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Pre-TTC anyone?
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Hi Fellow Bumpies!
I am new here, and a little early (as I'm not actually TTC-ing yet). I am not sure what discussion group I fit into. My husband and I are going to TTC this Fall. I am so very excited, because I have had baby fever for over a year now. I actually just scheduled my preconception appointment for July (I know it's early, but the Doc that I want to see books up fast).
Is there anyone else out there that is in the Pre-TTC stage and wants to share their excitment? At this point I do not want to talk to my family about it, because it is a little early, and I want my pregnancy news to be somewhat of a pleasant suprise. And my husband is getting sick of me obsessing over it already, soooo...... that's were you come in 
DS#1- Born August 2011
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Re: Pre-TTC anyone?
i'm in the same boat (sort of)...my husband and i are in a holding pattern trying to pay off some bills so we can afford to have a baby. i have some health issues that are going to make ttc and actual pregnancy quite an adventure (pcos, high blood pressure, type-2 diabeties...)
i'm still hoping for a little one and hope we can start trying in the late summer/fall...my husband doesn't really know i obsess...he's older (41) and is afraid of having children too late in life, so i lurk here... i also lurk to get an idea of what some women with if and high-risk struggles go through so i can be a little better prepared....but time will tell!
i totally get the excitement though!
Nice to meet you! Since it looks like we will be TTC around the same time, hopefully we will be able to offer each other support!
Good luck!
DS#1- Born August 2011
Similar! I'm a newbie too, and we're waiting for slightly better timing for starting. I know you can't *really* plan the timing of a baby, but since there are some times that would be much more difficult for us than others, we're avoiding those (for now). I'm a student so I'm going to do everything I can to avoid delivery in the middle of, or late in, a semester -- LOL.
We originally were planning to start in August, but have now moved it up to May! I think for us we might really try for a month or two, then off, then try again (just because of the timing concerns).
I joined a few weeks ago and lurked around for a while. The ladies on TTC are great -- though many have been TTC for quite some time so that needs to be respected if you head over there. I have learned so much from them. Best advice -- Start charting so you can learn your cycle, etc, prior to TTC and you'll have a head start!
Well, as you can tell from my babbling - I BIG time have Babies on the Brain. I share your excitement and can't wait to start!! Welcome
SAME! I'm completely obsessed.
OMG! I already have furniture and decor picked out. I can't wait to start shopping for LO
DS#1- Born August 2011
Haha so do I. ?I look at every online baby store I could possibly look at! ?It is so exciting!!?
We are also trying to pay down credit. My goal is to have it all paid off by the time LO will need to start daycare. Not sure if we will need full-time daycare yet (as both sets of grandparents live close and are in retirement), but we are preparing for it financially, just in case.
The more I think about being financially ready the more freaked out I get.
It's hard to imagine adding that amount of expense each month, but I'm sure that we will make due. Others do it, and we are better of than many. We will just have to change our priorities!
DS#1- Born August 2011
In the same boat except my DH isn't a carpenter....he's in IT. I know our house isn't ready but I am and so is DH
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I have total BOTB too and I don't really think my DH knows how much/often I think about it. We?re talking I am all ready thinking about the nursery, names, how we are going to tell our parents?.
We are doing great on finances...but there are things we want to try and have completely paid off by the time the baby arrives... My DH defiantly wants to have a little one soon, but sometimes he freaks himself out and gets in this mindset that we should just wait until we pay everything off ? including student loans and the car, but that could be years! Does anyone else's DH (or DH2B) freak out a little about $$?
Oh a fun note, DH and I have all ready decided what we want the nursery to look like and will begin painting and organizing in the coming months?We?re not even going to TTC until December?but I am kind of a planner so it helps me to do things over a longer period of time! Have any of you all ready decided what you would like your nursery to look like?
Yes! I have a document saved on my work computer with images/links to nursery decor that I have seen on-line. I have pretty much picked out the furniture/decor that I want and have even decided how I will place it, but I am not going to buy anything until my 2nd tri. I have too many friends that have MC'd and it would be devastating to have the stuff in the nursery.
However, as far as getting organized, I am definitely planning ahead to clean out the closet and de-clutter the room this Summer while it's warm.
Have you visited the nursery page on HGTV's Rate My Space website? It is soooo fun to look at the different nursery designs that people have. I LOVE it!
