Who Threw Your Shower?

Jessicamz · March 2010

I'm just wondering who is throwing everyone's baby shower? Is it tacky to have MIL/Mom/or sister throw you a shower? I know some people think this is rude for a close family member to throw a bridal shower, so I'm assuming it's the same etiquette for a baby shower but just curious what you all thought!

zawakenings · March 2010

My mom and MIL are planning on it - I don't really see anything wrong with it. I know at one point it was considered tacky, but I think people have gotten past that. I would only say it would be tacky for you and/or DH to host the shower.

rjmagness · March 2010

Hi! Glad to see this post.My MIL believes in 'equality' ( very annoying at times)....she didn't throw my SIL a shower...so she won't throw me one. My mom said she doesn't feel comfortable throwing one for the reason you mentioned it being tacky, as it is a party to ask for gifts. However, 2 of my bf's are throwing me showers and my mom and mil are being 'silent partners' ie.... supplying the location and helping out w/ out a lot of the food bill...so thankfll it works out...I would have felt sad not having a shower.

megperk72 · March 2010

zawakenings:
My mom and MIL are planning on it - I don't really see anything wrong with it. I know at one point it was considered tacky, but I think people have gotten past that. I would only say it would be tacky for you and/or DH to host the shower.

this!

pam1005 · March 2010

I had a friend throw my shower for all of my family and close friends and my mom threw me a shower for her friends and my aunts that I am close with. My mom threw my bridal shower too, so I think it is just fine for a family member to throw a shower.

hopefulmom · March 2010

When I had my first DD and because of my mom being older it was not thought "proper" for the mom/MIL/sister of the mom-to-be to throw a shower. My family shower was thrown by my 2nd cousin (we were the same age and had gone to school together). The other showers (2 of them) were thrown by friends. I also had a shower thrown for me (surprise!) for my 3rd child and it was my best friend who did that.

jolibebe · March 2010

My mom threw my shower and I know plenty of others who had their mom or family mbr throw their shower. I think it's outdated to a lot of people in today's day and age see it as not proper for a family mbr to host a shower.

BarbieNCSU · March 2010

In my family it is still considered tacky for a mom or mil to throw a shower. Two of my best friends are throwing my shower. I think it just depends on where you live and if its socially accepted.

joelen&louis · March 2010

I had/have 4 showers, each hosted by someone different for the various social circles I'm in...

Shower #1 - hosted by girlfriends who are assistant organizers of a culinary group I organize/manage (coed)

Shower #2 - hosted by my parents and sister (coed)

Shower #3 - hosted by my brother (coed)

Shower #4 - hosted by girlfriends who part of a social circle formed from our local Nest board.

TxTeacher · March 2010

My sister threw my friends/family shower and my bff threw my church shower. I think it's ok for close members to throw the shower, just not the mom-to-be.

xDanniellex · March 2010

I'm with a lot of other people, my mom and sister are throwing mine.

Mrs. Reckling · March 2010

I had one the MIL threw and I'm having another one that my mom is throwing.

HBaylies · March 2010

Mine is being planned by my mom, and two aunts mostly with the help of my SIL, MIL and step mom. I have a whole team, lol.

mollymay38 · March 2010

One shower was thrown by close friends. The other shower was thrown by my sister in law (guests were mostly family, and friends of my mother in law). It's what I like to call my "grown up shower".

MrsH44 · March 2010

My MIL is throwing one for DH's side of the family and my aunts are throwing the one for my side of the family.

vhcoleman09 · March 2010

My first shower was hosted by friends in my neighborhood, but the second was hosted by my mother. I don't think anybody saw this as being a big deal. Friends of my MIL are throwing the third shower in a month.

jennygirlmt · March 2010

My MIL and SIL hosted one and my Mom and Sister offered one for my family. I don't think it is tacky. I honestly wouldn't want a friend paying for a shower, I would feel weird.

Lux_Diva · March 2010

DH's best friend's wife threw mine (friend of the family). But I think a family member is fine. I think people project too much of a the bridal etiquette on the baby shower process and the are really very different.

drmorehead · March 2010

I am throwing my own shower because I have no one else who lives near me. It's going to be just a relaxed summer bbq to welcome our new addition. I don't think there is anything wrong with hosting your own shower.

LMark · March 2010

I think it's ok for a close family member to throw your shower.

My mom and sister are throwing our family shower. Last weekend my close friends threw one with our friends. A few of my students are planning one for me, too (I'm a hs teacher) Smile

scubaspot · March 2010

My step mom planned hosted one and a good friend hosted the other. It really depends on the region you live in as to whether or not it is tacky to have a close family member host the shower. I personally have never met anyone IRL that has a problem with a mother hosting a shower.

gringa78 · March 2010

My mom and sister are throwing one and my MIL is throwing one for DH's side. In my area of the country/social circles, it's pretty typical for moms and other family members to throw you a shower.