I think DH and I may be separating

cooker71

Bombshell, I know, but without going into details things haven't been great for a while now and our efforts to make them better aren't working. Unfortunately, a lot of it started after Miles' birth and the chaos of that combined with DH losing his job for a few months...

I'm so scared. This is never something I thought I would do/experience and obviously I don't want the kids raised in separate houses, but I also don't want them raised by miserable parents who are only together for them.

I grew up that way and won't repeat it.

Please, no questions right now. I just need support. 

cooker71

And please, nothing on FB either, FB friends.

EliseB0323

I am sorry. I think you will do an awesome job raising your kids no matter what the circumstances.

ridesbuttons

Oh no.  I have only occasionally commented on your posts but I have watched your journey since Miles was born and have great respect for you.  What a tough year!  Hugs.  Take care of yourself and those beautiful kids.

neesernicole

dude, hugs, hugs and more hugs.

Mrs.Tony

I am so sorry  - that has to be difficult for all of you.  Thinking of you!

kancell724

I am sorry you are going through this. I hope things get better. (((hugs)))

CleoKitty

Oh, Cooker, I'm so sorry. We're all here for you if you need anything.

august06mom

Ugh. I'm very sorry -- I also grew up with parents who stayed together just for the kids, so I completely understand your fears about that situation.

 

bebemama

I'm so sorry that you are going through such a hard time.  (((hugs)))

 

DaiLyght

My hearts breaks for you. A million and one (((HUGS))), for all four of you.

dnagal

Gasp!  Hugs and Support for you.  Your strength and ability to shine in the face of adversity is obvious to all of us.  However things turn out, we know you can handle it and will make the right choices for your family.  Hugs and more hugs.

tammy79

I'm so sorry . 

4Speedy

I am so SO sorry.  You are a strong woman, wife and mom.  No matter what happens, you will land on your feet.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Hooray2005

(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))

 

AggieCouple

Geez, I'm so sorry ;o(  *hug*

joseysbride

I'm so sorry, Cooker.  I hope you guys can find a way to work things out.  You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

shouldbworkin

(((hugs)))  Our 2nd DC was hell on our marriage.  My mom and grandfather were sick right after she was born too.  It was just a really, really difficult time. Around the time she was 1 y/o we went to therapy and OMG did it help SO much.  I hope you guys can get through it and get to a happier place, if that is the best thing for you to do.  But if it's not, don't beat yourself up about separating.  Like you said, a miserable marriage isn't good for kids either. 

CBKMRB

I'm so sorry you are going through this.  Lots of hugs and good thoughts being sent your way.

camrude

I am so, SO sorry.

You have a PM.

melmax

Lots of HUGS cooker. And more hugs.  I'll be thinking of you.

xbrooklyngrl

Big hugs to you, love. I wish you strength in whatever happens and I hope things work out for the best. We love you girlie!

JillShari

So sorry to hear this.  My parents were together and miserable and think about how my life would have been different had my mom ever been happy.  You do whatever you think you have to do....we'll be here for you.

mattswife91805

(((hugs))) I am sorry you are going through this.

Scooter359

I hope everything works out for you, no matter what. But I think you are right, I would rather have two happy parents in two homes rather then miserable ones in the same home, or like my parents did..try to fake being happy.

MrsStubbs

I am so sorry. I do agree with you that it's better for children to have two happy parents rather than be miserable and together.

JOEBunny

I think that first year with a new child is hard, even without extra stuff.  I am sorry that you feel it has come to this.  I hope that in time things work out so that you can both be happy. 

WBs_Bride

So, so sorry to hear you are going through this.

Zenya

That is very sad.  I'm sorry to hear it.  Wishing you lots of strength as you move through things.

ToledoDeux

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I know that you're a pretty strong person, so you'll be OK in the end regardless...but that doesn't make this any less scary or tough. 

Take care.

jennieliz

Oh friend I am so sorry.  Carter has been brutal on our marriage so I can just imagine what you are going through.  I too grew up with parents who fought and were miserable and they finally divorced when I was 18 and I wished time time again that they would have done it earlier.  That said, I really hope you can find a way to work things out and that they get better.  This past year has been nothing short of a roller coaster for you guys and maybe having a smoother year will help.  If you need me I am here.  HUGS!!!

docmay25

So sorry to hear this.  Lots of hugs. 

KoriBrett

Lots of *hugs* and

I'm so sorry :-(

breezee_bean

I am so sorry=(  My heartbreaks for you.  It's ok to be scared and unsure. 

Tons of love and support coming your way!

xoxoxoxoxo

cranburycakes

Hugs!  I'm so sorry.  I, too, grew up with miserable parents who made it clear that they were only living under the same roof until the kids moved out, and I vowed never to repeat that.  I wish you the best and will keep you in my thoughts.

AnneUCSB

HUGE HUGS to you, S!!!!!  I am so very sorry to hear you are going through this.  Holding you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!!!!

Ciarrai

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

LuvinMyKids

(((HUGS)))

I went thru this with DS#1's dad and although it's not easy, I will tell you that being happy is much better for you and your kids, I have learned. GL.

Jodi&Joe

This is totally jaw dropping........

(((HUGS)))

I will only say that I admire your strength and conviction and I'm totally confident in YOU doing the best thing for your family! 

 

EMT

I'm so sorry S. We are all here for you!

summerbrideDC

((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))

Sarah, I'm so sorry you're going through this.