s/o orgasm...clicky poll! Maybe TMI...

Kristi221 · February 2010

Sorry if this is TMI for some folks. I figure we're grown ups and can handle it!
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Kristi221 · February 2010

PS - I know I can't be the only girl here who isn't able to finish through sex alone. It's happened once...ever...ugh! So frustrating!

flypink · February 2010

Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

lenfant1201 · February 2010

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

ams8099 · February 2010

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Really?? wow...that is my favorite foreplay!

hispenguin · February 2010

babyschiller:

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

Thank god I'm not the only one. I had a huge discussion with my BFF about oral, and she thought I was insane that I didn't like it. I never have. It's quicker to just let the fingers do the work.

lenfant1201 · February 2010

hispenguin:
babyschiller:

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

Thank god I'm not the only one. I had a huge discussion with my BFF about oral, and she thought I was insane that I didn't like it. I never have. It's quicker to just let the fingers do the work.

Amen, sister!

jiffy-pop · February 2010

Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

j_luvs_r · February 2010

hispenguin:
babyschiller:

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

Thank god I'm not the only one. I had a huge discussion with my BFF about oral, and she thought I was insane that I didn't like it. I never have. It's quicker to just let the fingers do the work.

Wow. I really thought I was alone in this. I have never liked it. Ever ever ever. Also, I like to kiss and once he's been down there, that's all over. R always wants to do it, but I very rarely let him.

Oh, and I voted Special Snowflake. I have only had a few orgasms by penetration alone. I pretty much need outside stimulation. So, because I like to get off during intercourse, I usually just touch myself during the act. Sometimes he does it, but it's usually easier for me. :-)

j_luvs_r · February 2010

jiffy-pop:
Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

Not even on your own?

hispenguin · February 2010

jiffy-pop:

Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

You poor thing, that is sad.

katib77 · February 2010

I said all three please but ranked in order it would be fingers, me on top, then oral.

flypink · February 2010

babyschiller:
hispenguin:
babyschiller:

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.
Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!
Thank god I'm not the only one. I had a huge discussion with my BFF about oral, and she thought I was insane that I didn't like it. I never have. It's quicker to just let the fingers do the work.
Amen, sister!

For me it feels like a weird snake or something wiggling around down there. Not pleasing at all! I'm glad I'm not the only one who hates it. DH always asks to do it because he says he likes it. But it's not gonna happen.

And I may get flamed - but I won't give either. He pee's out of it. That's just nast.

katib77 · February 2010

Flypink, not to judge but if you won't go down on DH do you at least play with his balls and give a little hand action when AF shows or as foreplay? I am just curious .

jiffy-pop · February 2010

j_luvs_r:
jiffy-pop:

Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

Not even on your own?

Nope. I haven't done a whole lot of experimenting but I've just kind of given up on the whole concept. I enjoy sex with DH, especially since TTCing. I just have fun until DH finishes. I'm usually tired and ready to quit by then anyway. Someone PM me exact instructions how DH uses his fingers. I know it sounds weird to ask for that info but I am very interested in experiencing a real O.

flypink · February 2010

katib77:
Flypink, not to judge but if you won't go down on DH do you at least play with his balls and give a little hand action when AF shows or as foreplay? I am just curious .

Yes, he's stays satisfied

We usually have "shower fun" which is massages and a hand job. The soap and water really gets him off, plus my naked body helps. My AF is only three-four days long so it's really not an issue for him. He might not even know I'm on my period if I didn't tell him. Three days goes by fast.

katib77 · February 2010

JiffyPop YGPM

JAllen32 · February 2010

Special Snowflake: 50% of the time its oral, 50% is sex with a vib or fingers. I have only been able to finish during sex a small handful of times. I need assistance. Embarrassed

katib77 · February 2010

flypink:

katib77:
Flypink, not to judge but if you won't go down on DH do you at least play with his balls and give a little hand action when AF shows or as foreplay? I am just curious .

