Another quick clicky poll: time with your children.

CleoKitty

I'm currently reading a piece about parenting that ran in the NYT a couple days ago. The one thing that jumped out at me is that parents today spend more time with their children than in the past but most parents still feel like they don't get enough time together. I'm curious to see if that runs true here.
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Rebekah1021

I am confident that I spend enough time with her considering she'd crawl up my butt.

DH wishes he gets to spend more time with her though.

august06mom

Do you have a link to the article?

CleoKitty

august06mom:

Do you have a link to the article?

I think you'll find it interesting:

https://nymag.com/news/features/67024/?imw=Y&f=most-viewed-24h10

TheNextWest

I definitely do since I'm with them pretty much 24/7! Most days he does, but there are some weeks (like leading up to a holiday last week) where he has to work longer hours, and he doesn't get to see them as much during the week. But for the most part, I'd say with both do and it's all QUALITY time, either way.

ali-1411

I need another option.  Put me down for; 

I have too much time with my kids.  When does school start?

katie277s

Well I am gone for 9ish hours a day at work, and DH is gone the same amount of time at school.  DS is at school 10 hours a day.  I hate that he is there that long, but we can't afford for me to stay home with him.  So, no I don't feel like either of us spend enough time with him, but when we are with him, we make it fun. 

Emiliana7

Since I'm a SAH I know I spend lots of time with DD. For the most part its quality time too.

However my DH thinks he spends time with DD but really he just happens to be in the same room with her (he watches tv and plays video games way too much). I don't think the amount is what matters I think its the quality of it.

I had to brooch the subject just recently to DH that he needs to interact with DD more in a positive play way. It had gotten to the point the only attention he was giving her was when he needed to tell her 'no' or ' don't'.

It was actually starting to get on my nerves, having the only words spoke to DD from DH be negative reprooches.

august06mom

CleoKitty:

august06mom:

Do you have a link to the article?

I think you'll find it interesting:

https://nymag.com/news/features/67024/?imw=Y&f=most-viewed-24h10

This is funny. I was reading this same exact article this morning,and when you said NYT, I thought you meant the Times. I was wondering if they'd both run the same story the same week.

CleoKitty

august06mom:

CleoKitty:

august06mom:

Do you have a link to the article?

I think you'll find it interesting:

https://nymag.com/news/features/67024/?imw=Y&f=most-viewed-24h10

This is funny. I was reading this same exact article this morning,and when you said NYT, I thought you meant the Times. I was wondering if they'd both run the same story the same week.

Oops. I did mean NY Times but obviously was wrong, LOL. My bad. 

Carol*Brady

I feel like I get too much & really couldn't get any more since I spend virtually every waking moment w/ them.

joseysbride

I feel like I spend as much time as possible with my kids, but it isn't enough for me.  I wish I could spend more time with them.  Make sense?  I mean, I am at work all day.  I am with them for a couple hours in the morning, and then when I pick them up, very rarely do I do anything other than hang with them until they go to bed.  We spend every weekend together.  It is rare that we even get a babysitter to go out for a couple of hours, and Rory does spend a night at her grandparents once every couple months.

So, I spend all the time I can, but I would love to work less so I'd have more time with them.

laughteriskey

We both spend a great deal of time with them.  My concern is the quality of the time spent though....I would say that 85% of the time I spend w/them is NOT quality time.  It's simply maintenance.  I would say Joe's percentage is a bit higher as his time with them is a lot less than my time with them.  I think he's probably at a 50/50 ratio....50% of the time he spends with them is quality time. 

I'm hoping that once I get a job, although I will be spending LESS time with them, that it increases the percentage of quality time I spend with them.

lilpiglet

katie277s:

Well I am gone for 9ish hours a day at work, and DH is gone the same amount of time at school.  DS is at school 10 hours a day.  I hate that he is there that long, but we can't afford for me to stay home with him.  So, no I don't feel like either of us spend enough time with him, but when we are with him, we make it fun. 

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LeeProDJ

Great article! I am a pre-TTC Bumpie who is very apprehensive about parenthood. This article really put into words a lot of the fears and quandaries I have been mulling over in my head. Things that I think about, that people who either have children, or have "always known" they want children just don't seem to understand. Thanks for the link!

summerbrideDC

I read that article a few days ago & it was farking depressing! LOL 

 

SMHWife

DH and I both work... so neither one of us get lots of time with her during the week.  But the weekends are much better.  I just feel sometimes, when I put her to bed at night, that I didn't have enought time to do all the things I want to do with her in the evening. 

heyitsme

Well, I feel like I should spend more time with DD. I really wish I could be a SAHM. So with my working, I do feel like I don't spend enough time with her. DH spends even less time with her than I do because he works 2 jobs. He only sees her on Thurs nights, Saturdays (during the day) and all day Sunday... and of course in the morning when we're all rushing around to get ready.

winomom22

I do now, but I fear I won't when DD#1 starts school since I work the evening shift 3 nights a week, but I am hoping to cut back.