I'm so frustrated and worn out

crackerjackprinter

DS will not sleep in his bassinet anymore...maybe I'm not trying to put him down at the right time.  I usually get 5 minutes before he's crying.  The other times he is being nursed, worn or carried. 

I'm all for following their cues and babywearing, but this just sucks.  I am tired, my back hurts (whose wouldn't hurt after babywearing 95% of the day), and I am so touched out.  

Worse, I am starting to resent him because I can't cuddle DD properly anymore and I miss cuddling my little girl!  

I can't swaddle b/c he just breaks out of it and I don't want him swaddled all day either...I've tried everything else I can.  

Ugh.

andrealynn0707

I am sorry. I can't imagine how tough that would be. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but all I have are vibez (no hugs, you are touched out!)

MrsGo4Hockeychick

white noise? 

queenie521

What kind of swaddle are you using?  DS broke out of all of them except for the miracle blanket.  It was my sanity for a long time.

crackerjackprinter

MrsGo4Hockeychick:

white noise? 

pointless since he is in the living room...and I'm not yet ready to have him sleep in the crib...there's really nowhere else to move the bassinet to.  I've tried shushing him as I am patting him and giving him the pacifier and even that seems to have no positive effect.

nikll34

My DS won't sleep in his anymore either I have to hold/ wear him all day long. I put him down as much as I can, but he always ends up crying within 5-10 minutes. I am worn out too and it sucks because I can't get anything done! The only thing he sleeps in is his bouncy seat. I have to sit next to it for 15 minutes though and bounce him in it so he gets into a deep sleep. Ugh can't wait till this passes. I need to start a routine at night, but it's so hard right now.

 Sorry you can't cuddle with your DD. I almost know how you feel. I can't cuddle with my very cuddleable pup. She gets so sad when I can't at night like I used to. It breaks my heart having to push her aside. 

crackerjackprinter

queenie521:

What kind of swaddle are you using?  DS broke out of all of them except for the miracle blanket.  It was my sanity for a long time.

I really don't want to swaddle, as dumb as that sounds.  My philosophy is that if they break out of it they are done with it.  I know I could do something like that that would contain him better but if he doesn't want it, I'm not going to fight it.  It's really the motion he wants, which can't be rectified for another 2-3 weeks until we get our swing back.  I hope he likes it.

crackerjackprinter

nikll34:

My DS won't sleep in his anymore either I have to hold/ wear him all day long. I put him down as much as I can, but he always ends up crying within 5-10 minutes. I am worn out too and it sucks because I can't get anything done! The only thing he sleeps in is his bouncy seat. I have to sit next to it for 15 minutes though and bounce him in it so he gets into a deep sleep. Ugh can't wait till this passes. I need to start a routine at night, but it's so hard right now.

 Sorry you can't cuddle with your DD. I almost know how you feel. I can't cuddle with my very cuddleable pup. She gets so sad when I can't at night like I used to. It breaks my heart having to push her aside. 

Thanks.  Luckily I am still able to get enough done somehow, but the thing with DD is what is really killing me.  I should probably talk to DH about it but something about admitting it out loud is hard.

proudarmywife08

I'm sorry

Have you tried laying him down in his swing, bouncer or car seat? DS has his preferences of where he wants to sleep. Also have you tried just tucking a blanket tight around him when he's asleep? DS likes that, it helps him feel cocooned like when I'm wearing him but he's sleeping on his own. Oh and I also lay him down on a fleece blanket b/c he likes the warmth. If I lay him on cold sheets or whatever he wakes right up. 

I sure hope you find a solution though. I miss my little girl sometimes too. DS has had a cuddly day today and I feel like I've neglected time with DD today

crackerjackprinter

proudarmywife08:

I'm sorry

Have you tried laying him down in his swing, bouncer or car seat? DS has his preferences of where he wants to sleep. Also have you tried just tucking a blanket tight around him when he's asleep? DS likes that, it helps him feel cocooned like when I'm wearing him but he's sleeping on his own. Oh and I also lay him down on a fleece blanket b/c he likes the warmth. If I lay him on cold sheets or whatever he wakes right up. 

I sure hope you find a solution though. I miss my little girl sometimes too. DS has had a cuddly day today and I feel like I've neglected time with DD today

He screams in the car seat unless we swing it (one reason I think he will like the swing when we get it) and won't sleep in the bouncer unless, like the bassinet, I time it right.

