REALLY Rude Comment

CJ71903

I just have to get this off my chest:  While I was on my work trip last week, we met up with some people for dinner.  We were discussing how long we've been married and I told them that my husband and I have been married almost seven years.  One of the guys that we were having dinner with says, "You've been married for seven years and you don't have kids?!?!"  I didn't even know what to say.  I know that he didn't mean anything by it, but it still hurt.

Thanks for listening.

illinigal

Yes, that does hurt.  Some people just don't get it.  I hope you had a good reply.  Instead of saying what I really wanted to say, I'd probably say something like, well, we're just trying to be responsible and save up a nice nest egg before having kids.

doozer1345

Ouch.

mbjmaybebaby

Uggh, annoying.

I like to stop them dead in their tracks and say, "We want to make sure our marriage is going to work first." 

Me&Mr.T

((HUGS)) That is tough to hear. Some people have no filter.

jds0521

Some people are sooo effing rude & don't even realize how ridiculous they are being. I'd be annoyed too - did your H say anything?

newsbaby

UGH that is ridiculous and no ones business to make a comment like that. I am so sorry.

nikinikinine

Some people just don't understand.

scooterq

Ugh, so rude!  Some people just don't seem to think before they speak at all.

AimeeL85

That was extremely rude of him. Where do people get off saying things like that? Really he's basically saying "it's not normal to not have kids after being married that long so you need to give us all an explanation" you know? If it were me, I would think "hmm I wonder if they don't want children or have trouble or just aren't ready yet" but out loud I wouldn't say a damn thing...that's just rude.

wiscgirl95

I hate hate HATE comments like that.  Grrr

yodasmistress

mrshoppy_1231

So rude! Why do people find it OK to always have an opinion on when/if others are going to have children? Not even for those of us that have IF but there are couples that choose not to have kids - not everyone wants kids so it's rude all around! I'm sorry ((hugs))

Rachael07.07.07

What a douche. People are idiots. (((hugs)))

SunMoon&Stars

In case it happens again:

Rude jerk: "You've been married for seven years and you don't have kids?!?!"

You: "A lot of people don't".

That should shut him up. No need to mention TTC or IF.

stepgirl21

Ugh! That sucks. I'm sorry. I still get comments like that and they still sting. Ive been married for 7 years as well. "You've been married for 7 years and this is your first one?!" GRRRR!!!!

Temp935838312504158

So rude - people can suck sometimes!

hopingforbaby#1in2010

i wouldve said "I dont feel comfortable answering that, but hey why dont you congratulate me on being married for so long, thats quite an accomplishment these days"

SweetDahlia

That is so rude. People suck.

Hoosiergurl

What a complete jerk!  I am sorry you had to deal with that.  People just don't think before they speak!

theworms

(((HUGS)))

people suck

Jenny952

Ugh, I've been married for 7 years and I get that a lot too.  It's worse when I see my family, since they don't know we've been trying for 2 years.  I totally know how you feel and agree that people are just sooooo rude sometimes.