on your side 

My DH and I went through something similar when trying to name DS2. We finally got it down to 3 names we could both agree on and went into the delivery room with those 3: Noah, Patrick and Jacob. Patrick was my favorite. Jacob was DH's favorite. Noah was one we both loved but wasn't really our favorite. So you would think Noah would have been the compromise for us. However, DH left it up to me. After DS was born, he looked the most like a Jacob to me and it just seemed right, so I chose Jacob. I'm crazy, I know. I still wish his name was Patrick - lol!

 

Soto Pop

how about noah henry?

LPace84

Noah Henry is a a compromise.  Henry Noah is your H being a douche.  It really makes me mad when one parent is so adamant about a name that they totally disregard the others fellings.  This baby is both of yours and you both should agree on the name.  The only time that I might make an excpetion is a family name and then I feel like I should have been forwarned about said mandatory family name before the marriage.

What is his hang up on Henry anyway? This type of arguement is the thing I dread the most about having children with my DH.  You should've heard us trying to agree on names for our dogs.  I will be counting on you ladies for back up when the time comes.

dancedance1

As someone who's gone by their middle name their whole life, please don't do this to your child.  Call him whatever his first name is - things will be SO much easier for him.

ScoobyM

Thanks so much, ladies!  I think Noah Henry sounds wonderful and you're right, it is a much better compromise.  I really do agree that his first name should be what he's called, otherwise what is the point?  The way he said it when he made this suggestion, it doesn't seem like DH is going to be a jerk about it - I think he just thought he'd give it one last shot, but if I tell him I just don't like the idea I'm anticipating he'll give up. I have no idea why he loves Henry so much, he just gets an idea in his head and has a hard time giving it up!  Eleanor was actually his suggestion first but I really loved it so it worked out with our DD.  Come to think of it, maybe he has a thing for ancient English monarchs!