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Bedrest Mama's Daily Check-In ***Sunday***
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This thread is for any and all mamas on bedrest, in any form. We are stuck home or in the hospital, in a bed or on our couches, and could use the support of each other to make it through this time in order to get to a healthy baby! We all know how hard bedrest is and we wish everyone a healthy pregnancy!!!! Anyone is welcome to join, and anyone can start this daily thread. Just copy and paste this paragraph and info lines below if you get here and the thread has yet to start for that day!
Name - Abby
Due Date - 7/21
Date Placed on Bedrest - at 14wks
Type - srict bedrest at home
Why - contractions, possible cervix issues, placenta previa
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- I'm not doing well with this right now. I miiight have had a little pity party last night after every TV show I flipped on had a pregnant person going about her normal life. 
Hoping that you might have some ideas for me!
Updates- Had a rough night last night...I don't know how you all have done this for so long! I've been on modified for a few weeks, so just work and then the couch, but only 4 days into full bedrest and I am ready to chew my arm off to go to the store or a movie 
But...the good news is that it seems to be helping. I haven't had any huge batches of stabbing pain since I stopped working. Yesterday and today so far have had a lot of the aching/cramping that comes before the sharp pain, but so far so good!
**Michelle** - What a great hubby you have!! that must have been so refreshing to get out of the house for a littl bit after being cooped up for so long!
**Brittany** - Glad that you got to have your shower!! that must have been fun!! Bummer that your family flaked out on you 
**Lisa** - I'm sorry that you are finally on bedrest You have done so amazing being able to power on through with those three little ones so far!!
**Jennifer** - Do you have any pics of your cradle?! Let me live vicariously!
**Annie** - Has your DH read any of the information about what you are dealing with? Maybe he needs to fully understand that this is serious and you are doing what you HAVE to do in order to keep yourself AND the baby safe! Also, maybe you can sit down and share with him what you are feeling...scared, maybe guilty about not being able to contribute, frustrated that things are easy, etc, that might help him understand that this isn't a walk in the park/vacation for you either. ((HUGS))
**Lauren** - Just wanted to give you extra big props and hugs...I can only imagine how frustrating hospital bedrest is
**Laura** - Glad that you got some company yesterday and the DH got to go out and blow off some steam!! Mine did that on Friday and he seemed much more relaxed yesterday.
**Mandy** - That's a long time!! I'm glad that you are able to get out of the house a little now, but sorry that you are so umcomfortable already!
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Re: Bedrest Mama's Daily Check-In ***Sunday***
Name - Lisa
Due Date - 4/28
Date Placed on Bedrest - 26 weeks
Type - srict bedrest at home
Why - contractions, cervix is 1cm dilated
Question of the Day - I feel like I dealt with this early on, as soon as we found out we were having triplets. I was grateful for sticky babies (after 2 m/c) but resentful that now my pregnancy wasn't going to be easy. Hadn't I suffered enough already after 3 years of TTC?? Plus there's the thought of the costs of raising 3 kids at once, we never planned to have 3 kids, can I ever go back to work, etc. I feel like I'm in a better place of acceptance now, but the 1st tri was kind of rough.
Update - I posted a question below about dealing with muscle soreness and achiness, so if you have any tips that would be great. I'm feeling kind of blah today...hoping a late-morning nap will help.
Abby - I'm sorry you have to be on bedrest so early!! I stopped work at 21 weeks so I've been lounging around the house for the last few weeks but was still able to go out when I wanted. I hope that bedrest keeps being helpful to you so you can keep that precious baby in for a long time!! I just keep telling myself that bedrest is a whole heck of a lot better than delivering the babies right now. hang in there!
Name - Brittany
Due Date - 3/4
Date Placed on Bedrest - 1/18 at 34 weeks
Type - bedrest at home
Why - extreme swelling in feet and legs. watching for pre-e
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- I kinda feel bad for being on bedrest. I know things could be so much worse and I some times wonder why I am on bedrest. I know the docters know what they are doing though.
Updates- Today is a really really tired day. The swelling has gone down in my feet but they feel bruised when ever the swelling goes down so no fun.
*I am going to go and read the past few check ins. I need to be better about showing that I care about you other bedrest ladies. I will post again. I am not self centered I swear.
