Flame Free Confessions, anyone?

lilmgirl

lissa_emily:

bookworm10:

lissa_emily:

I have another one which is pretty flameful.  I hate the fact that my Aunt's won't do anything for me.  In my family its tradition that the Aunt's throw a shower.  They gave my sister a beautiful baby shower last year, and nothing for my wedding shower.  Now that I am pregnant, I know they won't be throwing a shower for me, and it makes me sad.  Yes I know, I shouldn't feel this way, and I shouldn't worry about having a shower or not, I would just like for once someone to throw something for me out of the goodness of their own heart, and not have my mom have to throw me one because no one else did.

 

But why wont they if its tradition? This would hurt my feelings too!

That my dear is the million $ question.  From what I can see, I am the only one in my family that did things the "normal" way.  Graduated from college, got a good job, met DH got married and am now having a child.  All the other females, had their babies in high school, or were in their early 20's, dropped out etc etc.  So they needed the help.  Since I have 2 incomes, and a steady partner, I guess they see it as I don't need the help.

It was the same way with my wedding shower.  Mom got everyone together a week before the wedding, at a restaurant (that I hate lol) and we had dinner.  It was nice, but it shouldn't be my mom doing it. 

Ah, the "penalties" of actually being successful in life.  I'm in a similar situation and I know what you mean.

Mrs.Johns

LCB34:

Mrs.Johns:

Along the lines of the house thing.... If I hear your parents either 1. paid your down payment or 2. helped with the down payment I am immediately NOT impressed by your home purchase. Immediately. I don't care if it's a freaking castle with a cherry on top. In my eyes a home is something that you should work hard for and taking money for a down payment is pretty pathetic. Even if my parents offered it to me I don't think I could have accepted it because that would take away from the fact that we did it all by ourselves.

I agree with this to an extent.  If a couple is looking to mom and dad to put forth the money then yes I agree.

However, I got a pretty big scholarship to college - my parents also had a full college fund ready and waiting.  Since I earned my scholarship, my college money was then treated like a trust that I was entitled to at the age of 21.  We used it for part of our down payment.

I don't feel like I didn't earn that money - b/c I did.  I worked my ass off to get scholarships (and keep them) and the reward was having money post-graduation for something other than my education.  It allowed us to buy a home, that we could afford, much sooner.

 

I think that's a bit different if you had a scholarship and then they gave you the $ that they had saved up. If they were giving you the $ anyway then it doesn't matter what you used it for.

MJHershey

lissa_emily:

bookworm10:

lissa_emily:

I have another one which is pretty flameful.  I hate the fact that my Aunt's won't do anything for me.  In my family its tradition that the Aunt's throw a shower.  They gave my sister a beautiful baby shower last year, and nothing for my wedding shower.  Now that I am pregnant, I know they won't be throwing a shower for me, and it makes me sad.  Yes I know, I shouldn't feel this way, and I shouldn't worry about having a shower or not, I would just like for once someone to throw something for me out of the goodness of their own heart, and not have my mom have to throw me one because no one else did.

 

But why wont they if its tradition? This would hurt my feelings too!

That my dear is the million $ question.  From what I can see, I am the only one in my family that did things the "normal" way.  Graduated from college, got a good job, met DH got married and am now having a child.  All the other females, had their babies in high school, or were in their early 20's, dropped out etc etc.  So they needed the help.  Since I have 2 incomes, and a steady partner, I guess they see it as I don't need the help.

It was the same way with my wedding shower.  Mom got everyone together a week before the wedding, at a restaurant (that I hate lol) and we had dinner.  It was nice, but it shouldn't be my mom doing it. 

I always thought it was more of a celebration of the marriage or a new life instead of the presents. I guess your aunts don't see it that way? Sad that you do things the "right way" and you seem to get ignored for it.

Me thinks the tradition needs to be changed if you have uncooperative aunts. 

