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8 week change

Quick low down on me and this journey:

Married 2 years in April, I'm 42 and DH is 39. I went straight to in vitro starting in Oct, ER & ET in Nov then miscarried in Dec.

We took a much needed emotional and financial break and decided that March would be our month to start again. Well it was our month because we got pregnant on our own!. I began bloodwork again to monitor hcg and it increased on schedule. We had a u/s at 6 weeks and 2 days and say the little thing and the heart flutter.

I went back yesterday at 8 weeks and 1day and the little thing had not grown much but the worst of it was there was no longer a heart beat.

I knew something was wrong when it took him longer to find the little thing and I didn't hear anything.

I caught a flight to CA to be with DH for the weekend.

What an emotional rollercoaster. I know this may be familiar to some of you because I've been on this board since Oct and I have read the victories and the defeats. It sucks to be the defeat but we still have HOPE.

Now to decide do I have a DnC done or wait it out and let it pass naturally? I asked RE if I had DnC if that would cause problems for ivf, he said no. I think I just want to get it over with and move on.

 Thanks for listening.


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  • Carrie I am really sorry for all you are going through.  Keep that hope alive and take good care of yourself.  Much love-


  • I'm really sorry about your loss. I just had my second miscarriage so I know how much it sucks.

    I miscarried naturally with both of mine.  With this one, it's been a month and my betas are finally going down (the first it was done in two weeks).  While I don't regret have a natural miscarriage again, this time around has been a huge PITA, so if I have another miscarriage (hopefully not) I won't be so reluctant to have a D&C.  

    Hope is good to have during times like this. 

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    I'm so sorry for your loss and the whole entire rollercoaster.  It's just terrible terrible stuff I wish none of us had to go through.  I had a D&C with my first miscarriage and a D&E with the most recent.  I have to say they were both pretty easy and at least it got everything over with, frankly I appreciated the 30 minutes of unconciousness :)  Hope you find peace with whichever way you decide.

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  • Oh Carrie....I am so, so sorry.  big (((hugs))).

    I had a D&C...it was a pretty painless and simple procedure.  The emotional part of course is the hardest.  PM me if you ever want to chat.

    Tons of thoughts and prayers are headed your way.  I hope that you find comfort in knowing we are here for you.

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  • Carrie, I am so sorry!   I had a D&C and was glad I did so that I could move forward more quickly.  Unfortunately, I am still getting bills for it (one year later) and that has been the most annoying and frustrating part of the whole thing.  I just want to put it in the past already!   My heart goes out to you and your DH.   Thinking of you and sending hugs!   
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  • I'm just so, so sorry you're going through this.  It really does suck and I hate that so many of us have had to go through it.  I had a natural m/c which was fine........it didn't feel too much different from normal AF, although it was very emotional (it's emotional no matter what you do, I think).  I totally understand wanting to get the D&C and move on.

    It sounds like you and DH have a positive attitude, which I believe takes your far in this process.  Keep the faith and hope and I will be keeping you in my T&P.


  • I am sorry for your loss. You have a great attitude...thoughts are with you and your DH during this time.
  • Oh Carrie- I'm so sorry.  That is just so unfair and it totally sucks.  Whatever route you choose to take- d&c or natural m/c, I'll always be here any time you want to vent or need a computer to cry on! 

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    IUI- BFN IVF #1 -BFP! Allie is our 2nd IVF baby. Born at 36 1/2 weeks after pre-e again
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