DS#1- Born August 2011
Same here lol I don't think my fiance knows that I spend my days on the bump
I have thought of how I am gonna tell both our parents. I have also thought of a little girls name that I have fallen in love with. When I asked him last night if he likes the name he didn't answer me lol I think it is way to early for him to be thinking names.
Hi! We are pre-TTC as well. Like everyone else its mostly a money thing. While we are far better off financially than many of our friends (or some of our family for that matter) we're trying to pay down some CCs. We recently refinanced our house to get both a better interest rate and a lower monthly payment. This was at the top of our to-do list. We're trying to save a bit more as well.
My H is allllll about the money part of this. Its good because I spend entirely too much time looking at baby stuff, thinking about being pregnant and the rest. I think I do enough of the "fun' thinking for both of us. We dont really have a month set in stone for TTC but we're slowly starting to get our ducks in a row.
Hi! I'm a newbie! Its nice to hear other that other ppl are in the same boat. DH and I have only been married for 7 months, but I def have baby fever. I know we should wait to have more time together and until we are financially stable. But its always on my mind. I'm a planner too so I've also been thinking about ways to tell our family/friends, baby names etc. And yes doesn't it seem like when you want a baby everyone else is having them!
Hello ladies! You are not alone. Its good to see that there are others with BOTB (and new to the bump) like me. GL when you start your TTC. I would say lurk around the boards and figure out which one(s) are to your tastes. Be prepared for extremely honest and straightforward answers to any questions. Think before you ask (not that I think you won't but sometimes newbies are naive etc.) and you should have fun.
Some other advice that I have seen lurking: Also, once you post something (even if you end up sticking your foot in your mouth-- as I've seen some newbies do) do not "DD" it (Dirty Delete). This will make you the object of ridicule etc. That's the best piece of advice I've seen around. Lurk lurk lurk.
Hope to see y'all around the boards.
I'm from the first tri board, just an FYI, paying down debt while you're either not working due to maternity leave, or working part time, is bound to be extremely difficult with limited income...try your hardest to pay it off PRIOR to getting KU.
I've been a lurker for a while, I so have babies on the brain even though we are technically pre-TTC. We aren't preventing, but we aren't trying either. My husband and I are both ready, but don't want the pressure of TTC, we still want it to just be fun, so for now that's where we're leaving it. I also just got off BC in December and want to make sure everything is back to normal before TTC. I still think about it constantly though. We also want to get a few things paid off before actively TTC. Thanks for posting the question, I've wanted to, but wasn't sure how.
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Good to know! I wasn't sure if that was the right place for me, since I am not TTC yet. After lurking a bit on BOTB, I am not sure that I am a good fit there.
Thanks for the info!
DS#1- Born August 2011
YAY! Another Pre-TTC!!! We aren't going to start until this fall too! How awesome!
Are you super excited or what!? I'm SOOO Excited! i even have names picked out and everything.
My hubby gets sick of me obsessing, too, and HE obsesses about the financial side of having a baby. It really puts a negative light on everything, but I am waaaay too excited to even let that bug me!
I'm 28 and he's 33. We got married last July and are planning a sort of REAL honeymoon trip to Spain for September. I'm either going off BCP before that or after we get back (wouldn't it be cool to conceive in Spain?)
What's up with everyone else?
Super duper excited,
Claire Fishback
We are pre-TTC... planning for fall this year! September actually! Either before or after our trip to Spain (we think it would be cool to actually conceive IN Spain though) ;o)
My husband TOTALLY freaks about money. He's trying to plan financially for a baby and that is impossible (I've been told). I finally said to myself, what can I do to "ease" his mind? I put together a spreadsheet with possible costs (drawn from articles on Thenest.com and this site). It includes one time costs and monthly costs. If anyone wants to see it let me know and I'll email it to you if you provide your email addy.
I think showing him that, and telling him ways in which we can save money (buying used nursery furniture, hand me down clothes, breastfeeding instead of formula, even cloth diapers (have you SEEN the cloth diaper systems available???)...) really helped him wrap his mind around the fact that having a baby won't COMPLETELY drain our savings account... it'll drain it a little, yes, but it won't drain it completely.
I haven't thought about the nursery because right now that particular room is a guest room in our house. The only things I really think about are being pregnant, baby names, and things like that...
Claire Fishback
My friends are having babies left and right, too... at least it seems that way! (really, only ONE is pregnant... but my twin had her first last summer).