Mrs.Johns

lissa_emily:

bookworm10:

lissa_emily:

I have another one which is pretty flameful.  I hate the fact that my Aunt's won't do anything for me.  In my family its tradition that the Aunt's throw a shower.  They gave my sister a beautiful baby shower last year, and nothing for my wedding shower.  Now that I am pregnant, I know they won't be throwing a shower for me, and it makes me sad.  Yes I know, I shouldn't feel this way, and I shouldn't worry about having a shower or not, I would just like for once someone to throw something for me out of the goodness of their own heart, and not have my mom have to throw me one because no one else did.

 

But why wont they if its tradition? This would hurt my feelings too!

That my dear is the million $ question.  From what I can see, I am the only one in my family that did things the "normal" way.  Graduated from college, got a good job, met DH got married and am now having a child.  All the other females, had their babies in high school, or were in their early 20's, dropped out etc etc.  So they needed the help.  Since I have 2 incomes, and a steady partner, I guess they see it as I don't need the help.

It was the same way with my wedding shower.  Mom got everyone together a week before the wedding, at a restaurant (that I hate lol) and we had dinner.  It was nice, but it shouldn't be my mom doing it. 

I'm sorry.

That doesn't mean that your baby should not be celebrated. If I was your mom I'd be so pissed at them for not doing the same for you as they did for the other girls.

Monkey304

Monkey304:

Mrs. K in TX:

missesru:

I hate when people act like owning a home and getting a mortgage is a right that they are entitled to. 

A few days ago there was a post with a link to an article concerning a couple who was turned down for a mortgage "because she was pregnant".  If you read the details, they were turned down because she was not going to be working anymore and they did not qualify for the mortgage based on the husband's income alone.  Of course you'll be turned down - and you should thank the bank for that - because you can't afford it!!  All the focus was on that the pregnancy was the direct cause of the decline.. which it obviously wasn't.

This drives me nuts.

Or what about the lady who thought stores should let her use their private restrooms just because she's pregnant?  Uhhh.... Does she want to pay their insurance premiums?

She's an adult and knows she has to pee all the time.  She should plan her trips accordingly.  

However, I do think it's stupid if maternity stores or baby stores don't have a restroom.  Hello?  Your target audience has to pee ALL the time.  

Was that REALLY what I said? No it wasn't. I asked if they had to, that was all. I didn't say that I was entitled. Reading comprehension isn't your strong suit.

And like I said previously I did go to the bathroom before I left, but ya know what? I had to go again 10 minutes later. I know it's shocking.

And another thing, I was in a baby store.

 

jessie395

heatherglen814:

jessie395:

I don't want my LO calling my DD "sissy". I can't stand it, and some people are already referring to her as the "big sissy". It really makes my skin crawl.

Ugh, I agree with you completely on that. I hate people referring to LO as "Baby Kathryn". I don't know why, but it bugs the mess out of me. I understand that she is a baby. That's a given... but her name is KATHRYN, not Baby. 

It's horrible. I tell them just because DD is going to be a big sister, you don't have to call her "sissy"! Grrr!

I love your LOs name. We are naming our LO Sara Katherine.

t.bird

vent posts are usually stupid. so are most of the "complaints".

i highly doubt anyone cares that you:

 

• hate your co-worker
• are annoyed by your SIL
• pissed that your MIL keeps calling you or
• wish that your bff wouldn't ignore you cause you're ku.

also- stop complaining about people saying very predictable things- like:

 

• "wow, you must be due soon!"
• "you're gonna be hot this summer!"
• "just you wait until the baby gets here...!" and etc etc.

seriously- how much does it really infuriate or offend you. people have been saying these things to pregnant women for years- and you're not special so don't expect them to leave you out.

and lastly- people are going to try to touch your belly. get over it. no need to see red.