I've tried the blanket thing and he has a minky-backed blanket down  now.

I really don't know how you do this without DH.  He is my one saving grace in all this.

papagena

I'd reconsider the swaddle - unless he really seems like he's fighting it - he's getting that cuddly/smooshed feel from you and that's not really all that unlike a swaddle.  I read somewhere that at that age, they're not necessarily fighting it as much as not really in control of their limbs yet, so him breaking out of it isn't necessarily him not liking the swaddle, but just not being able to control themselves yet.  I remember the source saying that possibly half of their fear is from their wild limbs as they don't really have that body awareness yet.  I probably picked that up from either the Baby Whisperer or Happiest Baby - again - just another POV which you may disregard entirely!! 

I will say, however, I remember my pedi & loads of people saying the 6 - 8 week part is just about the hardest lil' phase for a newborn - so hopefully that is a big part of it and it will pass shortly!!  

GL!   *blows air kisses since hugs aren't called for!*

proudarmywife08

crackerjackprinter:

proudarmywife08:

I'm sorry

Have you tried laying him down in his swing, bouncer or car seat? DS has his preferences of where he wants to sleep. Also have you tried just tucking a blanket tight around him when he's asleep? DS likes that, it helps him feel cocooned like when I'm wearing him but he's sleeping on his own. Oh and I also lay him down on a fleece blanket b/c he likes the warmth. If I lay him on cold sheets or whatever he wakes right up. 

I sure hope you find a solution though. I miss my little girl sometimes too. DS has had a cuddly day today and I feel like I've neglected time with DD today

He screams in the car seat unless we swing it (one reason I think he will like the swing when we get it) and won't sleep in the bouncer unless, like the bassinet, I time it right.

I've tried the blanket thing and he has a minky-backed blanket down  now.

I really don't know how you do this without DH.  He is my one saving grace in all this.

Somedays I feel like going crazy and I cry and feel sorry for myself. But honestly, that doesn't get me through the day. I just have to do it and I have to make it work so I come up with anything I can to make it work. I've even just put both kids in the car and driven for a couple hours to get DS to sleep. He's a finicky day sleeper and it drives me bonkers. He does sleep super good in the Moby or Babyhawk though but I don't always want to wear him (like you). Anyway, I guess we just have our routine and we just do what we do. I found out that I had to get both kids on a routine to survive though. I know people say you can't get a newborn on a schedule and he's not on a "schedule" but we have our routine where we do the same things at the same times every day and it really does work for us. Except for the finicky napping thing. He usually naps his long naps on me every day. 

proudarmywife08

I also don't clean or get anything accomplished while they're awake. I only do dishes every other day also. I feel like I spend all of my time with my kids right now.

PDX

so sorry.. sending whatever soothing vibes I can to you and your little one. Sounds like you need a break (who wouldn't?!) and some time to cuddle your DD. He's still soooo young, I know you said you don't want to swaddle him, and definitely don't want to swaddle him all day, but how about just long enough for a break? I wasn't huge on swaddling but I did love it sometimes because DS seemed to love the comfort and our first few months were abnormal so I knew I needed to take advantage of the fact that it worked for him. Like the PP said, I always heard that 6ish-8ish week period was one of the hardest and things certainly change quickly. GL.

nsees

I don't have any specific advice to offer for your situation but it has helped me with our second to remember just how quickly the baby time went with #1.  I tried to keep that in the front of my mind on not-so-fun baby days.  They are only this needy for such a short amount of time.  Some days are rough but it will pass.

Sounds like you need your DH to take over with your little guy so you can get some cuddles in with M.  I hope tomorrow is better and that you find something that works for him!  (I agree with PP on trying the swaddle some more.)

hamilton.ja

This might seem random but besides the motion is it the upright-ness of being worn that he might prefer? When you have him in the bassinet is he flat on his back? I know he has some reflux issues and so did my DS and he HATED being on his back. He would tolerate being on his side - so we used a sleep positioner to keep him propped on his side and also a wedge to elevate the bassinet or crib or whatever he was sleeping on.

 

welshgirl

DS was like this when he was tiny. He'd only sleep on me, adn then I gradually got him used to sleeping in the pram, but he didn't nap in his crib until  he was 7-8 months, and old enough to do a bit of sleep training. He just refused early on. I dont' have anything constructive to add, but am sending you lots of hugs. I worry about this with LO number 2. I love my cuddles with DS!