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We want to know if you have babies on the brain....
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Re: We want to know if you have babies on the brain....
Babies on the brain for me, but we don't have the $$ to support one yet. Both employed, just not particularly steadily. We'll wait. Won't start really feeling the pressure until the 5th anniversary, and this is only our second.
I really enjoy other people's babies: I can play with them while they're cute and then hand them back when they start to cry!
Congrats to all the new mommies on here!
PS. Though some might think it hypocritical, I agree with the ladies on here who say NOT to wait if you're planning on having kids and are over 30. I have a good friend who married a woman a few years old than him (she was 34 at the time, now 37), and they immediately started trying to conceive, but have as yet been unsuccessful. It breaks my heart to think they might not be able to have children when they want them so badly. And then of course there's the health risk to both mother and baby the older you get. Biology is biology, and if I were older, I would not feel as compelled to wait.
Please don't anyone jump on my case, as every person is different and your decisions are your own. Just adding my own anecdote to that of others here.
I'm so glad you posted this. DH and I decided that kids weren't for us and when I tell people this they look at me like I just sprouted 2 new heads! I'm tired of people not respecting our decision or treating us like we are from another planet because we choose not to have kids. Why is it so hard to understand that just because we are married doesn't mean we now HAVE to have kids? We have 14 nieces and nephews with another one on the way and are both in our 30s...I think we are quite capable of knowing what we want in life...and being Auntie and Uncle is good enough for us!
My favorite is when people then ask, "So why did you get married?" I usually answer, "The tax benefits," roll my eyes and walk away.
I'm 30, have been married almost five years, and have no strong desire to have a child. So sue me.
Oh me oh my, do I have babies on the brain!! lol My husband and I married June of 2008 & have now been a couple for almost 6 years, known for him 14 year almost!
We were actually pregnant (total accident by the way, was on the pill) and we ended up with a miscarriage and ever since then I have not been able to get it out of my head or heart! Praying this month is the month for us!!
My husband and I are in pretty much the same boat. I absolutely want kids (but not JUST yet) and he's still doubting his own potential parenting abilities.
We've been married almost two years but we still have plenty of time (he'll be 30 this year, and I'm almost 26). Add to that the fact that I'm between jobs and considering going back to school (I graduated in '07 with a BS but I haven't found the right career), we have four pets, and my health insurance has a year-long waiting period before covering pregnancy care, and that pretty much cements that we simply can't afford it right now.
So we're definitely not TTC, but I have babies on the brain like WHOA. It's like EVERYONE I know is expecting! And, unexpectedly, I'm completely jealous!
bfp 1 - m/c 1.31.11 @ 10 weeks
bfp 2 - baby born via c-section on 5.4.12 @ 37 weeks
bfp 3 - blighted ovum/d&c on 4.13.13 @ 8 weeks
bfp 4 - 3rd IUI, very late BFN with super low P, c/p
bfp 5 - natural bfp while on lupron, baby born via RCS on 4.27.15 @ 39 weeks
bfp 6 - surprise! baby born via RCS on 11.13.16 @ 38 weeks
I have never had a desire to have kids, but everyone keeps asking as if I'm going to suddenly change my mind. I have been tempted to start a rumor that we are infertile, but I know deep down in my heart that doing that isn't fair to the couples that really are.
I just wish there was a way to make all the comments stop. Perhaps I will just tell people I got my tubes tied even though I didn't.
Yes, we do.
I totally understand where you're coming from. My husband and I waited 6 years before becoming pregnant, and for the first 4 our family and friends couldn't stop teasing and asking us about it nearly everytime they saw us. But I'm glad we waited and now we have a beautiful little boy and a second one on the way. I think it was perfect timing.
So enjoy the "just the two of you" time for a while, then when you're ready it will be a lovely addition to your already established relationship.
Schenone
I totally understand where you're coming from. My husband and I waited 6 years before becoming pregnant, and for the first 4 our family and friends couldn't stop teasing and asking us about it nearly everytime they saw us. But I'm glad we waited and now we have a beautiful little boy and a second one on the way. I think it was perfect timing.
So enjoy the "just the two of you" time for a while, then when you're ready it will be a lovely addition to your already established relationship.
We've been trying for a year and a half now without luck. It is absolutely the hardest thing I've experienced as a wife and woman.
I'm with TheBenonas. I have babies on the brain but am also tired of everyone asking about us having babies. DH had a vasectomy almost 10 years ago so there are many steps that we have to take to have a baby. So, I get sick of the asking especially when it's people who know about the situation.
We've started the process but are still in the planning and questions phase.
June will be our one year anniversary and we have wanted babies since before we were married. We already have names picked out and everything.. We just had a talk about TTC last week and were seriously considering it. After thinking about it a little more, we decided we just aren't ready. I will be only 20 this May and haven't finished college yet. He is in the army and will be released in 3-6 months due to injuries during his deployment. After that, we have to move back to our hometown and handle college and careers and get ourselves on a steady track before we have babies. It kills me not being able to have one now, but I don't think it would be fair to us or a baby to bring him/her into a stressful, chaotic environment. At least it's motivation to keep on track with schooling and work! :]
Good luck to everybody TTC!
This is where I'm at.....
Been thinking a lot about it, but don't think we are just ready for forever...
Myhusband and I got married June of 2009 but have been together for 7 years thisApril. We both have had babies on the brain for the past few months. We havebeen talking about names, nursery color ideas, and so on. I am one of sixchildren and he only had one sister, all of whom joined with our parents andgrandparents are asking us all the time when we are planning to havechildren.
The"problem" is that he is a minister (for those of you who donot know they do not make a lot of money) and I just graduated undergrad andnow have a BA Degree in Language Arts Education and nowhere to use it. With itbeing the middle of the school year, and the economy being so bad, my hopes arenot up for a position next year either. Not trying to be negative but Iwould rather have good insurance, a job, and a house before the biggest of allblessings comes along. Is that crazy?My husband and I fiixing to celebrate our 4 month wedding aniversary and we just found out that we were pregnant. We too decided to get off the pill and just trust God, We decided that if we trust Him with all other portions of our life then why not this area too. I am a little nervous, being onl 24 and married for 4 months but I know the Lord I serve will not give me more than I can handle and that He will provide for us. I was really relieved to see someone else who thought this way. "Good luck" with getting pregnant, keep your eyes where they are and I am sure all in His time things will happen right.
Me and my husband are def. trying we really want to be parents, and we know that even my mom gives the advice to (wait till you can afford it, wait till your ready) but... I also know that know one is ever prepared there 1st time having kids, the 1st time is the learning experience and you can never prepare for something you have never experienced before.... we are a young couple I know but we both know it will hard, but everything worth working hard for is worth the struggle in the end cause it keeps you close and more willing to succeed... I can?t wait to be a mommy
I don't have any children yet, but from what I've seen with my nephews they haven't had a bad time with their daycare. My brother's son is in the day care at the local college and has been going there since he was like 1 and has grown so much from being there and has made a lot of really close friends! My sister's son goes to an in-home daycare (she takes care of 1 or 2 other kids) and the woman is an excellent care taker! She has a lot of certifications and even encourages my sister to come over during lunch time to breast feed when she was still breast feeding my nephew. She still has my sister come over during lunch to feed him and see him during the day. My sister found her from a child care list online, I'll have to ask her more details about it and I can let ya know more if you'd like! I dunno how things my be in your state, but hopefully you can do similar research like my sister did. Good luck to you!