Monkey304

lissa_emily:

bookworm10:

lissa_emily:

I have another one which is pretty flameful.  I hate the fact that my Aunt's won't do anything for me.  In my family its tradition that the Aunt's throw a shower.  They gave my sister a beautiful baby shower last year, and nothing for my wedding shower.  Now that I am pregnant, I know they won't be throwing a shower for me, and it makes me sad.  Yes I know, I shouldn't feel this way, and I shouldn't worry about having a shower or not, I would just like for once someone to throw something for me out of the goodness of their own heart, and not have my mom have to throw me one because no one else did.

 

But why wont they if its tradition? This would hurt my feelings too!

That my dear is the million $ question.  From what I can see, I am the only one in my family that did things the "normal" way.  Graduated from college, got a good job, met DH got married and am now having a child.  All the other females, had their babies in high school, or were in their early 20's, dropped out etc etc.  So they needed the help.  Since I have 2 incomes, and a steady partner, I guess they see it as I don't need the help.

It was the same way with my wedding shower.  Mom got everyone together a week before the wedding, at a restaurant (that I hate lol) and we had dinner.  It was nice, but it shouldn't be my mom doing it. 

It's almost like you are being punished for doing things the "right" way.

Bailey81

The more I read about bleeding nipples, thrush, and leakage, the less I want to breastfeed.

ETA: I intend to breastfeed. I don't have to be in love with the whole process. 

Mrs.Johns

lissasue3:

I agree with MrsJ.  To me that's still Mommy and Daddy money.  It's great that you worked your butt off but it was not your earned money.

Yeah, it's still not as impressive as doing it yourself but at least it's not as much of a handout as other people get.

My aunt and uncle paid for 100% of my cousins' school-- undergrad, grad, law plus their rent. Bought my 1 cousin a condo. Gave them cars (audi), paid for weddings and are now giving 20% as a down payment to each of their houses. In my eyes, that is pathetic. Do something for your damn self!

ETA: Oh, and my cousins brag about how awesome their house is as if it was all them.. lol

KatieM1106

S/O housing complaints... I originally blamed people more than the banks, but, after my refinancing experience, I give equal blame.

We wanted to refinance to re-do our bathroom. My husband got our house for an amazing price, and has put countless hours of labor into it, and I have put some serious time into it as well since getting married.

We have done everything we can on our own, and needed to refinance to do the last few major things that needed to be done.

Well, we asked at every major bank in the area, while interest rates were low. And no big bank would let us refinance at a low rate, because we were NOT BORROWING ENOUGH MONEY. Seriously. I have to go into more debt to get a good rate? We finally found a local bank that loaned responsibly, so was not affected by the crisis, and they let us refinance for a little loan at a god rate.

MrsG NC

My mother (who I have a fairly interesting relationship with) insists that LO should call her "Gigi" and talks about this constantly. It is pretty much one of the only things she talks about regarding LO. She tells everyone how she is not grandma, she is "Gigi".

 I'm going to make sure LO calls her Grandma.

Emjay221

jessie395:

I don't want my LO calling my DD "sissy". I can't stand it, and some people are already referring to her as the "big sissy". It really makes my skin crawl.

I totally agree.  I think it sounds back-woods trailer.  I know a girl who calls her daughter Sissy and her son Bubby, and of course the kids call each other that.  I feel like leaving every time she says it. 

My BF's family calls him Bubba.  God only knows why... this is an upper-class family from South Florida and they are all high-educated, and he sure doesn't look like a Bubba.  I refuse to call him that and only call him Paul.  Even if his mom says "Can you ask Bubba to come in here?"  I reply with "Sure... PAUL, your mom needs you for a minute."  Hate that!! 

Venus04d:

Since I'm dehydrated I am drinking TONS and TONS of water. I've already had a gallon since I got home at 7 am. (And therefore peed 15 times) I will have one freaking capri sun if I want to today, I don't care what my DH says.

 

Tell him Capri Sun is flavored water!  It still counts as water/fluids.  Capri Sun is GREAT!!!

