Baby Shower for 2nd Pregnancy?

QtGinaJ

This is my second pregnancy - I have a daughter who is going to be 3 when this baby - a BOY - is born.  My cousin wants to have a baby shower for me, but I just don't know.   Do you think it's ok to have a shower since this baby is a different sex and I have almost nothing for him?  All my daughters stuff is pink . . .

Luckiest13

If she wants to throw a shower for you - why not. It'll probably be fun. One of my friends who had a second baby had the host write on the invitations to only bring a favorite book. Can't ever have too many books and its an inexpensive gift that everyone liked bringing.

Mrs.09

My SIL is due with her 2nd 4 days after me and I am hosting a "Baby Sprinkle" where we will Sprinkle her with items that need to be replenished from diapers, wipes, onesies, bottles, etc.

I think it is such a cute idea and feel every baby deserves a party. This time I am only going to invite very close friends and family so it will be a lot smaller since it is a baby sprinkle instead of a baby shower

cstw

I always heard a sprinkle is to "sprinkle" the mommy-to-be with gender-specific gifts (clothes, etc). I agree...every baby deserves to be celebrated but I also think it's presumptuous to have a second shower, especially these days. If you're not entirely comfortable with even a sprinkle, maybe just ask if you can get a small group together for a lunch or mani-pedi to celebrate the coming bundle of joy!

IfferMarie

Why is it presumputious? I feel like each baby is special. Why is it not okay to have a shower for every baby?

KristelRobin

IfferMarie:

Why is it presumputious? I feel like each baby is special. Why is it not okay to have a shower for every baby?

Each baby is special, but some people might resent being asked to spend a lot of money on each and every baby you have.  Especially people without children themselves.  A couple of my single friends especially have complained to me as a friend about all of the weddings and baby showers they've attended or been bridesmaids in, the thousands of dollars they've spent, and the fact is, it's not something that anyone ever does for them.  They don't ever get showered with tons of gifts.  And I get that.

cstw

KristelRobin:

IfferMarie:

Why is it presumputious? I feel like each baby is special. Why is it not okay to have a shower for every baby?

Each baby is special, but some people might resent being asked to spend a lot of money on each and every baby you have.  Especially people without children themselves.  A couple of my single friends especially have complained to me as a friend about all of the weddings and baby showers they've attended or been bridesmaids in, the thousands of dollars they've spent, and the fact is, it's not something that anyone ever does for them.  They don't ever get showered with tons of gifts.  And I get that.

This. Exactly.

augs06

KristelRobin:

IfferMarie:

Why is it presumputious? I feel like each baby is special. Why is it not okay to have a shower for every baby?

Each baby is special, but some people might resent being asked to spend a lot of money on each and every baby you have.  Especially people without children themselves.  A couple of my single friends especially have complained to me as a friend about all of the weddings and baby showers they've attended or been bridesmaids in, the thousands of dollars they've spent, and the fact is, it's not something that anyone ever does for them.  They don't ever get showered with tons of gifts.  And I get that.

Ditto this. Realistically, all the big baby stuff should last through more than one child.  Swings, bouncers, activity exersaucers, etc. are often the most expensive and used for such a short period of time. 
My SIL has offered to host a party/brunch for #2 after the he/she is born. It's still celebrating the babe but not in a gift-focused way that showers are intended.

IfferMarie

I understand that. I am just having my first and when we have our second (God willing) I wouldn't register for a crib again or things like that.

My friend just had her second baby shower and it may have been different because she is having the opposite sex, but she didn't register for a new crib or the expensive stuff. More like the necessities. She got clothes, and diapers and some toys. I thought it was still fun for her, and helps out with the essentials. Then again, I don't think people should be required to bring a gift. It's so much fun to get together with friends and play games and what not.

QtGinaJ

Thanks everyone!