BrittAny Nicole
Name - Lauren
Due Date - 3/23
Date Placed on Bedrest - all of 1st tri, 2 weeks of 2nd tri and now officially again 1/4
Type - srict hospital bedrest
Why - IUGR
Question of the Day - Oh the dreaded frustrations about not having a "normal pregnancy"--I think every high risk mom has these feelings at least 1 time in their pregnancy, I struggled w/ it alot in my 1st tri when I was stuck home w/ an IV pole on home IV therapy and a zofran pump, to add insult to injury I had 2 other friends who were pg at the time who were just breezing right along (one of them was my bff who is due 3 days after me) but I finally got off bedrest and accepted that things this pregnancy just arent going to be normal or easy for me which has made being put back on bedrest in 3rd tri alot more managable--I do sometimes grieve (flame away but I think you all will understand) that I wont be able to go into labor naturally (we had been taking Bradley natural childbirth classes during 2nd tri), grieving that I will probably end up w/ a c-section and wont feel like I can relate to other moms who have felt labor and contractions, etc., I grieve knowing I wont ever get to have the big pregnant belly (I am still pretty small for how far along I am b/c little buddy is so small-- I pretty much peaked at about 22 weeks along), I grieve that I cant "enjoy" being pregnant b/c there is always so much drama that I dont feel like I can just relax and bask in being pregnant but then I remind myself--some women never get to experience any of this, even the crappy bedrest stuff, some women pray every day to just have the excitement of being able to tell their DH that they are pg, some women experience all we are going through and then dont end up w/ a baby to take home b/c their angels go to heaven--it helps me have some perspective, to remember how blessed I am and to remember that God has a plan for me and my baby and that plan includes us going through this :
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD. (Jeremiah 29:11-14)
Update - No real updates since yesterday--I figured out the weird abdominal pain I was having was coming from my old appendectomy scar tissue stretching--ugh! internal scar tissue stretching--it feels as miserable as it sounds but maybe it means little buddy is growing! a girl can only hope...
Name - Jennifer
Due Date - 4/16
Date Placed on Bedrest - 12/31 @ 25 weeks
Type - strict bedrest at home
Why - hypertension; pre-e risk
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- This question kinda goes back to my relating question I asked last week. I guess part of the reason I can't relate is because I'm jealous. I get really irritated when other pregnant ladies complain about being ready just to get their babies out or when they talk about how big their babies are going to be, etc. when they have had completely normal pregnancies. It just irritates me when they complain about their normal, uncomplicated pregnancies. Sometimes I just have to stop myself from making snarky comments, like "Well, I'm just praying that I can make it to full term........." or saying "Well, at least you're not dealing with X, Y, & Z. Trust me, there are ladies who are dealing with much more than you are......" I get jealous when they talk about going out and doing things, decorating their nurseries, or showers. Even when they talk about going to child birthing classes and such. Basically, just when they talk about normal pregnancy stuff. I just carefully choose which posts I read. Lately I check the High Risk board more than 3rd tri, and I mostly just lurk on 3rd tri. I don't watch a lot of shows with pregnant women on them, and I try to just focus on my own health and my LO so that I don't get too depressed. I try to remind myself that, while it sucks, it's all worth it.
Updates- Having my mom and her fiance over last night was a lot of fun. And our cradle is so sweet. I'm just waiting to see if the cat tries to make it his bed. When my mom left, my bp was high though, so having the company and getting the cradle put together must have been a little too over stimulating..... I also woke up in the middle of the night with a terrible headache. Thankfully it's not that bad this morning, but my bp is still a little high.
DH also put our cube shelves together for LO's room. So, when DH gets home with the glider, I will take pictures of the shelves and the glider so everyone can see. I feel like we're making some good progress on Baby Sam's room, which makes me feel really good!
My mom and I discussed baby showers last night. We both agree that I probably shouldn't have one before the baby gets here. That makes me pretty sad, but I don't see how I could attend a shower before Sam gets here. So, I gave her a list of things I thought we would absolutely need right away. I don't expect her to buy it all, but she asked me for it. So, at least we have a better idea of what we really need, as opposed to things we really want.
**Lauren - I grieve that I can't enjoy these last few months of being pregnant too
Here's hoping that LB is growing and that's why you're in pain!
**Abby - I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. It will be worth it in the end. I just remind myself to keep my eye on the prize. I'm glad that br is working for your pain though.
**Lisa - I'm feeling achy a little sometimes too. But mostly, I just feel lethargic and my limbs seem heavy. I just try to change positions. I like some of Lauren's ideas, so I may try some of those. I also make a point to get up to go to the bathroom somewhat often, since that's all I can get up to do.