Yes, he's stays satisfied

We usually have "shower fun" which is massages and a hand job. The soap and water really gets him off, plus my naked body helps. My AF is only three-four days long so it's really not an issue for him. He might not even know I'm on my period if I didn't tell him. Three days goes by fast.

I'm a 3 or 4 day AF'er too so it's not like I do it every month but I enjoy giving DH extra attention everynow and then to show my love (and since he always pays extra attention to me). Sound like you know how to turn your man on which is all that needs doin' ;P

karaknr · February 2010

jiffy-pop:
j_luvs_r:
jiffy-pop:

Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

Not even on your own?

Nope. I haven't done a whole lot of experimenting but I've just kind of given up on the whole concept. I enjoy sex with DH, especially since TTCing. I just have fun until DH finishes. I'm usually tired and ready to quit by then anyway. Someone PM me exact instructions how DH uses his fingers. I know it sounds weird to ask for that info but I am very interested in experiencing a real O.

In all honesty, the best way to teach your DH is to learn how to make yourself happy first. I have friends who get SO freaked out by that, but it does help in sex if you can grab the Big O with just intercourse. Your DH isnt a woman, never has been, so he doesnt know what feels good to you. If you dont know what feels good either its just the blind leading the blind. Most women O the most easily through clitoral stimulation. This is TMI: but try "playing around down there" or go the quick route and purchase an inexpensive vibrator. Youll figure it out and will be able to inform DH on how to help. My DH LOVES helping. I thought hed hate it but its turned into a competition for him haha. Ok sry, tmi. Anyway, try that first and teach him what you learn.

DawgGirl · February 2010

Me on top or him on top but it has to be the hard fast sex to get an O for me. Or usually its gonna be a little extra fingers action mine or his who ever

flypink · February 2010

karaknr:
jiffy-pop:
j_luvs_r:
jiffy-pop:

Here's a special snowflake for ya!
I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.
Not even on your own?
Nope. I haven't done a whole lot of experimenting but I've just kind of given up on the whole concept. I enjoy sex with DH, especially since TTCing. I just have fun until DH finishes. I'm usually tired and ready to quit by then anyway. Someone PM me exact instructions how DH uses his fingers. I know it sounds weird to ask for that info but I am very interested in experiencing a real O.

In all honesty, the best way to teach your DH is to learn how to make yourself happy first. I have friends who get SO freaked out by that, but it does help in sex if you can grab the Big O with just intercourse. Your DH isnt a woman, never has been, so he doesnt know what feels good to you. If you dont know what feels good either its just the blind leading the blind. Most women O the most easily through clitoral stimulation. This is TMI: but try "playing around down there" or go the quick route and purchase an inexpensive vibrator. Youll figure it out and will be able to inform DH on how to help. My DH LOVES helping. I thought hed hate it but its turned into a competition for him haha. Ok sry, tmi. Anyway, try that first and teach him what you learn.

My basic advice for DH is to "stay high." When he finds the spot I let him know and it doesn't take long from there. GL!

babyike · February 2010

I voted SS.... here it goes....

I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!

Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

NavyGMWife · February 2010

PS - I know I can't be the only girl here who isn't able to finish through sex alone. It's happened once...ever...ugh! So frustrating! - Kristi221

This so very much this!

flypink · February 2010

babyike:
I voted SS.... here it goes....
I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!
Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

BabyIke is a freeeeeeak. lol. You go girl.

karaknr · February 2010

babyike:
I voted SS.... here it goes....

I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!

Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

HAHAHAHAH! Yep I invested in a hot pink Turtle instead of a rabbit! But swirly beads and vibrates just the same hahahaha! Had a passion party last year. ALLL my friend there got one too!

babyike · February 2010

flypink:
babyike:

I voted SS.... here it goes....

I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!

Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

BabyIke is a freeeeeeak. lol. You go girl.

