Ok so my DH is military and we live in Japan currently. Dh is deployed but his little sister is getting married in july and I am flying there for her wedding.All the family keeps telling me all the stuff they are buying for my baby girl. Is it wrong to just ask if we can have a baby shower? I mean, my dad will be meeting me there when I come back and DH's WHOLE family will be there. I'm not trying to be selfish and want a party, I just think it might be nice since I haven't met all of his family and it would be nice to include them since we live so far away. Plus, they already bought presents so it might be fun! What do you think?
Re: Is it wrong?
Yes, it's wrong. For you it would be nice and convienent, but his sister is getting married and the focus needs to be there for her fmaily.
While I do believe "you get one day" for a wedding, at the same time, if my soon to be SIL 1- ASKED for her own shower, and 2- asked that it be given w/in days of my wedding- I'd be pissed. Most of their at least immediate family is going to be too busy.
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
A:Its wrong to ask for a shower
B: Its wrong to steal the bride's thunder
This. Definitely.
Pleeeeease don't ask for a shower. Throwing a shower is a pain in the _ass! It is expensive and time consuming. Even if they agree to throw you one if you do decide to ask, they will probably resent you and your choice to ask (I sure would).
It will also take attention away from the bride, which is wrong.
I agree with everyone's posts about not asking.
My mother really wants to do something like a sip and see for me in October after LO is born and we are up for my sister's wedding (her 2nd). My sister's wedding is a justice of the peace wedding on a Friday. I'm STILL avoiding it like the plague so my sister doesn't get upset or feel slighted.