PB1980:

(1) I hate the smell of Johnson & Johnson baby products and will not use them on my child. I hate it even more when adults use baby products for themselves. When a grown woman passes me on the street, and she smells like baby lotion or baby oil, I want to vomit.

(2) I hate when people lick their fingers to turn pages or count money. This is disgusting and I don't understand it.

1.  I thought i was the only one who doesn't like Johnson's.  The smell turns my stomach.  I preferred Baby Magic because it didn't smell, when I used lotion at all.  

2.  I agree.  I think finger lickers are GROSS!!! 

 

And I totally agree on Pooh stuff for baby.  I won't buy a single thing.  This Pooh thing was so overdone through the 90's, why is it still going strong??? 

 

 

 

kehgirl

bookworm10:

I judge people who do not like dogs for no apparent reason. If teh person had a negative experience I can respect that but those who just generally don't like them are a little suspect to me.

I also do not like when people come into my house and try to tell me how my dogs should not do this or that. My dogs are very well trained
(they slip up here and there) and I am a very overly responsible pet owner. Please do not try to tell me how to "raise" my dogs. They live here... you don't... if you do not like them you are welcome to use the door

I wish I could say this to my MIL and SIL.  They refuse to come in the house if the dog is out.  So DH makes me put the dog outside or in the garage   I hate that and I wish I could tell them to fvck off and stop being such babies.

MJHershey

t.bird:

vent posts are usually stupid. so are most of the "complaints".

A vent is just that- letting off steam for something you probably will be fine about later, or resolve if needed.  The only vents I hate are the ones that say we are all meanies and need to play nice.

BallSox

lissasue3:

I agree with MrsJ.  To me that's still Mommy and Daddy money.  It's great that you worked your butt off but it was not your earned money.

I disagree, it was money set aside for her to go to college.  She worked her butt off making her own money and therefore could use the gifted money as she saw fit.  If her scholarships were no-strings-attached cash that she could have used for her down-payment, you would say she worked for it.  But since it *had* to be used for specific schooling expenses, the money previous set aside for those expenses "paid her back" so to speak.  

 

FancyFeet10

Mrs.Johns:

Along the lines of the house thing.... If I hear your parents either 1. paid your down payment or 2. helped with the down payment I am immediately NOT impressed by your home purchase. Immediately. I don't care if it's a freaking castle with a cherry on top. In my eyes a home is something that you should work hard for and taking money for a down payment is pretty pathetic. Even if my parents offered it to me I don't think I could have accepted it because that would take away from the fact that we did it all by ourselves.

My parents have offered to help b/c that is what their parents did for them. We live in a very HCOL area and the minimum down payment is 3.5%.  A modest townhouse around here is at least $320,000 (i.e. down payment is $11,200).  I know very few people who have that kind of money just sitting in an account (and yes, both of us work and save as much as we can).  Will we pay them back if we accept their offer?  Yup.  Do I think it's pathetic? Nope.

LCB34

Mrs.Johns:

lissasue3:

I agree with MrsJ.  To me that's still Mommy and Daddy money.  It's great that you worked your butt off but it was not your earned money.

Yeah, it's still not as impressive as doing it yourself but at least it's not as much of a handout as other people get.

So my financial stability is not as impressive since I got a scholarship to college, had money left in my college fund, and used it responsibly.  Noted. 

I am just doing well b/c of "mommy and daddy" money.  Point taken. 

 

 

t.bird

PB1980:

t.bird:

vent posts are usually stupid. so are most of the "complaints".

i highly doubt anyone cares that you:

• hate your co-worker
• are annoyed by your SIL
• pissed that your MIL keeps calling you or
• wish that your bff wouldn't ignore you cause you're ku.

also- stop complaining about people saying very predictable things- like:

• "wow, you must be due soon!"
• "you're gonna be hot this summer!"
• "just you wait until the baby gets here...!" and etc etc.

seriously- how much does it really infuriate or offend you. people have been saying these things to pregnant women for years- and you're not special so don't expect them to leave you out.

and lastly- people are going to try to touch your belly. get over it. no need to see red.

