I guess it's pregnant co-worker day

myst33

Looking at the day's posts it looks like there are a few.

I feel like a horrible, selfish person today.  We had a staff meeting today after school (I'm a teacher).  My principal (who was the only one that knew of my pg and subsequent m/c) told me that I did not have to go to the meeting today because someone was announcing her pregnancy. I thought that was really thoughtful and sensitive of her.  I didn't decide what to do but I really appreciated the heads up. 

I then was talking to another teacher who just mentioned that so-and-so was pregnant.  After my principal told me, I was trying to figure out who it could be. I am literally the only married teacher in my building without children.  I found out it was someone who I really like and she's older than me (in her 40's)  I honestly am happy for her since she's such a sweetheart and it gives me hope since I've recently hit 35, but I just didn't know how I'd be around all of the celebration.  I also was afraid that the "Whose next?" comments and looks since pregnancies seem to come in waves around my work  would upset me since I feel like an obvious target. 

I was still on the fence at the end of the day trying to decide if I should go to the meeting. I called dh thinking he'd tell me to just go but surprisingly he said that there'd be more negatives than positives to going.  I ended up not going.  

I feel guilty for not going and selfish. I probably should have toughed it out. I can't hide from pg ladies forever. 

magdalina.h

I don't remember when your m/c was, but if you can (and did today) take your time before forcing yourself to be around pregnant ladies.  In public you can't help it, but it was nice that your principle gave you a heads up and let you decide.  Personally, I'm fine around my co-workers who are pregnant because I was the first one pregnant so I already knew about their pregnancies before I lost Aidan. Strangers however are a completely different story. I try to run and hide from them.  Okay not that bad, but in my head it is. lol

myst33

magdalina.h:

I don't remember when your m/c was, but if you can (and did today) take your time before forcing yourself to be around pregnant ladies.  In public you can't help it, but it was nice that your principle gave you a heads up and let you decide.  Personally, I'm fine around my co-workers who are pregnant because I was the first one pregnant so I already knew about their pregnancies before I lost Aidan. Strangers however are a completely different story. I try to run and hide from them.  Okay not that bad, but in my head it is. lol

It was really nice of my principal.  My d&c was 2 weeks ago today.  I only took off 3 days the week of the m/c- one being the day of the d&c and 2 days for recovery.  I felt like I had to go back because I had report cards to do and had a lot of grading.  Those days were horrible.  

elizabeth&james

Now I feel sick for you, too! And for anyone who has to go thru this-- we all must, at some point, right? I was in the bathroom just trying to compose myself and again marveling at the fact that this is real - the pain and sadness is real. Seems so wrong.  Anyway- I think you made a good decision not to go and I so appreciate your principal's good judgment. Don't feel guilty-- you are right, we can't hide forever-- but I think hiding for a little while is TOTALLY ok.

magdalina.h

myst33:

magdalina.h:

I don't remember when your m/c was, but if you can (and did today) take your time before forcing yourself to be around pregnant ladies.  In public you can't help it, but it was nice that your principle gave you a heads up and let you decide.  Personally, I'm fine around my co-workers who are pregnant because I was the first one pregnant so I already knew about their pregnancies before I lost Aidan. Strangers however are a completely different story. I try to run and hide from them.  Okay not that bad, but in my head it is. lol

It was really nice of my principal.  My d&c was 2 weeks ago today.  I only took off 3 days the week of the m/c- one being the day of the d&c and 2 days for recovery.  I felt like I had to go back because I had report cards to do and had a lot of grading.  Those days were horrible.  

I bet they were horrible.  I'm sorry hun

SassyMamainVA

Do not feel guilty at all for not going.  You need to take your time with being around pregnant women. You can't hide from pg ladies forever, but your m/c is still fresh in your mind. I'm just so glad that your principal gave you the heads up and is so sensitive to your needs right now...that's wonderful. 

BlakeG

Don't feel guilty.  I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal.  You just weren't ready yet and when you are ready to be in situations like that you will be fine.  Hang in there.

millejj1

Don't feel guilty! You still need to be taking care of yourself and when the time is right for you, you can approach your coworker and congratulate her.