Nesting + bedrest = :( (Vent)

SLM05

Sorry, I just need to vent.  I don;t want to vent this ti DH since he is working so hard and doing so much to take care of everything. 

At peri visit yesterday i am almost but not yet dialated and feel like i may only make it to 30 week at home at least.

Well i was bugging my DH and family to get ready months ago before i was put on bedrest and they kept saying "Oh we have lots of time"  Well now i have been on bedrest for about 7 weeks.  I want to nest so badly but can't due to besrest.
Also inlaws begged to buy the carseats as soon as we told them we we pregnant.  Well they visited about 4 weeks ago and we were looking at he carseats online and they still have tno bought them.  DH won't say anything to them so i emailed them last night b/c i am going nuts.  And MIL replies "well i guess we will have to get on it" You guess!!! I have told u all along my dr says 30 was my goal and i am 29 weeks on thursday.
We finally got the cribs set up but we need two more mattresses...i saw some a while ago, but DH did not think we needed to rush to get them.....now they are no longer carried by that store..

I have mountains of baby stuff to wash  but can't do it and DH told me he did nto want my friends to come over to help.  DH is having a hard time accepting help. grrrr!!!

Sorry i just need to vent! Thanks ladies 

BeccaLandes

I know how you feel; at points in my pregnancy (like before we got carseats!) I was convinced we wouldn't even get to take our babies home from the hospital!

I would say, though, in your situation, you will probably have a few weeks of time when your babies will be living at the hospital and you will be at home.  I know this isn't a great thing to think about, but it will give you a little time to wash their baby clothes, to send your husband to the store to get mattresses for the cribs, etc.  You will spend all day at the hospital with your babies, I'm sure, but there might be some hours here and there where you could catch up with getting the house ready.  (Keep in mind I have never had a baby in the NICU so this could be completely false, it is just what I assumed I would do if my babies came too early.)

It is so frustrating though to be stuck in bed and needing help, and those people who can give you help are too busy to do it.  In a way, it is just about getting some peace of mind so that you feel more in control of a scary situation.

GiGi1221

So sorry! I totally understand... My mom and sister were here for a day and they took all the clothes  and separated them, so I keep gently reminding DH about the clothes that need to be washed.

I hate to say it but if the babies are born at 30 weeks they will need to in the NICU so although not ideal you will have some time before you bring them home...

shipoopiisforme

this to me is one of the worst parts of being on bedrest. we basically have to shuffle around mst of our 2nd floor to make room for the twins and i know my mom and h will take care of it, it just drives me insane that i can't and have to depend on them.

i hate that i can't even go and look at the stroller we think we want and don't know how i can even pick a car seat without knowing what stroller we are getting.

chocolatechip06

If you DH is not helping/faciliating help at this time, I think you might have to sit him down and plainly tell him that these babies are coming sooner rather than later and it's better to get stuff done now, rather when you have babies in the NICU and a daughter to take care of at home.

I assume you will be having a c-section and between recovery from that and the babies in the NICU you will not be able to get things post c-section for about 4-6 weeks.

Ask for help or take the help that is offered.  It will be worth the peace of mind to the whole family.

stacieandclint

I know it's so frustrating to be on bed rest! I'm the type of person who likes to have everything in order and it's killing me that I can't be organizing the baby stuff as much as I want to! My husband washed the baby clothes and I was able to sit and fold them and organize them by size and type. I also hired a housekeeper (something I've never done before because I want the house super clean before the baby comes!) Since I've been on bed rest I've ordered quite a bit of stuff on-line, I read all the reviews and that helps me decide and if I don't like something when it comes I can always exchange it but so far i have liked everything I ordered. Like someone else said if you have your baby around 30 weeks he will be in the NICU for a while and you'll have time to get last minute things. Tell your husband you need to get stuff done ASAP for your sanity and hopefully he'll understand. Good Luck!