Parenting is so isolating

meghans30

A bit down tonight. My 5 yo has been so difficult to get to bed and my 2 yo is testing all his limits lately. Add in a rough patch in the our marriage, a son with special needs, work, house chores, and 90 degree heat and I feel literally like I could unravel. My husband is never home at night due to working 2nd shift which leaves a lot on my plate. I am barely keeping up with the house.

I try very hard to hold onto a few close friends, but it seems to be getting harder and harder to make time to call and get together. I feel guilty for taking time away from what little family time we have to got out also. I'm really feeling isolated.

 

I love my kids and I rarely complain, but I'm spent. Am in need of encouragement and some suggestions to make things a bit easier. 

Mrs.Tony

((Hugs))

I'm sorry. I know what you mean. MH works the overnight so he goes to sleep about two hours after I get home. It's then me and the kids. It's hard.  You can complain - we all do in some way or another! It's allowed : )

gracendantho26

I used to feel the same way until DD started kindergarten. Once she started kinder everything changed and all of the sudden I had a great social network. I was able to start volunteering at the school and getting to know other moms and dad's and that has been so good for me. So I guess I am saying hang in there!! Does your oldest start kinder in the fall?

JOEBunny

The only thing that prevents me from feeling that way is my "mom" friends.  I make a point to get together with at least one person every day, sometimes just for a half hour at the park.  It makes a huge difference.  I could not do it without them.  Still, they are my mom friends, not really my best friends.  I try to see my 3 BFFs at least once every month or two.  One of them and I actually schedule "phone" nights where we talk on the phone for a couple of hours because both are DH are often gone (her's works OOT) and we are home alone with the kids. 

meghans30

gracendantho26:

I used to feel the same way until DD started kindergarten. Once she started kinder everything changed and all of the sudden I had a great social network. I was able to start volunteering at the school and getting to know other moms and dad's and that has been so good for me. So I guess I am saying hang in there!! Does your oldest start kinder in the fall?

Yes, Trev starts k in the fall and my youngest will go to pre-k. I will have a small window of free time next year. I hoping that this will make a huge difference.