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Maybe a dumb CO question.

lvkeanu2lvkeanu2
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BM and DH have joint custody but she has physical custody (we live in a different state).

In CO- holidays, birthdays are all spelled out, along with 1 weekend a month (at DH's choosing-with 14 day notice given in advance if exercising). We live so far away so we don't get to exercise it EVERY month.

So my question is this, if DH exercises a weekend (during school year) where the kids go back to school Monday but are out of school Tues for (election/teacher workday/etc) can he choose to (with notice to the BM of course)keep the child out of school that extra day (Monday)? In the CO it states if he does have children out of school he is responsible for informing the school, so I know he CAN keep the kid out of school just not totally sure if he and BM HAVE to agree on that. She doesn't HAVE to agree to the weekend, he just has to inform her 14 days in advance in the CO. We know she kept the kid out of school extra day to start Memorial Day weekend early and we weren't thrilled with that so only if NO other option can be figured out would we EVER have the kid miss school.

Sorry if this sounds like a douchey question. TIA for info.

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  • mom2onemom2one member
    If it's in the CO he can. Often there is a provision for '3 day weekends' saying that whoever has the child on the weekend gets the extra day. If it's not in there, then no...
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  • lvkeanu2lvkeanu2

    sorry if I didn't explain properly. If Monday were the holiday from school there would be no question, I know he gets that day. But Monday is a school day and Tuesday is the holiday so he would be choosing to have the kid be absent a day and return to BM on Tuesday evening in time for school on Wednesday.

     

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  • SWmamaSWmama member

    Unless it's spelled out in the CO not to, you can. Although I personally wouldn't since I'm a stickler about school attendance.

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  • mom2onemom2one member
    Oh...no then. If it's a school day the 3 day weekend thing obviously doesn't apply.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    I don't know whether you CAN, but I would pitch a fit of exH tried to force me into making DS miss school.

    A big, family vacation would be one thing.. and I wouldn't have a problem with that (as long as it wasn't every year or something). But missing school just to do whatever? No way.

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  • knmommyknmommy
    bad idea.  I have never heard  of a school holiday on a Tuesday.  (without having the Monday off)
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