Isn't this a vent post?

nope- this is a flame free confession.

Estellankase

MrsG NC:

My mother (who I have a fairly interesting relationship with) insists that LO should call her "Gigi" and talks about this constantly. It is pretty much one of the only things she talks about regarding LO. She tells everyone how she is not grandma, she is "Gigi".

 I'm going to make sure LO calls her Grandma.

I'm just curious, why Gigi?  My grandmother and I thought it would be cute if LO called her Gigi but because Great Grandma=GG=GiGi and LO has two great-grandmas (the another one claimed great-grandma a while back).  My mom will just be grandma.

Venus04d

Bailey81:

The more I read about bleeding nipples, thrush, and leakage, the less I want to breastfeed.

I have no opposition to women who choose to FF because they physically can't, it isn't practical b/c of work, etc.

I think reasons like I don't want my nipples to hurt and bleed are selfish and immature. 

Why do so many people expect motherhood to be painless these days? 

CinemaGoddess

bookworm10:

I judge people who do not like dogs for no apparent reason. If teh person had a negative experience I can respect that but those who just generally don't like them are a little suspect to me.

I feel this way about people who don't like cats for no apparent reason.  It's a cat.  It doesn't do anything but lay around and look surly, then pissed off, then surly again, then it wants to love on you until you feed it and then it looks surly again.   

KJmashup

flgirl79:

I resent my sister for not playing a more active role in my kids' lives. I get that she is enjoying the single, kid-free life, but she could at least hang out with them once in a while.

I can relate. My LO isn't here yet, but my single, kid-free sister has not been very involved in my pregnancy at all. In fact, she said she would not be attending my baby shower if it had been held during Labor Day weekend because she's going to the lake and getting trashed that entire weekend. She's 33. Nice, huh? 

Mrs.Johns

FancyFeet10:

Mrs.Johns:

Along the lines of the house thing.... If I hear your parents either 1. paid your down payment or 2. helped with the down payment I am immediately NOT impressed by your home purchase. Immediately. I don't care if it's a freaking castle with a cherry on top. In my eyes a home is something that you should work hard for and taking money for a down payment is pretty pathetic. Even if my parents offered it to me I don't think I could have accepted it because that would take away from the fact that we did it all by ourselves.

My parents have offered to help b/c that is what their parents did for them. We live in a very HCOL area and the minimum down payment is 3.5%.  A modest townhouse around here is at least $320,000 (i.e. down payment is $11,200).  I know very few people who have that kind of money just sitting in an account (and yes, both of us work and save as much as we can).  Will we pay them back if we accept their offer?  Yup.  Do I think it's pathetic? Nope.

I live right outside of Boston and we bought our own house with no help. It's still a handout. That's why it's hard to buy a house, because you have to be patient while you save.

mchupie

I haven't been to Walmart in 8 or so years.  I just can't bring myself to shop there, even though there is one right down the street and I'm the kind of person who always wants to get the lowest price on everything.

Venus04d

t.bird:

PB1980:

t.bird:

vent posts are usually stupid. so are most of the "complaints".

i highly doubt anyone cares that you:

• hate your co-worker
• are annoyed by your SIL
• pissed that your MIL keeps calling you or
• wish that your bff wouldn't ignore you cause you're ku.

also- stop complaining about people saying very predictable things- like:

• "wow, you must be due soon!"
• "you're gonna be hot this summer!"
• "just you wait until the baby gets here...!" and etc etc.

seriously- how much does it really infuriate or offend you. people have been saying these things to pregnant women for years- and you're not special so don't expect them to leave you out.

and lastly- people are going to try to touch your belly. get over it. no need to see red.

Isn't this a vent post?

nope- this is a flame free confession.

 

FancyFeet10

bookworm10:

I judge people who do not like dogs for no apparent reason. If teh person had a negative experience I can respect that but those who just generally don't like them are a little suspect to me.

