Can someone ease my mind?

dancingqueen_october08

Alright, I know no one can ease my mind about this except my OB but I'm giving it a shot anyway.

I always thought that DH and I would need medical intervention to get pregnant so I was really surprised to get a BFP last Monday. According to my LMP, I am 8 weeks pregnant and I have my first OB appointment on Friday.

I am scaring myself by thinking of the worst case scenario, especially after reading some very sad Bump posts tonight. How likely is it that I will have a blighted ovum or something along those lines? I have not had any bleeding or spotting and have had some early PG symptoms (nausea, huge, sore breasts, extreme exhaustion).

I know I won't know for sure until I have my ultrasound on Friday but I just wanted to throw it out there in case anyone had some encouraging words for me.

Texas77again

google said that there is a 15-20% chance of a m/c.  i would not waste time worrying about something that you can not control and have no symptoms of.  GL at your appt!

babyjune1

Texas77again:

google said that there is a 15-20% chance of a m/c.  i would not waste time worrying about something that you can not control and have no symptoms of.  GL at your appt!

I agree! Dont stress yourself out, there is nothing that we can but try to get some rest and keep ourselves healthy mentally and physcially! Congrats!

kayteatrudeau

Sounds like everything is progressing just perfect! I felt the same way when we got pregnant two months after an ectopic pregnancy. But just know it's meant to be and send your little one lots of loving energy.

grr_aargh

Can I be forthright with you for a moment?

Until your first appointment, there's very little that will ease your mind.  Right now you have good information at hand: BFP, symptoms, no bleeding.  Those are all cues that the right things are most likelyhappening.  But no matter how often you hear that from us, and no matter how familiar you are with statistics, you're going to worry until your appointment.

In a way, for me, that was always freeing.  Because worrying gets you nowhere, you can let it go.  Just do some deep breathing, think positively, and let it go. 

mama2bnov2010

I didn't think I could get pregnant either, but after 14 years of marriage here I am. 13 weeks and counting. Good luck at your first ultrasound.

Temp984666312503071

Good luck!

Worrying is normal.  Nothing we can say is going to totally take the fear away.  Pregnancy can be emotionally draining because the stakes are so high. 

The others are right - you can't change anything.  You are doing everything you can.  Try to take a deep breath and know that you will get through this.  You will get some answers soon.  I hope that everything goes great and that you get a lot of reassurance at your ultrasound .

northshore25

I had a MC in December and I am now pregnant again. I am really focusing on having a positive attitutde torwards this pregnancy because there is NOTHING I can do or change if a MC is in my cards again. I keep telling myself to relax and enjoy every second, (easier said than done sometimes) So, try and relax and enjoy. You are growing a baby!!

azbliss

Due to dates being off, our first u/s showed nothing and blighted ovum was suspected.  We spent almost two weeks thinking and expecting the worst.  Everyone is right, nothing will help ease your mind until your appointment.  Something I saw in someone's siggy helped me though.  It was a badge that said, "Today I am pregnant and I am in love with my baby."  For some reason it helped me find some comfort through an ick wait.

 Good luck to you! 

raya

 I know how scary it is, but it's out of your hands and you have to do your best to not think about the what-ifs. Bad stuff does happen, but the odds are in your favor that it won't. And once you hear a h/b, your odds of m/c drop to under 5%. 

chapmanwedding

grr_aargh:

Can I be forthright with you for a moment?

Until your first appointment, there's very little that will ease your mind.  Right now you have good information at hand: BFP, symptoms, no bleeding.  Those are all cues that the right things are most likelyhappening.  But no matter how often you hear that from us, and no matter how familiar you are with statistics, you're going to worry until your appointment.

In a way, for me, that was always freeing.  Because worrying gets you nowhere, you can let it go.  Just do some deep breathing, think positively, and let it go. 

 

This. I think every mom worries until the doctor tells her everything is ok. Just breath deep and know you are doing nothing wrong- you can't control what happens at this point.

grr_aargh

chapmanwedding:

This. I think every mom worries until the doctor tells her everything is ok. Just breath deep and know you are doing nothing wrong- you can't control what happens at this point.

And in truth, the reality is simply that "Every mom worries."

My children are 7 1/2 and nearly 4.  I still check on them twice a night to ensure that they are breathing in their beds.  I think it was Anne Lamott who said that to become a mother was to have your heart outside your body.  And she's right.  And that's terrifying.

It's just a different terrifying every step of the way.  You'll feel some relaxation when you see that flickering heartbeat.  You'll feel it again when your baby is in your arms.  But fear springs anew with each milestone as well, it's simply part of mommyhood.

In the meantime, hang tight and enjoy the ride, because it really is a heck of a ride.  And to be honest - whether it lasts for 5 weeks or the rest of your life, you want to know the ride not the fear. 

Tapsalteerie

Pregnancy can be a very exciting and very scary time.  Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do or control that will provide you with a 100% guarantee that any pregnancy will be healthy and normal.  I can try to tell you not to worry, but I know that you will probably do so anyway.  If there is one piece of advice I can give you, it's this... when you get good news, hold onto it.  When any demons start to play with your mind, just keep that piece of good news revolving over and over again.