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Due date looming after m/c...send flowers?

My BFF's due date is approaching quickly (June 6). I know she won't want to talk or anything that day so I don't want to plan something for her but I thought maybe I would send her some flowers to let her know I am thinking of her and I am here if she wants to talk.



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Re: Due date looming after m/c...send flowers?

  • I can tell you personally that would have meant so much to me. I'm not sure how she would take it, as people handle it differently.

    I can just tell you that one of the biggest issues (for me) with the m/c was feeling ashamed about it happening, and almost feeling like it wasn't technically a pregnancy. So to have someone recognize it & just let them know they are thinking of you means the world. 

    you are a good friend. 

  • I would have loved it. To have someone acknowledge the due date would have meant the world to me.
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  • Ditto PP. I felt like I had to hide my emotions and that made the day so much worse. I felt (and still feel) like people think I should just get over it. NO one mentioned my EDD. It was like pouring lemon juice in a raw open wound.

    I think you are a wonderful friend for doing this.

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  • I did this for a gf of mine when her m/c due date was arriving (it was right before Mother's Day too). A simple "thinking of you" with some flowers, she said it meant a lot to her.

    I don't know, a small acknowledgment just seemed like the right thing. If she doesn't want to address it she doesn't have to but at least she knows you love and are thinking of her. 

  • For some reason my first reaction was NO, but the more I think about it the more I realize that it would have meant a lot to me.  Other than DH, no one ever said anything about the m/c's that far out.  It would have been nice to know that someone else was thinking about me. 

  • I think it's a great idea. You're a good friend to do this for her.
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  • I think it's a lovely idea.  We got flowers on Jillian's due date and it meant the world to me.
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  • I had a couple of friends send me cards for my first EDD and it meant a lot to me that they were thinking of my baby that day. She may not respond, but I am sure it would mean so much to her that you were thinking of her and remembered the day.

    My third EDD is on 6/7 - my little boy - and I know no one remembers. It's already breaking my heart.

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