Flypink... tell me about it Stick out tongue . I had a friend tell me about her rabbit, and she highly recommended it. Once I tried it... well, let's just say that orgasm was almost too much to handle. After that, there was almost no way I could get there without it. Shameful? Hardly. Freakish? Maybe. Worth it? Abso-freakin-lutely!

flypink · February 2010

babyike:
flypink:
babyike:

I voted SS.... here it goes....
I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!
Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::
BabyIke is a freeeeeeak. lol. You go girl.
Flypink... tell me about it . I had a friend tell me about her rabbit, and she highly recommended it. Once I tried it... well, let's just say that orgasm was almost too much to handle. After that, there was almost no way I could get there without it. Shameful? Hardly. Freakish? Maybe. Worth it? Abso-freakin-lutely!

Awesome! I may have to look into it!

katib77 · February 2010

karaknr:
babyike:

I voted SS.... here it goes....

I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!

Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

I used to have that back when I was single.... it broke. Or I wore it out. either way, all I have now is this really small vib that is waterproof that I got once a long time ago.

HAHAHAHAH! Yep I invested in a hot pink Turtle instead of a rabbit! But swirly beads and vibrates just the same hahahaha! Had a passion party last year. ALLL my friend there got one too!

babyike · February 2010

karaknr:
babyike:

I voted SS.... here it goes....

I have only had orgasms with DH a handful of times in the seven years we've been together. DH is wonderful in the sack, but most of my kicks come from my premium rabbit w/rotating pearls. Yes it's pink, has five vibration settings, includes an extra tickler, and is waterproof. It's THE BOMB.com ladies!

Whew! ::hums "It's gettin' hot in herre.."::

HAHAHAHAH! Yep I invested in a hot pink Turtle instead of a rabbit! But swirly beads and vibrates just the same hahahaha! Had a passion party last year. ALLL my friend there got one too!

Thank goodness someone else understands! I've never heard of the Turtle, but if my rabbit ever runs out of juice... I'll keep that in mind Wink

jjabs18 · February 2010

katib77:

I said all three please but ranked in order it would be fingers, me on top, then oral.

This exactly!!!

katib77 · February 2010

Sorry don't know why what I wrote was inserted into the middle of someone else's quote.

Marinewife81 · February 2010

It's def. worth the investment!!

Babydust08 · February 2010

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

This is SO me! And it takes so long if I do...grr! Usually need some fingers to do some walking, ha!

MLF135 · February 2010

Just a little advice on getting it done yourself if need be.

Try the shower....if you can get off from external sensations, use the shower head (if yous is detachable)...if not and you can work it, get underneath the running bathtub. Gets me everytime.

AllSmiles1210 · February 2010

babyschiller:
flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.
Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

Thank you both for posting about this! DH thinks I'm the only girl who thinks this way. I might have to save this thread for him to read so he can see I'm not alone!

MLF135 · February 2010

fmgrice:
babyschiller:

flypink:
Special snowflake - I HAVE to be on top to orgasm...or...doggy with fingers helping out. Oral sex gives me the creepy crawlies.

Me too!!! I don't mind giving, but I hate--detest--receiving. Every man I've ever been with has said "Oh, you've just never had anyone do it *right*." Puh-lease. I know what I like, and it ain't the tongue. Glad it's not just me--all my girlfriends think I'm crazy!

Thank you both for posting about this! DH thinks I'm the only girl who thinks this way. I might have to save this thread for him to read so he can see I'm not alone!

I agree with this too, I don't enjoy it at all! DH thinks I'm nuts.

mellymel12 · February 2010

Special Snowflake here!

Ive never had an O from sex...which totally bums me out!

But 90% of the time I do it myself (with my own fingers) while we are having sex, 5% is from oral (which I can always O from) and the other 5% is from DH using his fingers. So it's pretty much all outer stimulation!!!

j&j508 · February 2010

jiffy-pop:
Here's a special snowflake for ya!

I've never had an O!! I'm hoping pregnancy might help this situation.

This was me for 7 years, until I met DH. I tease him that that's why I married him. I think for me it was that he took the time to ask and make sure he knew what would help, and made me feel comfortable... I hope you find a way!!