**Brittany - Don't feel bad
I'm glad some of your swelling has gone down. Maybe if it keeps going down, it won't be so painful. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.
Name - Becca
Due Date - 4/21
Date Placed on Bedrest - 12/18 at 22w1d
Type - strict bedrest at home
Why - disappearing cervix
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- I definitely have these feelings all the time. I guess I gave up getting to be "normal" when I found out I would need fertility treatments to get pregnant. From there on, nothing has gone the way I had pictured. There are times where I am really sad that I don't get to parade my belly around and get special pregnant lady treatment, I don't get to park in the "expectant mom" spot at the grocery store that I've had my eye on for years, I don't get to wear cute maternity clothes, go to the store to pick out things for my babies, etc. But, I got pregnant because I want a family, and in the end I will have that. How I got there will be irrelevant in the end, and nothing is more important than keeping my boys in and growing them as big and strong as I can.
So I guess that is how I deal with it, just knowing that it is all for the good of my babies. It is a few months of my life, but it will matter for every day of theirs.
Updates- I have had lots of visitors, so that has been nice. And on Monday night my aunt is coming from California to take care of me, and I can't wait to see her. So I actually have something to look forward to!
We have done some adjusting in our bedroom. My dad brought over an old chair (actually an upholstered rocking chair that my mom bought when she was pregnant with me for nursing!) from his house that is very comfortable and is next to the bed now so that visitors don't have to climb into bed with me. I also got a little TV table up here to keep snacks and books on, and I have our big HD TV with digital cable, DVR, and our movies. I am set!
**I want to thank all of you for all your support in my post about being hospitalized. It does seriously help to know that everyone is thinking of me (and the boys!).
**Also welcome to the new ladies. I mean, no one wants to be here, but at least we have each other.
**Lauren, I just read about the generous gift. Sometimes people are so kind. It feels good to have people be nice for the sake of being nice and not to get anything out of it, and you are certainly a worthy recipient.
Name - Michelle
Due Date - 4/20
Date Placed on Bedrest - at 14wks
Type - modified bedrest at home
Why - herniated disks in back/now contractions as well
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- Well, to be honest I try not to get too jealous. I try to focus on the fact that some of these women are stuck working X amount of hours a week and never get the time I do to connect with their LO's. I mean, I feel SO close to Olivia. When I get nervous that she's not ok, I put my hands on my belly and ask her to show me she's ok. And every time, I get a kick in response. I feel like we are so connected because for the last 14 weeks I do nothing but talk to her and focus on keeping her safe and sound in my belly. So many women never have those hours and hours to focus on their babies.
But, so you all don't think I'm too saintly, I do get very frustrated sometimes. It's usually when I'm having contractions, throwing up, or my back is rockin bad that I cry and fuss to my husband that it's not fair and I'm scared. But then it usually only takes a few mins to calm down and just be grateful that Livy is ok for the most part and still cookin. But the worst is when you talk to those friends that have the "perfect" easy pregnancy. I do admit to wanting to punch them sometimes. :-)
Updates- Bad and scary night last night. I had tons of contractions that stayed just under the limit for heading into L&D. But I was terrified and couldn't sleep because I was counting contractions and watching the clock...and praying and asking Livy to fight along with me to make them stop. This went on from 8pm till 4am. Yikes! Today I'm sore and tired and been throwing up without warning. Fun!!!! But, I've only had a couple of contractions today and mostly after I throw up.
**Abby...I just wanted to let you know that it may seem like you will never make it as long as you need to go. I was sooo overwhelmed when I found out at 14 wks that untill I gave birth I wouldn't be allowed to stand for more than 10min or lift anything. But, here I am and I've been here for 14wks now. It's passed surprisingly fast and not as painfully as I thought! You'll get to know your LO so well in the time to come and focus on your thoughts and dreams for you baby. Please feel free to let me know if you need some extra support. It's a long way to go, but YOU CAN DO IT!!
**All you lades...I know last week was rough for us all. Here's to starting a new week and let's hope it's a good one for us! The support on the board lately has been wonderful. Let's keep it up and keep these babies cookin!
This was me before I was put on bed rest. I dreaded going back to work after Christmas break because I was SOOOOO stressed and crazy at work. I complained all the time to DH about how I wasn't even able to enjoy being pregnant because I was so stressed about work. I would often feel completely disconnected from my baby and I never had time to concentrate on him. Now I get to concentrate on making sure Sam and I are ok. And, I have plenty of time to connect with him. I guess in a way, my complications have been a blessing, even if it means I'm bored, on an emotional rollercoaster, and I get less or no pay from work.....
michelle - I'm sorry you had such a scary night last night!!! why do the babies/uterus always choose the middle of the night to freak us out??
hoping tonight is better for you.
