Same Name

shmily78

I am sure this has been asked a MILLION times!

 My friend and I are due about 4 weeks apart. We had not discussed names at all until recently. We are both having girls and both in love with the exact same name. For different reasons but the same...none the less.

 I don't really have a problem with it but I think she thinks otherwise...but I don't think she would ever really admit that.

Has this happened to any of you and how did y'all handle it?

charlies-angel

I'm curious, what's the name?

greenclown

I think it's totally fine to use the same name.  If you scroll down, you'll see there's another poster thinking of naming HER OWN kids the same name!

LeeAnn Jo

I think it's totally fine. Name YOUR baby whatever you want:)

wheelenl

What is the name? If it's something relatively common like Isabelle, Bella, Ella, Emma, Ava, Sophia, Lily, etc., then definitely not a big deal.

If it's a pretty random name, like, say, Phillippa or Poppy, it would be a little weird for whomever is due second (which I'm guessing your friend is).

shmily78

I am due second. The name is Brooklyn. We spoke one day and she asked me about names and I told her we had not really told anyone the name we decided on but she really wanted to know so I went ahead and told her.....then a very long pause...and she said...Oh my gosh...we have the exact same name picked out.

 I could hear the disappointment in her voice. I just hate that we are both love the same name. Different middle names of course.

 

 

greenclown

I think one of you should use Bronx instead.

erinms

Meh, I say go for it.  

The same exact thing happened to friends of mine and they went ahead with the names.  Those two girls are best friends and are together constantly.  It is actually kind of adorable that they have the same name.

They call each other by their first and middle names, so Ella Claire and Ella Rose, but the rest of the world just calls them Ella.

I wouldn't change the name (unless you are totally ambivalent and have another name you love), but I would talk it out with the friend. 

LeeAnn Jo

I think you should keep it. It's a pretty common name, and if you love it, that's all that matters. I don't think she should be mad at you at all.

wheelenl

I know tons of Brooklyns. I would use it if that's your fave.

Remember, she's your BFF, right, so naturally you would have the same taste in names, as you probably do lots of other things in life. It could end up being something the Brooklyns think is really cool and could deepen their bond.

EastCoastBride

Use the name and just clear the air w/ her so that you KNOW that she knows where you stand- you love the name, you know she loves it.  You're still going to use it, and you don't care one bit if she does too.

THen let her decide from there what she wants to do.

magsugar13

shmily78:

I am due second. The name is Brooklyn. We spoke one day and she asked me about names and I told her we had not really told anyone the name we decided on but she really wanted to know so I went ahead and told her.....then a very long pause...and she said...Oh my gosh...we have the exact same name picked out.

 I could hear the disappointment in her voice. I just hate that we are both love the same name. Different middle names of course.

Since she is having her baby first she will use the name, so I guess it is up to you if you want your daughter to have the same name as hers.

 

hippotree

I would not name them the same name. I think it would be too confusing for those two little girls.

KJOjuly04

I wouldn't use it either.  Are you both having girls??

KJOjuly04

I read better..so you are both having girls.  Maybe she will change hers down the road.  I would pick a different name.  Do you see each other often?  I see my bff a lot and we have all that same friends, it would be very weird with our daughters having the same name.

cookieinva

hippotree:

I would not name them the same name. I think it would be too confusing for those two little girls.

 Ummm - wait this you think is confusing!? Aren't you the same person who posted looking to name both of your own sons Henry??

OP - I think you're fine on using the same name.

sweet1600s

This happened to my parents- I was born in May, my parents named me ?ilis Mairead. 3 months later, my dad's best friends daughter was born, they named her ?ilis Maeve. We were best friends from birth, and it never bothered or confused us. We thought it was really cool that we had the same name. 

I say tell your friend that you love the name, you're using it for your daughter, and you have absolutely no problem with her using it too. Then it's her decision.  

shmily78

Thanks, ladies!

LiLnikkiMe

shmily78:

I am due second. The name is Brooklyn. We spoke one day and she asked me about names and I told her we had not really told anyone the name we decided on but she really wanted to know so I went ahead and told her.....then a very long pause...and she said...Oh my gosh...we have the exact same name picked out.

 I could hear the disappointment in her voice. I just hate that we are both love the same name. Different middle names of course.

 

 

like pps, name your baby the name you want.

and by the looks of it, she really shouldn't have a problem with it because its not like she was telling you her baby's name and you took it. you said the name first and she said that it was the name they had, so all is fair!