I had a roommate that didn't like pets...AT ALL.  She couldn't understand why people had them in their house.  Her comment to me once was "People think I'm weird because I don't like animals."  Ummm, yeah...

Mrs.Johns

LCB34:

Mrs.Johns:

lissasue3:

I agree with MrsJ.  To me that's still Mommy and Daddy money.  It's great that you worked your butt off but it was not your earned money.

Yeah, it's still not as impressive as doing it yourself but at least it's not as much of a handout as other people get.

So my financial stability is not as impressive since I got a scholarship to college, had money left in my college fund, and used it responsibly.  Noted. 

I am just doing well b/c of "mommy and daddy" money.  Point taken. 

 

 

They could have very well kept the money for themselves or used it to pay for your wedding or saved it for their own retirement. I'm not sure if I had saved for LO's college and they got a scholarship that I'd be handing over the whole thing like a trust. I mean you did work hard and that's awesome, but you still received a large sum from your parents. You'd still have received the scholarships even if there wasn't a college fund waiting.

MJHershey

This is kinda off of the redhead post... and probably pretty flameful.

I hope that LO does not look like my MIL, her brother (DH's uncle), or her dad (DH's grandpa- who is also a jerk). Especially if we have a girl next. They all have very prominent noses and brows.

Not only for that reason but because MIL will do the same thing mentioned earlier- act all possessive and say it looks just like HER. She already forgets that I have a whole set of genes to contribute to the child and it's not just about her family.

gemrae1225

LCB34:

Mrs.Johns:

lissasue3:

I agree with MrsJ.  To me that's still Mommy and Daddy money.  It's great that you worked your butt off but it was not your earned money.

Yeah, it's still not as impressive as doing it yourself but at least it's not as much of a handout as other people get.

So my financial stability is not as impressive since I got a scholarship to college, had money left in my college fund, and used it responsibly.  Noted. 

I am just doing well b/c of "mommy and daddy" money.  Point taken. 

 

 

LCB, I genuinely love 99% of your posts.  You have a lot of good insight and an upbeat attitude.  I like that.  Today you made me laugh out loud.  Thank you. 

 

I find it amusing that you have the audacity to look down at those who choose different life paths, (Im referring to the SAHW/SAHM post) but you feel ENTITLED to a reward/hand-out for something you were supposed to do anyway.  Isn't it our jobs to do the best we can at something?  I worked my a$$, saved my a$$ off, and paid for my own house.  I would be mortified if I were given a hand out that I felt I didn't necessarily deserve.

Bailey81

Venus04d:

Bailey81:

The more I read about bleeding nipples, thrush, and leakage, the less I want to breastfeed.

I have no opposition to women who choose to FF because they physically can't, it isn't practical b/c of work, etc.

I think reasons like I don't want my nipples to hurt and bleed are selfish and immature. 

Why do so many people expect motherhood to be painless these days? 

Oh, I'm going to breastfeed. These things just freak me out.

FancyFeet10

Mrs.Johns:

FancyFeet10:

Mrs.Johns:

Along the lines of the house thing.... If I hear your parents either 1. paid your down payment or 2. helped with the down payment I am immediately NOT impressed by your home purchase. Immediately. I don't care if it's a freaking castle with a cherry on top. In my eyes a home is something that you should work hard for and taking money for a down payment is pretty pathetic. Even if my parents offered it to me I don't think I could have accepted it because that would take away from the fact that we did it all by ourselves.

My parents have offered to help b/c that is what their parents did for them. We live in a very HCOL area and the minimum down payment is 3.5%.  A modest townhouse around here is at least $320,000 (i.e. down payment is $11,200).  I know very few people who have that kind of money just sitting in an account (and yes, both of us work and save as much as we can).  Will we pay them back if we accept their offer?  Yup.  Do I think it's pathetic? Nope.

