Clicky: If you smoked, would you admit it on match.com?

Zenya

WDYT (Please no "of course not smoking is evil and disgusting".  this is not about me).[Poll]

kittycarr

Whose dilemma is this?  Why would this be an issue to admit to or to not admit to?  You'll eventually be found out - that smell escapes no one.  I'm confused.

Zenya

It's my sister.  Do you think it's that obvious?  I think the reason she's not getting as much input on match.com as I would think is b/c she admits she smokes on her profile.  

I was thinking she could hide it in the short term at least (and then quit).  IDK.  I'm just thinking out loud. 

kittycarr

I suppose she could hide it but mention it on a date to see how things go, IDK, but I think she should quit the match.com type sites over smoking.  That's just me.  Sites like that just creep me out.

Yodajo

If I was a regular smoker, I would admit it, but I would downplay it and say I smoked less than I really did. I think Match has the option to say how much you smoke and not just yes or no.

Zenya

Yodajo:

If I was a regular smoker, I would admit it, but I would downplay it and say I smoked less than I really did. I think Match has the option to say how much you smoke and not just yes or no.

yea, you can say that you are smoking but trying to quit (which is what she had) or that you smoke regularly, occasionally etc. 

She says she's trying to quit but she's not really.  I mean she does want to quit but she's not actively trying.  I know she would quit if she met someone worth quitting for, though. 

Yodajo

Zenya:

Yodajo:

If I was a regular smoker, I would admit it, but I would downplay it and say I smoked less than I really did. I think Match has the option to say how much you smoke and not just yes or no.

yea, you can say that you are smoking but trying to quit (which is what she had) or that you smoke regularly, occasionally etc. 

She says she's trying to quit but she's not really.  I mean she does want to quit but she's not actively trying.  I know she would quit if she met someone worth quitting for, though. 

If I remember correctly, one option is smoking socially and that is what I would pick, since that seems to be more acceptable or at least perceived better. Maybe others would say to be more upfront, but that is what I would do. I hope she meets that guy that motivates her to quit soon!

Zenya

Good suggestion, TY! 

emiliemadison

If she smokes, she needs to say that in her profile. That is a major deal breaker for some people and I know that, personally, I can tell if someone smokes immediately. So if I met someone who said they didnt smoke but, upon meeting them I could tell they did, I'd not only be pissed about the smoking, but that one of the very first things they told me was a lie.

She can say "Social smoker but trying to quit". But if she's not really trying to quit, then she has to realize that there she is only going to limit her matches- both online and in person.

Hooray2005

emiliemadison:

If she smokes, she needs to say that in her profile. That is a major deal breaker for some people and I know that, personally, I can tell if someone smokes immediately. So if I met someone who said they didnt smoke but, upon meeting them I could tell they did, I'd not only be pissed about the smoking, but that one of the very first things they told me was a lie.

She can say "Social smoker but trying to quit". But if she's not really trying to quit, then she has to realize that there she is only going to limit her matches- both online and in person.

This, exactly. MH and I met on match (agh!), and to this day we bicker over something he underplayed on his profile (obviously it wasn't a deal breaker, but being honest would have been a better approach.)

belle204

I have a match.com profile & if I came across someone who said they didn't smoke, we went out & I found out they did I would be out of there so fast. I don't date smokers and wouldn't want to waste my time. Not to mention I wouldn't trust anything else they said.

femmegem

belle204:

I have a match.com profile & if I came across someone who said they didn't smoke, we went out & I found out they did I would be out of there so fast. I don't date smokers and wouldn't want to waste my time. Not to mention I wouldn't trust anything else they said.

This times 100. Smoking is a dealbreaker for real. Even social smoking. Ick.

Granted, I probably feel more strongly about it because I'm a hypocritical ex-smoker.  But ugh, that smell is horrid.

ridesbuttons

Zenya:

It's my sister.  Do you think it's that obvious?  I think the reason she's not getting as much input on match.com as I would think is b/c she admits she smokes on her profile.  

I was thinking she could hide it in the short term at least (and then quit).  IDK.  I'm just thinking out loud. 

Smoking is a dealbreaker for me for dating (not that I haved dated in a hundred years).  I would never date a smoker.  And I would be pissed if someone said they were a non smoker and turned out to be a smoker.  I'd smell it at 20 paces.  Not exaggerating.