Name - Mandy
Due Date - 4/8....C-section officially scheduled for April Fool's Day!
Date Placed on Bedrest - 17w (11.2.09)
QOTD--How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer- Well, since my 1st 2 pregnancies were relatively "normal", at least til the mid 30s (32w PTL w/ DD#1 and 34w PTL w/ DD#2), I have experienced that already. That said, I haven't really harbored a ton of jealous feelings, but perhaps that is due to what happened w/ my 2nd pregnancy. I saw another OB for my other two pregnancies, and while I loved her at the time, in hindsight, she didn't monitor me that closely. I didn't gain any weight for the final 12 weeks on my pregnancy, yet never had an ultrasound to check on anything after the 20w. They successfully stopped my PTL @ 34w with drugs and modified bedrest, so we thought we were in the clear. However, when she was born @ 39w, we discovered she had a 2-vessel cord that caused IUGR and she was charting a month behind. We ended up having a week long unanticipated NICU stay. It was awful. With this pregnancy, I guess I am simply grateful that my new doc was MUCH more proactive, and they have perhaps saved my pregnancy (my bleed was internal that was only found through an ultrasound-----I had no symptoms; they were just doing extra monitoring). That said, the bed rest has been extremely hard at times, but I am simply grateful that everything was caught in time.
Update:No new updates. We went to church today, and it was definitely nice to be back.
**Abby**Hang in there sista! Complete bedrest is pretty rough, but you just need to set yourself short-term goals and get a routine down. I really liked having visits from close friends and family, and the time does eventually go by quicker----promise!
**Lisa, not sure if you got my message on my update from last night (I wrote it really late), but I just think you are awesome. Each day you keep those LOs cookin is great! I am right there with you on the muscle soreness/achiness.
**Brittany** Don't you dare feel guilty at all. Pregnancy by nature is a "fragile" thing, and women are on bedrest for lots of different reasons. I think your docs are just being super proactive (which is a GOOD thing)! Hopefully you will be off soon.
**Lauren** That is an AWESOME verse.And I bet that stretching IS Little Buddy growing!!! I know this certainly isn't the way you envisioned your 1st pregnancy going, but you are doing so good! (BTW, if you need any tips on your C-section, feel free to ask!)
**Jennifer** I am so excited to see pics of Baby Sam's nursery. And although I agree about the no baby shower, I know that it's hard. My shower with DD #1 was cancelled b/c of my PTL. We did a "Welcome Baby" party instead and it worked really well. Hang in there!
**Becca** So glad you were able to have visitors----so good for the psyche! And it sounds like you are starting to get adjusted to your new "norm". I didn't realize that your babies were little boys! Adorable! Here's to no more hospital stays for a long while!
**Michelle** I have had multiple nights like you are describing, and I feel for you sooooo much! Hang in there! {{{HUGS}}}
Name - Stephanie
Due Date - 5/27
Date Placed on Bedrest - 1/20 at 22 weeks
Type - bedrest at home
Why - shorting cervix and funneling, now contractions. boo!
Question of the Day - How do you deal with feelings of jealousy of women having normal pregnancies?
Answer: I am not so much jelous of other women or just frustrated with my situation. I get upset that i wanted to grow our family, but never expected triplets and mad at myself and god b/c it is so dangerous and thsi difficult pregnancy is causing so much difficulty for my family. Don;t get me wrong, i love these babies but so frustrated that it means life will be so differnt and harder then we had planned. I hate not being able to take care of DD. I am jelous when i saw moms with their toddler and infant and got to go out and about. I won;t be able to do that, and can't even see the babies room b/c it is up stairs.
But i am also so terrified of the boys coming too early so i try to remind myself that if i want them safe i need to do this.
** I just wanted to say you guys are great. the support and just talking to other moms who are going though the same thing is so helpful! thanks!!!**
Hey ladies, just jumping in real fast.
I posted above about my appointment tomorrow.. scary! Anybody have any advice?
And reading about you ladies and your daily bedrest struggles is so empowering to me. I don't know why.. maybe because you've all been dealing with it for so long (since 14 weeks?! Goodness!) but it really makes it feel like less of a burden. Thanks so much for your support thus far. I appreciate it a lot.