I live right outside of Boston and we bought our own house with no help. It's still a handout. That's why it's hard to buy a house, because you have to be patient while you save.

Why is it a handout if I didn't ask for and we're paying them back (that's if we even accept their offer).  I can understand people who go looking for the money, but they approached us, not the other way around. And no, it's not like we even complained/talked to them about it.  We are being patient while we save, but they bring it up, not us!

srthomas88

kehgirl:

bookworm10:

I judge people who do not like dogs for no apparent reason. If teh person had a negative experience I can respect that but those who just generally don't like them are a little suspect to me.

I also do not like when people come into my house and try to tell me how my dogs should not do this or that. My dogs are very well trained
(they slip up here and there) and I am a very overly responsible pet owner. Please do not try to tell me how to "raise" my dogs. They live here... you don't... if you do not like them you are welcome to use the door

I wish I could say this to my MIL and SIL.  They refuse to come in the house if the dog is out.  So DH makes me put the dog outside or in the garage   I hate that and I wish I could tell them to fvck off and stop being such babies.

I would put MIL and SIL in the garage!  My MIL hated my dog the first time she came to visit.  Kept telling me, "I'm just not a dog person" and would push my dog away if it was within 5 feet of her.  Made my blood boil!

lilmgirl

mchupie:

I haven't been to Walmart in 8 or so years.  I just can't bring myself to shop there, even though there is one right down the street and I'm the kind of person who always wants to get the lowest price on everything.

Admit it - you just don't want to be on the peopleofwalmart blog

MJHershey

Venus04d:

Why do so many people expect motherhood to be painless these days? 

 

Because these days, everyone wants everything to be painless and easy without effort on their part. 

Venus04d

lissa_emily:

mchupie:

I haven't been to Walmart in 8 or so years.  I just can't bring myself to shop there, even though there is one right down the street and I'm the kind of person who always wants to get the lowest price on everything.

I hate Walmart too.

Me too. I can't and won't support that company with my money.

Monkey304

amy052006:

KJmashup:

flgirl79:

I resent my sister for not playing a more active role in my kids' lives. I get that she is enjoying the single, kid-free life, but she could at least hang out with them once in a while.

I can relate. My LO isn't here yet, but my single, kid-free sister has not been very involved in my pregnancy at all. In fact, she said she would not be attending my baby shower if it had been held during Labor Day weekend because she's going to the lake and getting trashed that entire weekend. She's 33. Nice, huh? 

Um, I am pregnant and I wouldn't attend a baby shower for anyone on Labor Day weekend.  Or any other holiday for that matter.

I think her point was her sister said she wasn't coming because she was going to get drunk.

t.bird

gemrae1225:

I would be mortified if I were given a hand out that I felt I didn't necessarily deserve.

what would make you feel like you did deserve a handout?

Mrs.Johns

FancyFeet10:

Why is it a handout if I didn't ask for and we're paying them back (that's if we even accept their offer).  I can understand people who go looking for the money, but they approached us, not the other way around. And no, it's not like we even complained/talked to them about it.  We are being patient while we save, but they bring it up, not us!

If you didn't ask for it and you are surely paying it back then it's a loan. However, if you don't pay it back then it's a handout. Personally, I'd want to wait and do the whole thing myself!

MrsG NC

Estellankase:

MrsG NC:

My mother (who I have a fairly interesting relationship with) insists that LO should call her "Gigi" and talks about this constantly. It is pretty much one of the only things she talks about regarding LO. She tells everyone how she is not grandma, she is "Gigi".

 I'm going to make sure LO calls her Grandma.

I'm just curious, why Gigi?  My grandmother and I thought it would be cute if LO called her Gigi but because Great Grandma=GG=GiGi and LO has two great-grandmas (the another one claimed great-grandma a while back).  My mom will just be grandma.

Simply the fact that she does not want to be called "Grandma". She has never flat out said it, but she HATES the idea of being called Grandma. She is not one to act her age.