Difficult baby vs easy baby

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Do you think that Easy baby are born of easy going parents and  more difficult babies are born of more high strung parents?  What are your thoughts.  This seems to be the way it is with the babies that I know.

MrsBatty

Well ... DD is really easy which would have to mean she gets it from DH ... I am "not so easy" but my mom insists I was as a child ... 

hmmmm ... 

snowflake19

I think parents personaly type can influence babies, but I also think that babies have their own temperament.

I can be pretty high strung and DS is super laid back. I find it funny that he is half me and so relaxed. He has definately made me more easy going which I didn't expect.

a_chance2007

I am more high strung I always have to have something to do. Ive been like that since I was little. and DH is VERY VERY laid back and easy going and can just sit back and do nothing all day.

DS is very needy. Not that hes difficult.. but he wont play by him self or just sit and relax.. he seems to be like me and always want something to do.

Califragilistic1

I think it has a lot to do with if you are stressed or relaxed during your pregnancy and labor. thats JMO. I was very laid back during my whole preg and very calm and relaxed during labor and DD is super relaxed and very very smiley. I think if I were more anxious, stressed or nervous during my preg/labor she would be different.  

erino&chrish

NO.  I say this because my LO was a "difficult baby" the first 2 months, and it had nothing to do with us or him.  He had reflux and was in lots of pain.  Now he's easy.  I must say that I think it's a combo of a) luck and b) what the parents do.

StrawberryBlondeMomma

not according to my mom.

she said 3 of us were easy and one was hard. she is pretty easy going and my dad is more uptight.

ETA: the theory above about how you were during pg/labor can't be true here, b/c one of the easy babies in my family is a twin with the difficult baby lol.

GoombaGirl_79

I don't think I would call DS "difficult" but he is definitely very active and wants to go go go! Does not like to sit still in his stroller or highchair without something to entertain or distract him (which is normal for most babies I know but seriously if we're walking in the stroller and i stop walking for more then 2 minutes he starts complaining!) Both DH and I are somewhat high strung. DH has ADHD, and I never got tested but am pretty darn sure I have at least ADD, so it would not be a surprise if DS inherited this from us!  He's a great kid and is deifintely happy more then he is upset (he always has BIG SMILES!) so if he's a bit high strung it doesn't bother me. Just means I am chasing him around most of the day because even though our place is technically 'baby-proof' he can find the one hard corner and bonk his head on it or the one "hidden" power cord behind the furniture in a flash! He crawls like crazy and can walk along furniture O_O

MattysGirl81

DH and I are both relaxed, easy going people.  I would say that DS is a pretty easy baby in that he can easily entertain himself and isn't high maintenance.  He's not a great sleeper, but other than that I can't complain!

I was a very easy baby according to my mom.  MIL says that DH cried a lot, but I think that had more to do with her and FIL and the way they were with him.  MIL is extremely anxious about everything and I'm sure DH picked up on that. 

tovachava

Maybe as kids, but not as babies.  How else do you explain siblings where one is colicky and one is not.  My brother and I had completely different temperments our entire babyhood, same parents. 

MrsV092207

I don't think there's a connection.  You either get a difficult baby or an easy baby... I got a difficult one.. and I always say it's bc God knows I have the patience to handle her, so that's why he chose me to be her mom    But I must say, she becomes more and more 'easy' every day.  So who knows, it could just be a phase (that lasted 7 months).

wingsfan524

I had one of each and I would say I was more high strung the 1st time around and he was my easy child.

LoveEeyore

DD#1 was super easy, though family considered her difficult b.c she would not be separated from me without hysteria.Otherwise, she was/is a breeze with a flair for the dramatic- to be expected at 2.  My twins should answer your question.  DS is easy.  Laidback, easy to amuse.  His twin, however, is a bit more. um, difficult.  Cute.  The first to flirt and smile.  But the most intense temper I've seen in a baby when I'm not quick enough to pick her up or nurse her, or get her when she wakes- wooooah!  Both pregnancies were a breeze.  DH is, and I was, intense professionally but I am a very laidback mom.