I think DH and I may be separating

AnnapolisLari

(hugs) I am sorry.

UBMyBaby

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I hope you find the solution you are looking for and wish you strength along the way.  Big hugs.

Brideofranken

woah- total bombshell- I know you'll have it figured out and make it work- whatever you do.

I have a friend with parents who make it look easy to be separate households, friends, and co parents. they just couldn't remain married.

I am totally confident in you.

stay strong, and lean on us!

katie277s

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npeacock

Oh dear cooker... ((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) to you and your family.

We all know you are strong, resilient, and amazing. I have no doubt that you will make the best decisions for you and your family. The nesties are all here for you.

Grantand

dnagal:

Gasp!  Hugs and Support for you.  Your strength and ability to shine in the face of adversity is obvious to all of us.  However things turn out, we know you can handle it and will make the right choices for your family.  Hugs and more hugs.

This. Exactly. And I'm just a lurker, but I have followed your journey and have no doubt that you can do this no matter what you and DH decide.

MelandJeff

Sh!t. This is a complete shock. I swear I could FEEL how close you two were after Miles was born, it just seems as though the two of you were so connected.

I am so sorry, I hope that you are able to work it out, maybe do some counseling? I dont have the answers, but I do know that you will be great no matter what you do. And, the kids will be fine. They have great parents. They just may not have parents that are great together.

eclaires

I'm sorry, coker!  If you need anything, I am obviously here and I will be thinking of you and your family.

Regardless of the final outcome, I know that you will all be fine and happy - that's what's important, not whether you are still married or not.

Mominator

I'm sorry to hear this. Deciding to separate from my H was one of the hardest decisions that I ever made. I wish you nothing but the best.

jettagurl

Oh, what a tough time.  I wish you all the best - whichever route you go.  You certainly deserve happiness.   I, too, am from a "broken home."  I've told people for years that seeing my parents happy was always better than living with them while they were so unhappy.  I'm not a huge Dr. Phil fan, but I'll never forget something I heard him say - "it is better for kids to be FROM a broken home, than IN a broken  home."  so true. 

GL, and big HUGS to each of you.   You'll be in my T&P.    

r9stedt

eclaires:

I'm sorry, coker!  If you need anything, I am obviously here and I will be thinking of you and your family.

Regardless of the final outcome, I know that you will all be fine and happy - that's what's important, not whether you are still married or not.

And, cooker, when I get down about things, I think about eclairs parents' love story. swooooooon. Seriously, it made me tearful when she told me about it.

Kapalua

(((hugs)))

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sending a cyber hug...

DandelionMom

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I'm sending you my best thoughts.  You're such a rockstar, I know you're going to be okay but I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. 

pincushions

I am so sorry cooker ((hugs)).

 

beanzer

Thinking of you during this very difficult time!

mlm1128

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I hope that everything works out how you want it to.  Marriage shouldn't be so much work. 

hikerbeth

So sorry.  Thinking of you and offering all the virtual support I can!

grja

I'm so sorry.

ak071401

Cooker, I am so sorry. In October, I was in your position. I am now divorced ... and happier than I have been in a long time. I know it is scary, but you CAN do this.

If you need to vent, please feel free to PM me. Talking to people who weren't related to me but who had been through a divorce really helped me gain perspective.

OctoberBrideNYC

I am so, so sorry to read this.  I am wishing you much strength as you move forward.  Your children will be fine - and your reasoning is so right.  Better to have two happy parents, even if they're apart, than two who are miserable together.

Yodajo

I'm so sorry.  You will get though this and come out stronger on the other side!

((hugs))

*Amy*

Oh Sarah.  My heart goes out to you.  I know you will get through this no matter what happens and your kids will be just fine.  You have a great outlook and perspective on things.  Sending you lots of hugs.

LanaM

{{{hugs}}}. I am so sorry.

Glendi2.0

I'm so sorry you have to go through this... I hope you feel equally as supported IRL as you clearly are here.

true_norskie

I am so sorry to hear that.  I hope no matter what happens that you can find strength and peace with everything.

happ17

oh goodness, lamb! ((((HUGS)))) I'll be thinking of you, how stressful. You guys did go through some super difficult times that can wreak havoc on any marriage, and came through like a trouper. No matter what happens, you'll do what works best for you guys and your kids. You're awesome like that.

Angela814

I'm so sorry. ((Hugs)) You've both been through a lot of stress in the last year. I hope you're able to work things out.

karen6784

I am so sorry you are going through such a rough time.  From the time that Miles was born you have delt w/ many many challenges.  I will keep  you and the cooker family in my thoughts and prayers.  Big ((hugs))  I hope you have as much support IRL as you do here. 

lizlemon77

(((hugs)))

My parents divorced when I was 10 and it was the best thing they could have done.  They bought houses blocks from each other and were much better friends and co-parents once they were divorced.  They had great respect for each other but just couldn't stay married.

I know that you will do the right thing for you and your kids but I know that doesn't make this any less painful.

Ned&Nora

I am only a lurker, so you don't know me, but I have followed your story.  Your outlook, shared stories and disposition have been nothing short of inspiring.  I can only imagine how difficult this year has been on your family.  While I don't know any details and have not found myself in your position, I hope that you and your DH can take the time to work through this, whatever the outcome may be.  The stress of a new child can be overwhelming, let alone trying to figure out how best to parent Miles when you had no warning of his limitations ahead of time.  Please take the time to make sure the decisions you make are right for you all in the long term. 

 You come across as such an amazing mother, and your children are lucky to have such an incredible role model.  I hope you and DH are able to work through this and come out better because of it.  I have offered up a prayer for you and will continue to do so.

 Best of luck to you.  And big, big cyber hugs.

MrsCali_Bride

I'm so sorry.  (((hugs)))

wellfleet04

I am so sorry.  Just having two young kids is rough on any marriage, and you guys have has so many extra challenges and surprises this year.  I hope you can find peace and strength in whatever path you choose.  Your kids are well loved, that's clear, and because of that they will thrive however you and your husband decide is best for all of you. 

femmegem

(((hugs))) I'm so sorry, cooker. My parents also stayed together for us (well, for me in particular) and I always wonder how much happier they might be today if they had gone their separate ways.

soxfan

You will find an inner strength -- you have it in you! 

You will all figure what is best.  If separation means your DH will be happier and you will be happier -- you will be just a different happy family that one that lives under the same roof. 

Take one day at a time.  Don't think further than the weekend because even the weekend can seem like a long time !

never say never either .....   

 

Marchmamma

big hugs. I'm so sorry this is happening.

SumnerBride

Oh honey, I'm so sorry.  That isn't something I'd wish on my worst enemy.  I hope everything works out for the best, whatever the best is for you and the family.

j-w

So sorry to hear this.  Best of luck.

vtgirl

We are all here if you need to tak/vent/cry- whatever! Stay strong- you are an amazing mama and in time, it will all get easier! Hang in there and let us know if you need anything! Big hugs! Mu-ah!

MoRoseT

Just seeing this....:(

Many, many hugs to you, S!
This is never anything we dream of, but sometimes it is for the best.

We are all here for you!