I have names picked out already and I put together a list of possible costs for things, where we can save money (used furniture, etc)...
It's so much fun planning this stuff and just THINKING about it!!!!
Recently DH and I have been talking more about TTC. I was so excited to see this thread because I really haven't known where to post considering I don't know exactly when we're going to try!
I'm 26 and DH is 35, so lately I've been feeling more anxious about when the "right" time to start trying is. He's fine with it happening now or later and he's told me so many times that he'd be fine being a first time dad when he's 40 (just an example). I worry about not being able to get pregnant later in life and him being so much older than me. Or, what happens if we want more children and it's later in life?
Right now I'm finishing up my last pre req for a nursing program so I will know if I get in sometime this summer. I'm thinking if I don't get accepted into the program this year, we may start trying in the fall. I've been trying to plan this all around school - but with wait lists, ect I'm not sure it'll be possible.
Sorry for the ramble! I have so many thoughts going on about this and my family encourages me just to "jump in" and I'm trying to be a little more responsible than that!
So good to see others in the same boat! Saturday we decided after I finish this pack of pills, I'm stopping. Suddenly, I'm baby obsessed! I'm not telling anyone, so, like you, that's where you all come in!! So, I guess we will officially be "trying" come the end of April.
I've been on BC since I was 17 and I'm now 28. I initially went on BC to regulate my periods, so we will see how my they are once I stop taking pills!
I LOVE that you have an appt scheduled and that you have a TTC countdown! Too cute!
I've been on BC since I was 17, and I am 28 too! My hubs is 33. I'm getting off BCP after my NEXT three month round, which puts me at August 18th, then we'll play it safe for about a month or so. DH says as long as he has ROUGHLY 1.5 years from NOW before a baby is born he is fine with it. He just freaks out about money so much. We are financially well off for our ages with good jobs and a nice cushion in our savings account. He just starts to think about all the bad things that can happen (losing his job, house falls apart, etc).
Anyway, I was so happy to find this board!!!
I've been off birth control for a couple of years. However, I was on it from about age 15-25. I track my cycle, so we either avoid or use condoms or the pullout method during my fertile days.
To answer your question, yes my periods are normal. I would suggest that you start reading about your body's fertility signs, if you haven't already done so. Even if your period is not regular you should be able to track when ovulation occurs based on your temp and CM (cervical mucus). There is a lot of really detailed information on fertilityfriend.com
DS#1- Born August 2011
My TTC plans are also revolving around school. I will be done next spring, so hopefully I will get pregnant this Fall and have the baby shortly after graduation!!!
DS#1- Born August 2011
Wow! Your trip to Spain sounds amazing! We were thinking about going to Cancun during our first month of TTC, just to take the pressure off. I also thought that it would be cool to conceive in another country. I told my DH that we could have a shirt made for our baby that says, "Made in Mexico"...lol.
p.s. My DH and I are the same ages as you and your DH. Funny!
DS#1- Born August 2011
I am totally a planner so I know how you feel. However, it seems like the more baby crazy I get, the less I obsess over everything being perfect financially. I mean it is one thing to think about what your budget will be, but it's another to think that you have to be completely debt free.
It sounds like you are getting by on just to one income, so maybe your DH is right!
DS#1- Born August 2011
Hey Claire,
I would LOVE to see your spreadsheet. I am such a spreadsheet nerd and somehow haven't gotten around to making one. I think it would ease my mind to know exactly what we're signing up for. phelance@hotmail.com. I am trying not to get to far ahead of myself either, I haven't looked into nursery stuff, although I painted the room yellow when we bought, you know...just in case...But definitely writing down my favourite names and we talked today about going off BCP. Does anyone know how long you should be off before trying? I heard three months to make sure it's out of your system, but my friend was off for three weeks and got pregnant...
I think it would be totally awesome to conceive in Spain, what a great story! and just so romantic.
My DH and I JUST talked about that this morning, that I'll stop the pill basically starting now. I would take my first one tonight if I started a new pack. I'll admit it's kinda scary. Makes it real. But very exciting. We don't want to truly be TTC until earliest June...I have to see if my contract at work gets extended... I am also wondering how my cycle will be, I'm hoping things will be normal, my friend who just had her baby said that she was actually feeling better off the pill and her husband said her moods have been so much better and less crazy emotional days OFF the pill...I never thought i was super moody but maybe that's a bonus of going off it.
So starting tomorrow, we'll see how this goes.